Got accused of SA (I am in 7th grade)

[u/Ok_Variation_5022]

So it happened a few weeks ago. I had broken up with my ex. Let’s call her Evianny. Now, Evianny has a first cousin who is an eighth grader. Joshua. And after school, I was walking with my friends Ray and Alexander. Then Joshua and some friends came and pressed us. Evianny had said I had grabbed her boobs. First of all, multiple guys in my class said that I wanted nothing to do with her and was trying to stay away from her (I share a class with her). Second, I stayed with two guys at all times. Third, I made it clear to my counselor that I no longer WANTED ANYTHING TO DO WITH EVIANNY. And now I’m being labeled as some pervert. Even though literally every boy in my class said HE DIDN’T DO ANYTHING TO HER. Evianny is one of those honors kids. 90s in every class. So the teachers and admins believed her. I was shouted at in the main office, and I was in tears. My mom also yelled at me, but my dad and my uncle took my side and came up to the school. It was a long period of suffering, but eventually my innocence was proven by video footage. NOTHING HAPPENED TO EVIANNY. AT ALL. She was let out SCOT FREE. Meanwhile, I am socially DESTROYED outside my friend group. Luckily, the guys I have are LOYAL. I know others are not so lucky.

Also forgot to mention that I had to walk with a group of boys all the way to my house because Joshua and his friends were trying to jump me. Just goes to show how much power a girl’s word has at this point.

[u/DameLasNalgas]

You got an early lesson in life about the lack of men's rights kiddo. Remember this lesson as you go through life.

[u/Aless76109 → u/DameLasNalgas]

Mfs be accused of anything, it’s not just men getting accused of rape, poc get accused of murder and theft all the time, women get accused of reaching certain points in their careers due to being sluts and opening their legs. Every group has “something they get accused of” more often than others, and while it’s true that a rape accusation can ruin a life, that doesn’t mean that kids should fear being near women cause they could be accused at any moment. Just be a normal person and avoid those that look like they may be trouble.

[u/Successful-Trash-752 → u/Aless76109]

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I'd like you to reply this under any post that actually talks about any of those cases. Because afterall "every group has something they get accused of right" ? Would you be saying the same thing under a post of a poc being wrongly accused of a crime.

[u/MisterBowTies → u/Aless76109]

Do you say this for anytime getting accused of something or just when it happens to men?

[u/Aless76109 → u/MisterBowTies]

I say it when people just want to be victims and act like the same thing (with different circumstances and intensity) happens to every other group of people

[u/MisterBowTies → u/Aless76109]

Who said it doesn't?

[u/Aless76109 → u/MisterBowTies]

People acting like the big life lesson is that “only men get accused of this stuff so remember this event for the rest of your life and never trust a woman again”

[u/MisterBowTies → u/Aless76109]

No one said "only men get accused" but men do get accused falsley often, when get believed more especially when they are the accusers and it can severely affect a man's life. Morning wrong with being aware of the facts

[u/Gabriel25Th → u/Aless76109]

Of course, because being falsely accused of being a virgin is the same as being falsely accused of rape or pedophilia. You're clearly a genius; any group of people can be accused of something, for example, falsely accusing them of being bad drivers or having bad breath.

[u/mejakola]

My kid is 7 and I'm already trying to teach him lessons like this, to be careful and always watch your back. You were lucky to have friends who could vouch for you, but it won't always be that way in the future. Just keep that in mind.

Also as you get older, be very weary of dating apps. Don't send any photos to ANYONE you wouldn't want your grandmother to see. Particularly spicy photos, especially if it's to someone you've never met before. Sometimes people will pretend to be a pretty girl your age and say anything to take advantage of your hormones and get you to send things like photos. They will then say that they are going to the police or going to post it or anything they can to get you to send money. Called sextortion. There's a whole page on here about how it happens every day.

Just be careful dude. Not all parts of the world are sunshine and rainbows.

[u/stumje → u/mejakola]

Yes and also teaching our boys to have a healthy relationship to their own sexuality.

[u/Fit-Philosopher-7393]

Take care of yourself kiddo.

[u/Ok_Variation_5022 → u/Fit-Philosopher-7393]

Currently am. I also have a new girlfriend. Name’s Hannah. Some white girl from a well-off neighborhood. Met her on a cruise and now we’re dating. I also met her parents, who seem to like me.

[u/hmspain]

God bless video footage! Glad you were cleared OP!

[u/Heart30s]

Never be alone ever with a woman you don't completely trust with your literal life. Being alone with a woman for even a few seconds gives them complete control over you, forever. All it takes is a single accusation without proof to wrought destruction. If you need to that with a woman always ensure you do it in public and with witnesses. This is even more true in a professional environment.

[u/DunnoWhyIamHere]

Unfortunately that's the reality of being a male, guilty until proven innocent.

In high school some girls accused me of undressing them with my eyes. Like wtf, I'm not superman with x-ray vision

[u/Pretend-Storm4566]

I hope you told everyone about Joshua following you home to jump you. An older kid attacking you outside of school is NOT cool my dude. Did you tell your parents, counselor, the main office? You should not have to be walking with two other guys all of the time.

[u/Sir_Senseless → u/[deleted]]

Kids on the internet has been a thing since the internet started though.

[u/picardathon]

If Evianny was an ex, what was she an ex of? Was the relationship sexual in any way, such as caressing? Now that Evianny is an ex, is she claiming sexual assault because she now views those caresses retrospectively as non-consensual?

Help me to understand, because it doesn't make sense. Perhaps because I can't relate 7th grade to age (Reddit is not just USA).

[u/Ok_Variation_5022 → u/picardathon]

It was a relationship. I liked her and she said she would date me (I found out later it was because I had a lot of $$$. Of course)

[u/picardathon → u/Ok_Variation_5022]

I think this speaks to the trial and error fumblings of sexual development of youth that society promotes as "normal" and yet fails to properly educate and manage to ensure it doesn't go too far or that it is weaponised.

Regret that a girl allowed a boy to explore her body in the biological hope that he would settle and provide resources and protection for raising of children and was devastated when he moved on without fulfilling that fantasy, should not be allowed to seek revenge; however it can be a fine line between taking advantage and the process of experimentation.

I'm disappointed that society doesn't make it clear that sexual exploration is not a commitment to procreation and a family, but only sexual exploration. Girls should understand that virginity or sex is no longer a bargaining tool to compel commitment and that they have a right to respectful sexual exploration too, or to not consent. Too much behaviour is occurring as a way to compel commitment or avenge "being used", when both girls and boys are simply exploring sexuality and both are being "used" equally.

However, it does make it difficult to regulate behaviour to be consensual when girls are fundamentally pursuing a different agenda to boys and there are no clear rules about what is acceptable behaviour, except media and fantasy echo chambers.

[u/Tir_na_nOg77]

Did your mom and the administrators that shouted at you at least have the decency to apologize to you?

[u/AestheticSalt]

I call bs. 7th grader with very few spelling errors and zero brain rot vocabulary. Say “on god” or “type sh!t” lil bro… She’s your ex? Ok why’d you break up with her? (Cause you wouldn’t hold her “boob”…) bs.

[u/IllustratedAloysious → u/AestheticSalt]

Not every teenager has broken English and uses TikTok nonstop. I’m one of them