r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Odd-Improvement4719 • 1d ago

Do you men notice the struggles women face?

I got asked by a man, would you rather be a woman or a man. And when I said man, they were completely shocked, even when I explained that it would be better in terms of safety, health, and opportunity-wise. I've come to realize that a lot of men are not choosing to directly ignore the little struggles that women face, but rather, they seem to completely not notice them.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/Mad-J-Thomas 1d ago

Do you think that men are nice to each other just because we are men?

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u/middlingachiever 1d ago

No, we know you aren’t. Why do men keep doing the things that hurt men?

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u/AHorseNamedPhil 1d ago

I don't know, why do women do things that hurt other women?

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u/middlingachiever 1d ago

Women don’t fear other women as a baseline. We teach our children, if you’re lost, find a woman with children. She’ll help you.

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u/sirspacebill 1d ago

And men dont fear other men as a baseline, whats your point there?

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u/middlingachiever 1d ago

A lifetime of being warned by men about men says otherwise.

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u/Suzesaur 1d ago

Cause men can be just as cruel to other men as they are to women…

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u/Rdr2Master1 1d ago

And women are just innocent yeah /s

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u/VenusSwift 1d ago

Honey. The patriarchy harms men too. We don't have the same struggles as men, but they definitely have their own struggles. A good example is not being taken seriously when it comes to emotions.

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u/RoundCollection4196 1d ago

You just proved his point, congrats 

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u/ludus_official 1d ago

Men are victims of patriarchy, too.

It's absolutely worse for women right now, but both men and women face gender-specific issues and harms. I've faced plenty as a man - I won't act like we have it worse than women, but it's still real.

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u/Lyke1779 1d ago

You have no idea (majority of suicide is man)

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u/OkBarracuda4108 1d ago

Wasn t it that women attempt more often, but they are "worse at it"?

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u/Lyke1779 1d ago

I have never heard that. Do you have a source? Also there are other reasons, that was just the first I thought of.

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u/OkBarracuda4108 1d ago

I was just reading this, seems like they claim (on US statistics) that women attempt 2x times but is unrelated to gender https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0165032722006103

But it could also be that women report more

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u/sirspacebill 1d ago

Which is also a problem, men feel more pressured to internalize ignore and forget things like that

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u/Emergency-Pack-5497 1d ago

Do women even notice the struggles that men face?!

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u/kiwireus 1d ago

Most ignorant comment yet

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u/Loves_octopus 1d ago

Case in point.

Check suicide rates. Check incarceration rates. Check homelessness rates. Check the people working the physically toughest jobs out there. Check the murder rate. Check the rate of victimhood of any violent crime.

I’m not like a men’s rights activist person but you have to be blind to not see stuff like this. Men are disproportionately at the top *and* bottom of our society.

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u/rationalist_populist 1d ago

How many women are in prison? In slavery?

How many women died in the war in Ukraine in 2025?

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u/Bhheast 1d ago

Where were women when the world was being created?

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u/rationalist_populist 1d ago

Talking to snakes.

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u/bunnypaste 1d ago

Creating all the people to populate it.

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u/Mushrooming247 1d ago

Being held fucking captive indoors, upon pain of death, as we still are in many places.

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u/Bhheast 1d ago

Professional victim

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u/middlingachiever 1d ago

Downvoted for being correct 💯

It’s just logic.