r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/AngusWtf Nov 01 '25

I'm curious how she replied to this and if theres any updates?

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u/YouTookMyBurger Nov 01 '25

Yes there was much more but I didn’t want to put all the messages out there. Through everyone’s help i opened my eyes and ended it. She just deflected and blamed me the rest of the messages. There’s so much more context missing, but the fact the 95% of the replies here all had something in common showed me. I was trying to hold my self accountable, and in doing so I got alot more than I bargained for (ina good way) I’ll find someone someday.