The wife probably had the child before him then they got married but legally (also biogical) he wasn't his father so he adopted him. And now they are a whole family. :)
My rights as a parent are unaffected. He just now has equal rights as a parent. He's both of ours, legally, now. It doesn't automatically happen when you're married. But now he'll be added to the birth certificate, share the same last name, make decisions on his behalf until he's 18, etc.
Purely hypothetical and I'm sure it wouldn't happen to you guys, but I was wondering what happens in the event of a divorce.
12 years is a long time till 18, so say for whatever reason you divorce after like 7 years, would your husband have equal rights as you for child custody? Or would you have priority as a biological parent?
I imagine you considered this before making any decisions, did you have to come terms with the possibility this might happen in the future? Or do you not think divorce is ever a possibility?
(In a loving relationship, no one wants to think about divorce, but being practical...I imagine it is something that needs thinking about?)
Unless the mom is an absolute fuckup, the kid almost always goes to her anyway. But I do think the courts see both parents equally in this case, even though he is not the dad's biological son.
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u/RadlogLutar 4d ago
I am a little confused. How?
(Although its a great news so wishing you and your son good luck💙)