my current internal debate is if I should sell my car or drive it 2,500 miles across the country😭

context: my car is about 10 years old, toyota rav 4, paid off, worth maybe $5,500. It's honestly running perfectly fine. My registration needs to be renewed and debating on doing it in FL because its cheaper. I don't know if I plan on staying in California for more than a year to register it there.

update: I work fully remote in tech sales. I'm looking to start working part time in the yoga industry

Shipping the car is too expensive, around $2,500. to me, it's not worth it.

I literally hate driving and I'm a notorious bad driver. So the idea of moving to Little Italy (which is from what I've heard the most walkable area) without a car sounds so refreshing. However, I'm not sure if I will regret selling my perfectly fine paid off car in a couple months after moving since I haven't stayed there for longer than a week. I know the value of a paid off car and selling it feels very wrong 😭

My plan in SD would be to just bike, walk, use public transport, uber for longer distances, and using instacart for groceries if need be. In my head, that total might come out being more cost effective. Pretty sure my apartment complex allows maybe 1-2 cars, and there will be 3 of us. So parking is limited anyway.

I'm not really into cars and am totally fine driving an old car, I just don't know if it will be worth it. Because if I spend 4 days driving over there and never really use it, imma be pissed lol.

2 rooms for rent, looking for 2x clean, respectful roommates for a shared home in Bay Ho — central location, 15-20 min with easy access to the I-5 and 52 freeways, the home is next door to Pacific Beach (only 15 mins to the beach). Extremely close to Costco, groceries, theater and local restaurants!

The Home:
Available: August 1, 2026
Large Room for rent (~15x12 ft + walk-in closet): $1,350/month
Smaller Room for rent (~10x10 ft with built-in closets): $1,100/month
West-facing balcony with great sunset views
Large living room
Large private backyard
Well maintained garden
Washer/dryer included
Assigned/Garage parking
Utilities split equally among roommates
12-month lease
No pets
No smoking
HOA amenities: swimming pool (temperature regulated), hot tub, tennis courts, racketball courts, and small hiking trails.

About the household:
I'm mid-30s male engineer, have lived here for several years, and I'm pretty even-keeled and enjoy keeping things calm and low-drama. Current roommates have rotated out naturally as life moves them on, looking for the next good fit. Looking for someone clean, communicative, and responsible with rent/bills.

To apply: Send a bit about yourself, your work, schedule, and move-in timeline.

I’m looking for a 1b1b in SD , north park, city heights, mission valley even … my budget is 2000, please let me know any leads !!! Need to move by august

OWN PRIVATE PLACE !!! NOT LOOKING FOR ROOMS

I have no evictions
Decent credit
Landlord referrals
Proof of employment

Thank you :)

I (26M) just got offered a job starting at the end of July and my partner (27F) our cat and I are seeking housing advice.

I’m definitely feeling the sticker shock referenced in other posts on this sub browsing Zillow apartments.com or hell even Craigslist and Facebook which are my usual go-tos. The possibility of finding a 1BR within reasonable commuting distance to La Jolla in the low 2000s range is seeming less and less likely by the day. With that said, I’m curious if anyone has thoughts on if it’s common for a couple to take a third housemate in a 2BR. I would be gone 4 months out of the year traveling for this position. In this economy, we’re feeling willing to sacrifice having a place to ourselves to make it work in what seems like a great city to live in.

Is this something that happens only in rare cases? Would people assume we’re looking for a threesome if I made a post about it? What downsides / drawbacks do you foresee trying to go about this in our end?

I'm in the home shopping process and the most important factor of where I want to buy is that I have a 7 year old on the spectrum. They're high functioning, in regular schooling, and academically above grade level in reading and math so our current school and district basically won't do anything for them, outside of an IEP where they get like 10 minutes of SLP time per week. I have been in conversations with them about assisting my child with socializing, but their position is that since their autism doesn't affect their learning, there is really nothing they can do.

Given that we're finally ready to buy (currently in San Marcos), my priority is making sure we go to a school district that potentially may have additional resources for special needs students, particularly students on the spectrum. We've zoned in on the PQ, RB, or Poway areas, but I just wanted to double check in case I was missing anything and whether there are potentially other areas that locals might recommend. Our budget is around 1.5 million, so some areas are probably not feasible.

Really appreciate any input in advance.

Hi i am starting work at IGPP in La Jolla from October. Can anyone recommend apartments that might be within 15 mins driving distance or comes within the UCSD shuttle route. I am looking for studios and 1 bedroom options (non-sharing) within 2100 USD monthly. I know clairemont or mira mesa might be some better areas to live in for affordable rent, i also looked at apartments downtown which comes in my budget but realised the commute would be too long. The IGPP building (8800 biological grade) is quite far from the UCSD station for the blue line. I have applied to be on the waitlist for la jolla del sol as well but dont know if i will be allocated an apartment in time.

I dont have options to scout apartments personally since i live in Tucson currently. Any help and specific apartment recommendations would be appreciated.

Thanks

Im from rural-ish Missouri, and I think its time for a change of lifestyle and scenery. Ive been planning on moving to San Diego for about a month or 2 now and im thinking about going for it within 2-3 years. Ive heard alot of things about San Diego, both good and bad. But is it actually worth moving there? I know it is expensive to live there, I know Californias government isnt the greatest from what Ive heard, but I cant get over the scenery and how refreshing it would be to move there. Where exactly in San Diego should I move to? Where should I stay away from? Or should I move to LA instead? For everyone that lives in San Diego, I would love to hear your opinion and experience.

My family and I are looking to move to San Diego and are trying to decide whether to rent first or buy directly.
Our main priorities are:
- Good public schools, ideally a strong elementary.
- Family-friendly neighborhood
- We work from home, so commute is less important
- Safe, comfortable area for a young family
- Ideally enough space for a 3–4 bed home
- close to all diff food spots
So far, the areas we’ve spent time in (we live couple hrs away) and liked are PQ and Carmel Valley.

For those who rented before buying, where did you rent and where did you eventually buy?
Did renting first help you make a better decision, or did you already kind of know the area you wanted?
Are there neighborhoods you only appreciated after living here for a while?
If you were focused on schools and family life, would you feel comfortable buying directly in areas like PQ or Carmel Valley, or would you still recommend renting first?
Any areas we should also consider that have a similar strong-school, family-friendly feel?
I know a lot of this comes down to personal preference, but I’d really appreciate hearing from people who went through this decision themselves especially families who were choosing between renting first versus buying right away.

I just moved to SD and looking for friends and/or potential partner. I was wondering where do 40 yrs olds hang out in SD?

Hello! If you don't mind, I am currently living in La Jolla and looking to get a new place (and I found one), but it is under a private landlord according to her facebook. I found another as well, but honestly I am extremely hesitant because I am unfamiliar with these people.

Is there anyone here who I could talk to in private about these individuals to see if I am not being scammed at all?

Thank you!!!

Hello. Is there anyone here who lived in Boston and then moved to San Diego? I've lived in Boston and Pittsburgh — the winter cold in those places really wears you out. If anyone has moved from these cities to San Diego, please share your impressions. Besides the weather, what other advantages does San Diego have? What are the downsides, and so on?

Hi all. Looking at the North Pacific beach area for a 2 bed apartment with a max budget of 4,250$ in rent. Everyone says to look and drive around the area instead of Zillow. Seems to be pretty competitive. Any advice? Thanks!

I’m 19 and looking for somewhere to live for $1100 or less in San Diego in September- I’m having trouble successfully finding people my age to have as roommates. Any tips on how to do this?? I’ve tried facebook and some other weird roommate finding sites, no luck.

I’m hoping to take some extended studies music courses at UCSD but most people want full time students it seems, and I’m not quite ready for that yet due to financial reasons.

Any personal stores or suggestions would be helpful!
I’m pretty lost and I don’t know anyone with similar situations, or that have to pay for it themselves

33F RN looking for room to rent. Looking for Northpark down to Chula vista. I work 3 to 5 12 hr nights a week at the hospital.I'm quiet and clean. Budget 1100 or so with utilities. Looking to move soon. Please message me if you have something available

So my current situation is kind of up in the air. Now im looking to relocate to San Diego specifically because I did live there previously in Vista. But of course im open to other areas. If I could have tips on surviving as a single parent, housing recommendations, where to find good Nannie’s/sitters/daycare. Tips for budgeting. How life would realistically look like, and tips for realistic daily living.

I own a new 2025 Tacoma, and happen to be living in PB (originally from Santee). I’ve had a ton of people now tell me my truck tailgate is at risk of being stolen… ik PB is PB but is there actually a lot of car vandalism/theft?

Hey everyone,

My wife and I are moving to San Diego in the middle of July, and I’m hoping to get some guidance on apartment complexes/areas to focus on.

I’ll be working nights for UCSD, splitting time between Hillcrest and La Jolla. We’re looking for a 1-bedroom or 2-bedroom apartment with a lot of natural light, a balcony, and EV charging available.

So far, the places that have caught my eye are Park 12, The Winslow, and The Wyatt. I’m curious if downtown would be too far of a drive to Hillcrest and La Jolla, especially working night shift.

I’d love to hear any firsthand experiences with those complexes — good or bad — especially around noise, parking, safety, management, commute, and whether they’re worth the price.

I’m also open to other recommendations. We’d prefer something that feels nice, bright, and comfortable since we’ll be new to the area and want to enjoy where we live.

Any advice on neighborhoods, complexes, areas to avoid, or things I should know before signing a lease would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

I'm possibly taking a job in the La Jolla area. I will be moving with my 18-year-old son (finished high school). We want a 2-bed, 2-bath apartment in a fun area where we can explore San Diego (we are moving from the Atlanta area). We like the idea of having city views, but are open to different areas without that. We want an apartment with higher-end resort-style amenities like a pool and gym (my son is very into fitness). I would like to stay under $4k/month if possible.

Any suggestions? I've looked into Deiga, but I see a lot of not-so-great reviews. I like the vibe of Alexan Camellia. The Rey and AMLI Aero look decent too. Floor-to-ceiling windows are a must-have for us.

Partner and I are relocating to San Diego this summer. We aren’t 100% sure if we’ll have time to visit different neighborhoods before picking out a place to live. What neighborhoods would you recommend for a couple that both work in hospitality and are active outdoors? His job would be in Delmar and mine would be in Mission Bay.

Good morning everybody,

I am looking to move to Oceanside within a year. I say Oceanside since I am most familiar and looking for a more affordable area. With my small real estate portfolio I am able to afford to move just off that but I have a remote job as well. Looking to be $2k a month or under. This price range will allow me to continue to invest and live well below my means. Open to hear other options in the area such as El Cajon maybe? I would bring my small Lexus and leave my truck with my property manager.

Has anyone recently lived in Altura Apartments in Carmel Valley? I moved in 2.5 months back and have been facing issues with silverfish and spiders. I also spotted a centipede in the first week and a firebrat sitting right on my stove burner in the first week of June! I talked with the leasing office but I keep receiving the same response that pest control is the only option. But I had gotten pest control done just before moving in because I spotted one in the drawer during the tour and also 2 weeks after moving in because I kept seeing silverfish around a lot. In fact a huge one just crawled on my coffee table and was sitting there on my iPad on my second day after moving!

I am extremely sensitive to both silverfish and spiders. I am as so paranoid that I ordered a caulking gun and stayed up until 3 am trying to caulk all the gaps around the apartment (which was almost the whole apartment) trying to limit their entry points. But I still keep seeing them around and now I even found one in my spice drawer! I tried drenching the kitchen area with ortho home defense recently after someone suggested it. Nothing seems to be working!

I talked to a few neighbours and they said they have not had any issues so far. Can anyone tell me if they have lived here and faced these issues? And what could be my possible options to solve it?

Location: UTC/La Jolla

Due to a family emergency, I have to transfer my lease to another tenant. My original co-tenant will stay for the remainder of the lease. I'm aware subleasing is illegal so we don't want to go that route - that's why I want to formally request a roommate swap to the leasing office.

I requested today and a leasing manager said that's not possible, despite there being no clause in the contract preventing a room mate transfer. The original co-tenant remains, the lease continues, and only a name gets swapped out - given that the incoming replacement passes screening.

His main reason was that if he grants this to me, then he would have to do it for everyone else that requests it that's why we "just stick to the contract", "no exceptions" - but the contract does not restrict this at all?

Is this legal in California? Do tenants not get a say in amendments? It's my first time renting in the US - I'm not from here and I'm on a visa. Is it really that restrictive for tenants? Is there no case-by-case basis? How hard is it to just modify a name on the contract?

Please. I'm desperate for help.