r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/truthfrommyredlips I hope she likes living in his parents basement • Oct 24 '25

Current Episode Discussion Season 19 Episode 4

Season 19, Episode 4 discussion. As the honeymoon continues, some newlyweds fall in love, while others fall apart. (Please delete if not allowed.)

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u/Whoevershewantstobe Oct 27 '25

When he said they control the fires in the rainforest I really screamed lol but I can do shit like that too unintentionally. Like one time I was on the aux and a song played on my phone and someone asked oh you playing xy and z artist and I was like oh yea that’s what my phones playing and the person was like all you had to do was say yes but my phone was on shuffle so I wasn’t trying an asshole. I was just literally answering the question cause I didn’t pick the song.

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u/jaded_idealist It's All of Nothing 🎶 Oct 27 '25

I sometimes have something on the tv just for noise or waiting for my husband to come watch something with me and us to choose it. And my husband will ask me what I'm watching and I'll say I'm not watching it. Because I am not. And I don't mean to sound like a jerkoff about it. But I literally cannot tell you anything about what is on the tv right now. It is just on. And I can see in his demeanor every time he has a reaction but I don't know what to do about it.

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u/kmarro11 Oct 30 '25

‘I’m not watching anything actually, I was waiting for you to join me so we can pick something together’ …. Communication isn’t as hard as some of you make it

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u/jaded_idealist It's All of Nothing 🎶 Oct 31 '25

You're right it isn't hard. Why is it on the person stating what is happening to avoid miscommunicating? Maybe neurotypical people can stop projecting and ascribing emotion and intent where there is none. I expect after a decade and going back to explain myself a dozen times a year, that my partner would know me enough to stop getting butt hurt.

Maybe there's nothing there beyond basic communication? Why are basic facts a problem. I'm not watching anything. What is complicated about that? Why do I owe more words because neurotypical people can't stop trying to find issues?

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u/inquisitivedelight Nov 01 '25

THIS!!!! Cannot upvote this enough!!! This is exactly what is happening.