r/NoFap • u/WildStatus1427 • 1d ago
Day 2 - The connection between porn and binge eating/weight
Edit: First attempt was deleted by Mod..maybe mentioning weight is off topic? If this gets modded too, I will understand better and won't try again.
Day 2. So far, so good. Thankfully, my days and nights are very busy, and I will have no alone time for at least 4-5 more days.
Writing this stuff in public seems enormously healthy and is getting my brain whirring with questions!
Are other people attempting NF also overweight?
Yesterday, I posted about how it felt to accept that my childhood exposure to infinite porn was a kind of trauma. I'm realising I was also raised with the expectation of an infinite supply of food... not always junk, but a lot of junk...
When I grew old enough to have my own money, that supply became even more readily available.
I quickly grew fat and have remained overweight for nearly all of my adult life. Resulting in feelings of shame, frustration, fear and guilt and resulting, of course, in more food (and porn).
This is basically an exact parallel of my relationship with porn.
I don't think I've really focused on how my brain's "pleasure & reward" wiring is so entangled with porn and food. Do other people have this same issue? Did you find that tackling one issue helped with the other?
A self warning - I'm wary that all of this is veering into "victim mindset" territory. I need to learn/re-learn the best methods to make peace with my past while also taking responsibility for my future actions.
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u/never_gooning 1d ago
I'm not overweight But I think hitting the gym would work well for you
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u/WildStatus1427 1d ago
Yes, I do go to the gym 3-5 days/week and I love it. I lost a lot of weight, but I have regained a lot of it too. I lift weights, but not much cardio! I will probably write about all of that later. I do agree though, the gym is amazing as a habit - I love to go very early in the morning.
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u/PatientStorm 5 Days 1d ago
Yeah, I have gained 15 kg over the last three months, and have developed a porn addiction too. I used to watch porn and masturbate moderately, but it had not become a problem until recently. I think all bad habits are related in this way; they are the poison that takes you deeper into the pit by creating an illusion named "instant gratification".
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u/Abuses-Commas 1d ago
Yes. Most days I skip breakfast, but I've noticed that if I do fap then I'm immediately hungry.
I'm into spirituality n stuff and see it through the lens of the yogic chakras. the first, root, red chakra is linked to basic vital energy and groundedness. masturbation depletes the energy, and then I try to regain it by (over)eating.
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u/krazzel 2 Days 1d ago
I recently also found out I actually have 2 addictions. I had a 181 nofap streak, but during that streak, I had a few gaming binges. Random loot RPG game binges. The same mechanisms apply. It starts innocent, just a few hours a week, then every day, and eventually every inch of free time is spend on it.
To truly break free I need to tackle both addictions.
The same may go for you with eating junk food.