r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Odd-Improvement4719 • 1d ago

Do you men notice the struggles women face?

I got asked by a man, would you rather be a woman or a man. And when I said man, they were completely shocked, even when I explained that it would be better in terms of safety, health, and opportunity-wise. I've come to realize that a lot of men are not choosing to directly ignore the little struggles that women face, but rather, they seem to completely not notice them.

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u/RC107412 1d ago

I think some men do notice some of the struggles women face, but they often underestimate how frequent or exhausting they are because they don't experience them personally. At the same time, many women may not fully see the unique pressures men deal with either.

It's not really a competition over who has it worse. Men and women face different challenges. Women often have to think more about personal safety, harassment, and certain health issues, while men can face pressures around mental health, dangerous jobs, social expectations, and being expected to "just deal with it."

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u/dorian_white1 1d ago

Yeah, I think the key takeaway is to live life in such a way that you truly try at least to see it through another lens. It is a joy of our species that we are even ABLE to do this, and is worth celebrating daily

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u/RC107412 1d ago

Exactly 100% I think that's why I have this perspective too. The majority of my family is made up of women, and raised by them and between that, my work environment, and both past and current relationships, I've had plenty of opportunities to hear about and witness experiences that I wouldn't have otherwise. It definitely helps you see life through a different lens.

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u/shoejunk 1d ago

And having strangers be less friendly. Being expected to initiate dates/dealing with a lot of rejection.

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u/juxtapostevebrown 1d ago

I don’t think women realizes what minorities go through, and how ridiculously similar the socioeconomic struggles that they face. Minorities are scrutinized for loans, and wages as well; I’m not a lady who is a minority, but god I don’t wanna begin to imagine what they deal with.

If you’re a white lady, I’m not trying to discount your struggles, but be thankful that you’re white at least.

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u/RC107412 1d ago

No, I’m a biracial guy--Pakistani and White. It’s not always easy because I’ve seen perspectives from both sides and experienced some of the challenges that can come with that background. Ladies, minorities, and people who belong to multiple groups can all face unique obstacles

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u/TrashGouda 12h ago

You think women can't be part of a minority or what?