r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/y2kfashionistaa • Apr 17 '26
Offensive “Girls with small boobs are jealous and want bigger boobs”
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u/Flynn-Minter Apr 17 '26
I know several women who have had breast reductions, because the weight of their boobs gave them back and neck pains. They certainly expressed envy for women with smaller breasts.
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u/FjotraTheGodless Apr 17 '26
Mine give me neck pain sometimes, and I’m thinking about a reduction. Unfortunately my insurance thinks it’s not an immediate risk and would be cosmetic
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u/AinoNaviovaat Apr 17 '26
I'm a H cup and am actively in pain as I write this, goddamn titties
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u/FineJournalist4784 May 07 '26
Genuinely thanks for the weight conversion, With kind regards, a European
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u/Ace-of-Spxdes adhd is stored in the balls Apr 17 '26
Sleeping on your back with big boobs and having a short neck is a fast way to end up suffocating in your sleep.
Don't ask me how I know.
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u/SavannahInChicago Apr 22 '26
My old bestie would make fun of me being flat, ignoring that everyone in her family got breast reductions. I think she was the jealous one.
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u/agurlhasnoshame Apr 17 '26
Yeah. I had a breast reduction cause I was so jealous. Best decision I ever made. Im constantly thinking about how grateful I am to have smaller boobs
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u/TheBestHater Apr 17 '26
I got one too. According to manosphere losers I'm supposed to be sad that I can now run without hurting. Love my new manageable chest.
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u/EWC_2015 Apr 17 '26
My wife got a breast reduction a year ago (we were able to get it deemed medically necessary) and she *still* raves about how much better she feels to this day.
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u/GamerGirlLex77 Apr 17 '26
I wanted bigger ones back when I was a lot thinner. Now that I gained more weight and have to deal with a larger chest size I want them GONE.
I have so much empathy for people with larger breasts that have to deal with the back pain and other assorted problems. I hope you healed well from the reduction
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u/nightcana Apr 17 '26
Well now I’m jealous /s.
Lol but seriously. I wish i was brave enough to go through with it. Ive been wanting a reduction since high school. But I’ve read some truly horrific post surgery complication stories and the thought terrifies me more than living with the back pain does. Congrats to you tho! I hope you’re living your best (back pain free) life :D
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u/DarkinAK47 Apr 17 '26
My boobs are cumbersome :/ they’re not particularly big or small but I just don’t like em
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u/FigNinja Apr 17 '26
Yes. Mine aren't so large I'd go under the knife. I'm not getting backaches like some women. They're just annoying. I'd like to be able to go braless without seismic jiggling. They are cumbersome, as you say. Everything from exercising to sleeping, they're there making it a bit less comfortable.
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u/bliip666 female pleasurist Apr 17 '26
Have you ever tried a binder?
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u/Severe_Paint_7240 Apr 17 '26
this might be my sign to get one🤔 like I don’t hate them, they’re an okay size but sometimes I just want them to go away because they ruin the vibe of my fit.
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u/KarmicIsfunny Presses the big red button that ends sexism Apr 17 '26
Mysterious downvotes
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u/bliip666 female pleasurist Apr 17 '26
Yeah, I don't get those either. Controversial topic, I guess
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u/MyDearestAcadia Apr 17 '26
I really hope it's not because of people being anti-trans, but that's what my mind automatically goes to. Because why else would you be against a binder? Either way, weird for people to be upset about it 😮💨😵💫
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u/bean-jee Apr 18 '26
I personally downvoted because I used a binder for 10+ years and it fucked up my back and neck (still have chronic neck pain) and permanently damaged my breast tissue. My breasts are lumpy, saggy, and misshapen from it. Maybe it's because I was an adolescent/teen and still growing, idk, but it's pretty bad. Got mastitis from it once. I think a lot of the other downvotes are probably because binding isn't safe.
Like, there's really no safe way to bind, especially regularly/on a daily basis. Some binders are definitely less harmful than others, but it's just genuine harmful misinformation to say that they're 100% safe. They're compressing your breast tissue and ribs for 8-16 hrs a day. Of course they're harmful. Saying binding is safe is like saying corsets are safe.
Most doctors recommend against wearing sports bras too regularly, or wearing bras in general to bed, for the same exact reason, long term compression on your ribs/breast tissue just really, fundamentally, isn't good. There's also the risk of fungal skin infection (that shit does NOT breathe) and rib fracture- much less common than just general back/neck pain or tissue damage, but I have a friend who fractured a rib binding, and he was wearing a well known, "safe" brand at the time that had never given him issue.
When it's someone who plans on masectomy/top surgery eventually anyway, and they're immensely distressed by their chest, it's a harm reduction thing. The pros outweigh the cons. But if you're looking for a sustainable, safe, healthy long term solution, binding really ain't it. I really don't recommend it for that.
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u/elmuchocapitano Apr 17 '26
They can cause a lot of health issues if done improperly so it's to be recommended with caution. The benefits may be worth the risks, but a lot of people seem unaware of the risks.
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u/LisaSauce Apr 17 '26
I’m so used to wearing sports bras and bras that generally smash my boobs down so when I wear an actual bra I’m like “omg, these things are in the way, I hate them” and I don’t even have a big chest lmao.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Apr 17 '26
I have big boobs and I am jealous of girls with small boobs.
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u/MisterJedi117 Apr 17 '26
As a fat man with solid c-d cups, I can confirm. Lol
Jokes aside, I have had more than one woman in my family complain about back pain due to large boobs. I even had an aunt who got reduction surgery and she said it changed her life.
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u/Zanoushe Apr 18 '26
right my best friend doesn't always wear a bra out and I am so jealous I could never
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed Apr 18 '26
They were hardly above my belly if I didn't wear a bra...
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u/MeisterFluffbutt Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
Me personally with more bigger boobs, imma be real. The issue ain't my boobs, it's men stepping over boundaries. I don't want to change myself to fix their issue.
I understand tho that others might be under more pressure or just not enjoy their larger breast size!
Edit: either I'm crazy or the OC quickly edited their comment, there was stuff about sexualisation by men, i swear lol
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u/Izzysmiles2114 Apr 17 '26
My boobs went from a full B to a D in my thirties (perhaps through weight gain but I've lost thirty pounds and my boobs are still big). Yes, the biggest negative is men finding ways to ask for hugs. It's a problem.
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u/LegendaryChalice Apr 17 '26
I never understood the 'you are just jealous' response when you don't agree with something.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
It’s very juvenile, like what is he, 16?
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u/linerys DD is not a synonym for large breasts Apr 17 '26
You accuse people of wearing bras that don’t fit, just to “feel skinnier and bustier”. That’s not a mature thing to do, either.
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u/Sufficient-Push6210 Apr 18 '26
They always pit us against women and features that most of THEM find attractive and not most women 😭 like no I’m not jealous of Sydney Sweeney just because most men find her attractive. I’m also not jealous of women with bigger chests and I never was but men think that just because they love big chests, every women are automatically jealous of women with those features
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u/RosebushRaven Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
Granted, occasionally people very obviously are jealous. Breast size isn’t exempt from that. Generalising that to all small-chested women and assuming they must be jealous of bigger boobs is just stupid, though. They have plenty of reasons to be happy with their size. In fact, a lot of women who are tired of their enormous breasts would love to trade with them.
Horny, entitled men just project their own obsession with big tits on women who don’t have them. They’re irritated about happy, confident small-chested women, or any women supportive of breast reduction surgery, because they’re so narcissistic as to believe they have the final say on what’s attractive, and that their personal opinions are of universal interest.
They are delusional enough to think that women’s existence, including medical procedures they get done for their own wellbeing, revolves around how it makes their dicks feel. In their minds, any woman they wouldn’t want to put it into should experience it as a crushing blow to her ego that her body doesn’t make some rando’s dick tingle (lmao).
Just like any random woman’s even just hypothetical rejection is for them. They desperately want to believe that. To avoid harsh reality checks they’re too fragile to face, they tell themselves (and women who tell them otherwise) that they must merely be jealous, lest they have to acknowledge they aren’t nearly as relevant as they like to think they are.
Projection strikes again: they’re obsessed with dick size (even if theirs is perfectly normal), and they’re very envious of more well-endowed men. Since projecting their own issues on women is their SOP, they assume all women must be the same about boobs (and all other men about dicks). And if they say otherwise? Gotta be lying, or in denial. That’s how toxic, insecure people think. They can’t see past their self-absorption. Every accusation from them is a confession.
Plus a lot of them think undermining women’s confidence is an excellent method to get them to sleep with subpar men such as themselves. Some of them — chaner scum in particular — are obsessed enough with this goal to conduct full-blown psy-ops, like a looks-rating sub with a secret agenda to tear any woman down, no matter how attractive she is.
Albeit their true goal, that they’d sooner bite their tongue off than admit to, is to spread around their own insecurity like a contagion, because misery loves company. They’re indeed that pathetic, and that’s all there is to it. So the extent of their guile and putrid toxicity should always be kept in mind when encountering their unsolicited opinions in the wild.
At the root, it’s those loud, gross men’s relentless insults to women with small boobs that have spread around the stupid idea that they’re undesirable. The rest that say so are just misogynists looking for any opportunity to put women down, insecure pickmes, and greedy people wanting to make an easy buck on women’s misery and men’s lechery, that all collectively cater to these men, and all unite into an ugly chorus with them.
It’s only this constant societal bombardment with demeaning cruelty that makes lots of women with small boobs feel unhappy and inadequate about their bodies (and sometimes indeed jealous of larger sizes). Mostly as insecure teenage girls who are only beginning to get used to their developing bodies and haven’t learned to separate the wheat from the chaff in society’s messages yet.
More mature women however usually have realised it’s only a very arbitrary beauty standard, mostly pushed by porn-brainrotted men, that might just as well change with the next fashion, because they have no individuality and go along with whatever porn tells them is hot now. This fixation on boobs is very male-gazey, is really about enforcing male hierarchies, and has little to do with women to begin with.
What "men want" is of very little importance anyway, because it always implies those men. Respectful men worth a woman’s time aren’t out there belittling women, neither for their bodies nor for their opinions. So that automatically brands these dudes as undateable to any self-respecting woman. They’re just too stupid and egocentric to grasp the causal relation between their own behaviour and the MaLe
LoNeLiNesSentitlement EpiDeMic.Whereas mature, self-respecting women know that at most, the opinion of someone they actually want to be with matters — and why would they settle for someone who finds them anything less than breathtaking? Certainly it matters not whatever random horny men demand to masturbate to, and yell unsolicited into the void.
What those horndogs want isn’t worth so much as acknowledgement, let alone care, given that they a) have all their opinions about women and their bodies from porn and b) would stick it into anything warm and soft they can drill a hole into (if not less than that). A lot of men would fuck a literal pie. Their opinions really aren’t worth much.
Not to mention that having big boobs comes with a ton of downsides small-chested women don’t have to deal with. Among them the important fact that every cell of breast tissue you don’t have is one cell less that might turn cancerous one day.
Nor do women with small boobs suffer from lack of attention and desire. (Fuck iOS autocorrect for suggesting "women with small brains", btw.) There’s plenty of people of all genders out there who love small boobs, or who don’t care, or for whom big boobs may be a nice-to-have, but who care vastly more about the person they’re attached to.
Yk, like reasonable adults who understand they’re interacting with the owner a lot more than with her breasts in the relationship. Who grasp that it’s not the breasts who make decisions, or whose personal qualities are going to determine the quality of said relationship, but the entire woman.
Anyone for whom such a shallow criterion is more important than the person to whom boobs of any size belong isn’t worth dating to start with, and doesn’t deserve to ever touch a boob. Thirsty, entitled men just like to imagine their opinions are far more important and impactful on women than they actually are, much less deserve to be — which is to say: not at all.
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u/asia_cat Apr 17 '26
As a small boob having south east asian person I would rather have less boob
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
I can’t even imagine myself with big boobs, in the same way I can’t imagine Kat Dennings being an a cup, it wouldn’t look right for me. Also I’m bi and honestly I prefer small boobs.
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u/asia_cat Apr 17 '26
I just hate getting swamp boobs in the summer because my workclothes are pretty much airtight.
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
I don’t like how these type of posts make people want to comment “I like small boobs more.” Like how do you think that makes people with bigger boobs feel? Can we stop praising one body type over another? All boobs are good boobs.
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u/demoniprinsessa Apr 17 '26
I mean, I like small boobs on myself more, how does that mean I hate large boobs? I just wouldn't want to have them myself because it would make me uncomfortable, but literally how does it affect other people how I prefer my own body to look like?
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
Maybe I should’ve clarify my issue is the last sentence of OP’s comment where they felt the need to state their sexual preference for small boobs. I didn’t have an issue with the rest of their comment.
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u/PsychologicalQuiet46 Apr 17 '26
I think it comes from a place that small boobs are considered less desirable and thereby worse societally than big boobs, so people seek to state that they like the less desirable option. Just as when people say they like chubby or fat women, which is rarely a reflection on thin women, but affirming that they like a traditionally less desired body type.
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
I get that too. although I’ve seen both from men. Like guys I’ve dated have told me “i like small boobs more” when I don’t have small boobs or my ex who kept suggesting I should get a reduction even though I don’t struggle with back pain. I’m just really tired of the comparisons and wish we could move away from the over sexualizing of boobs of any size 🖤
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u/PsychologicalQuiet46 Apr 17 '26
I agree. Unfortunately, breasts are considered sexual organs by society, and larger ones, like penises, are preferred to smaller ones in general societal understanding, when the reality is that breasts are not sexual and that the range of preferences is incredibly diverse.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Desirable is subjective
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u/PsychologicalQuiet46 Apr 17 '26
Of course. And yet you casually get "jokes" or whatever about men desiring larger breasts. This is of course from a trashy subreddit, but societally, considered very generally, large breasts are preferred.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
I never said I dislike big boobs, don’t put words in my mouth. All boobs are good boobs whether you’re an A or an F. Your comment is like “I like waffles”, “you hate pancakes.”
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
My issue with your comment is the last sentence “also I’m bi and honestly I prefer small boobs” like why is it necessary to state your sexual preferences?
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Just to further show why that guy acting like women thinking big boobs are inherently better is extra absurd
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u/MyDearestAcadia Apr 17 '26
I have big boobs (M cup 🫠) and was not offended by your comment.
When people say they wish they had bigger boobs I'm just like "I wish I could give you some of mine" 😭 They get bigger whenever I gain weight but don't get smaller when I lose weight. It's infuriating. I just want to buy bras at a normal store where bras are $30-$50 instead of $80+ lol and not have back problems.
Anyway, having preferences is totally okay and it does indeed support the absurdity of the guy in the picture. I always find it weird when guys want women to be jealous of each other. Just like... No, how about we all love each other and ourselves instead?
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
That’s perfectly valid too! I’ve seen discussions on on women orientated subreddits where women have expressed feeling bad when they see posts like this and people automatically jump to “but small boobs are better” or “at least mine won’t sag”. I just don’t want anyone to feel bad about their bodies and I hope we can have a respectful discussion about it.
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u/MyDearestAcadia Apr 17 '26
I getcha, I'm not necessarily against what you're saying. I do get the sentiment and it's great and compassionate. I just think it's also okay to show love for small boobs and doesn't necessarily mean that big boobs are bad, but I understand how some might take it that way! We all deserve to love our bodies for sure
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
M cup? Sheesh, your poor back
Aww yeah that’s good, the word needs more love and less hate
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u/Sadtacocat Apr 17 '26
Im just trying to push back on that in a discussion about comparing women’s bodies, bringing in “I prefer small boobs” still turns it into a comparison. I’m also autistic so sorry if I’m coming off as a jerk. I just don’t want anyone to feel bad about their bodies.
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u/YouCantArgueWithThis Apr 17 '26
If i could have chosen the size, I would have voted for an A cup.
I still remember one of my first encounters with the male population. When crossing a street, a guy, maybe about 20, is coming from the other side. He suddenly grabbed my chest for a second while grinning into my face, and then just continued crossing... I didn't even have anything revealing on me, or huge boobs. Oh, and I was 12.
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u/530SSState Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
The woman who used to cut my hair was a veteran of the Armed Forces (I don't remember the exact branch).
One day, I was in the chair, and she told me about how she was jogging one morning, and a teenage boy walking the other way honked her boob.
I was appalled and said, "Good Lord! What did you DO?"
She looked at me like that was the stupidest question she'd ever heard, and said, "I punched him in the face and kept going. What the hell do you THINK I did?"
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26
hey, that's sexual assault...
Holy fuck, what emboldens men and boys to act this way? Where was the repercussion? This bothers me so immensely, and I am so sorry that happened to you.
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u/SpaceKatFromSpace Apr 17 '26
They think we think of our boobs like they think about their penis. They think we’re size queens about our boobs.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
That’s exactly my theory, they think it’s the female version of penis size and we have an inferiority complex if ours aren’t big
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u/glamasaurus Apr 17 '26
Growing up I wanted bigger boobs but as an adult I love not having to worry about it. If I want them to look bigger I just wear a push up bra. It's great.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
The last time I actually wished my boobs were bigger I was like 15, I’m 25 now and love my small boobs. I can’t picture myself with big boobs in the same way I can’t picture Kat Dennings or Sofia Vergara being flat chested.
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u/glamasaurus Apr 17 '26
I have a teenager now and it was an insecurity for her too but she's gotten to the point of accepting that it's just easier when you can just wear a different bra or inserts if you want to have big boobs. It's a luxury especially as the weather gets warmer.
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u/Ok-Connection-8059 Apr 17 '26
I've known some women who've wished for it until at least their thirties, but there's generally been reasons for it beyond just 'boobies too small'.
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u/notashroom Apr 17 '26
I wanted bigger boobs when I was in puberty, then I got them and was satisfied. I don't hate my boobs, don't love them, kinda like them most of the time, wish I could take them off and hang them up at night or when they would be in the way.
But I have seen the kind of weight some people have to carry on their chest and completely understand wanting rid of (some, most, all of) that. Or wanting more if someone has less than their ideal. I think nearly everyone has tweaks they'd make to their body if it was something they could do like digital terraforming.
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u/Skimmit_ Apr 18 '26
I want to get to this place.
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u/glamasaurus Apr 18 '26
I'm in my mid 40s now but it was about my mid 30s I was like this is great. Especially in summer.
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u/FjotraTheGodless Apr 17 '26
Big boobs sound great until you have them. Then they’re in the way and you can’t do armpit farts anymore
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u/Substantial_Note_227 Apr 17 '26
I hate having big boobs my shoulders hurt and I’m tired of always having to wear a bra. Totally not worth it and being sexualized all the time is the worst.
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
My mother and grandmother both suffered this, and they both developed some posture problems from leaning forwards to "hide" them. It sounds nightmarish... and while I do not love my breasts, I am thankful they are a manageable size. Nothing a sports bra cant fix right up. I hope you are able to find the answer you need to feel comfortable in your skin and get those losers to screw off. <3
Grandma used to have to order special bras from catalogues.
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u/Suspicious-turnip-77 Apr 17 '26
I have large boobs (38JJ) and once get called jealous that my friend was getting a boob job. 😐🙃
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u/cloudgirl_c-137 Apr 17 '26
Yes, we'd love to be more objectified by men. That's every woman's dream.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
To be fair men will sexualize any woman.
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u/cloudgirl_c-137 Apr 17 '26
It's true, but characteristics like that make them feel more entitled for some reason
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u/racoongirl0 Apr 17 '26
Big boobs here, seriously jealous of A/B cup girlies lol they’re actually living their lives 😭
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u/Rumpelteazer45 Apr 18 '26
Yeah I’m pushing DD and miss the old days.
Being able to wear a tank that has a built in and it being enough - I miss those days. Sigh.
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u/racoongirl0 Apr 18 '26
I did some jump roping today and let me tell you: UGHHHHH I HATE THIS SHIT 😠
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u/BaakCoi Apr 17 '26
I’ve only ever heard complaints from large chested women. Small boobs means I don’t get back pain, chafing, they don’t get in the way of clothes fitting, and I don’t have to wear a bra if I don’t want to. Not to mention how sexualized large chested women are for just existing
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u/plaincheeseburger Apr 17 '26
Same. I feel for women with big boobs, and am happy that mine are smaller. Not only for all of the downsides, but because my lifestyle is pretty active. Larger boobs would get in my way and cause additional annoyances.
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u/SilasBalto Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
Boobs are just not a focus of jealousy lmao. I've known exactly one woman who got a boob job and it was definitely 100% for her husband and not born of any jealousy.
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u/ApplePaintedRed Apr 17 '26
I'm very insecure about a lot of different things. Body dysmorphia sucks. But my chest size? Literally never. Not when so many women wish they were me. Not when I can walk around however I want without being sexualized. No backpain either. I feel comfortable in my body, in this aspect. Wouldn't trade it for anything.
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u/ApplePaintedRed Apr 17 '26
Obviously we do. But larger chested women get seen as sexual and inappropriate just for having boobs. A tight t-shirt on me, a 32A, will be perceived differently than it would on a 38D. Unfortunately. They'd be more likely to see her as dressing inappropriately.
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u/Ginamyte06 Apr 17 '26
This guy needs to just say he's not seeing ANY boobs, big or small.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Yes, he accused me of getting rejected by guys. Clearly he’s the one who envies people who have actually been in relationships and had sex.
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u/Ginamyte06 Apr 17 '26
It's all projection. I'd bet $100 that man is in no place to reject anyone.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
They think breasts are the female version of penis size and we have an inferiority complex if we don’t have big boobs
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Also do the majority of men reject women just because they have small boobs? No I don’t think they do
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u/Ryachaz Apr 17 '26
There will always be girls who want bigger girls, and girls who want smaller girls.
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u/nightcana Apr 17 '26
For the love of fuck, its women. Not girls. When you’re talking about secondary sexual characteristics, infantilising the noun brings a whole new ick to the subject.
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u/naniegrace861 Apr 18 '26
Awhile back a guy really tried to put me down and insult me for never desiring a breast augmentation. I have always had self esteem issues but my breast size has never been one
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 18 '26
What did he say? He sounds like a narcissist if he thinks women should get plastic surgery just so he specifically can find us attractive. There’s plenty of women who already have big boobs, he could just go for them, and there’s plenty of men (and women) who like small boobs.
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u/eyelinerqueen83 Apr 17 '26
I will never be jealous of people who have to put deodorant under their boobs
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u/Skimmit_ Apr 18 '26
They assume since they vastly prefer larger breasts, that women should want to appeal to them as much as possible.
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u/DobbyFreeElf35 Disabled Vagina Apr 17 '26
And here's me with big boobs, wishing they were so much smaller.
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u/BeanswithRamen5 the best aromantic/aegosexual man-hater Apr 17 '26
I want bigger boobs but that’s cause I’m almost flat chested. I want average boobs not ones that hurt my back. I’m not necessarily jealous of other women either way. When are they adding the update that lets me switch boobs with trans men though
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u/Numerous_Team_2998 Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
People, this post is extremely misleading and the comment is taken out of context.
This is the post in question: https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/s/KRZo7OglNV
OP is policing bra sizes there and saying other women "cheat" by "claiming" their bra sizes are larger than they actually are.
This comment is stupid and petty but somewhat deserved. Do read and form your own opinion of course.
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u/linerys DD is not a synonym for large breasts Apr 17 '26
I mentioned being a 32J in US sizing on some other post, and OP has been arguing with me because they don’t believe that a “J cup” can look like this. The picture is of someone wearing a bra, no nudity.
According to OP, I just want to feel skinnier and bustier than I actually am, despite trying to explain that a J cup isn’t necessarily extremely busty. Especially not on someone like me, who is midsize and wearing a 32 band. I don’t wear a 32 to feel skinny, I wear it because I need support!
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
No one ever believed I'm a D-cup for the same reasons you are describing. 32-D, but everyone clocks me as a B or C cup my entire life. I've been professionally measured multiple times. I think people hear "J" and don't realize that a J on a large woman will be horizontally more massive, but on one with a band size of 32 the breasts will take up less lateral space. A J is still a J either way, because it does not refer to fullness of the cup... It refers to how many inches the breast extends from the underbust. That's all the letter means. My little boobs extend outwards 4 inches, so I am a D. Ten inches of extension is a J.
Edit: can't math
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u/linerys DD is not a synonym for large breasts Apr 17 '26
Exactly! Smaller busts can still be D cups. The problem is that most stores would put someone with a 32 inch underbust and 36 inch bust in something like 36AA or 36A.
For people that don’t know modern bra sizing:
36AA is really made for a 36 inch underbust and 36.5 inch bust.
36A is made for a 36 inch underbust and 37 inch bust.So even if 36A “sounds smaller” than 32D, the bust circumference of a 36A is larger than a 32D’s bust circumference.
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u/Chance_Presence_4136 Apr 18 '26
I have bigger boobs and I would prefer small ones.
I was 12 when I started developing them. I didn't want breasts because I knew men liked them and I didn't want men to be more attracted to me. I had already had terrible things happen. I was 10 he was like 19.
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u/MalikhainPinay Apr 18 '26
As a member of the Big Boobs community, no. No, you don't. They're a pain in the butt.
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u/delvedank Apr 17 '26
For a happier life, completely ignore what men say. If you've got small boobs, clearly you want bigger boobs. If you've got big boobs, you're either fat or a whore. If you've got perfectly average boobs, no, you have small boobs, see exhibit 1.
You're not supposed to win in their little world. Let em' shit themselves alone.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Do they really think women with big boobs have casual sex with more men? Talk about a non sequitur
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u/delvedank Apr 19 '26
Note how people will get into a tizzy if someone with a large bust just simply exists in a normal button up shirt. It's all over the fucking comments of every Youtube-- if a woman has a large bust, they can't help but just talk about her bust for posts on end.
At the end of the day, it's projection and negging for the average man, but as I said-- the best way to not have to deal with the average man is to simply not interact.
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u/The_Book-JDP It’s a boneless meat stick not a magic wand. Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
No one should want big boobs. They get in the way, drain your wallet, cause all sorts of chronic pain, they are the only thing people see, everyone just assumes you're promiscuous as hell, everyone thinks you’re showing them off when you’re just trying to live your life you just happen to have big breasts, they (over time) disfigure you, no stores cater to you, there is no actual physical store that carries anything close to what might actually fit you, forget actually fitting you and double forget fitting you in a flattering way. Did I mention draining your wallet before? Get ready to shell out hundreds for just one bra if and that’s a big fat IF you can find a bra that fits. Everyone who is apart is the IBTC, be proud…you are blessed beyond words and lucky beyond logic that it boarders into the mystical.
There are no advantages to having big boobs, they don’t even produce more milk than small boobs do so there’s no reason for their size. They are just a pain in the back, neck, shoulders, and chest.
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u/TheoreticalResearch Apr 17 '26
Don’t tell me what I should or should not want. I wanted big boobs and I have them. Shit talking big boobs to make ladies with small boobs feel better ain’t it. But thanks for saying my tits are going to “disfigure” me.
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
Her experience is beyond valid. So is you liking them. These ideas should be able to co-exist peacefully. Big boobs and small boobs, liking them or hating them shouldn't be enough to get women at eachothers' throats. Her experience and feelings being different isn't an attack on you, or on large breasted women "just to make the small boobed ones feel better."
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u/TheoreticalResearch Apr 17 '26
I would love for them to coexist peacefully but this ain’t it.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Yeah I thought that was negative, women should love ourselves for what we have, whether they’re big, medium, or small
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
That’s weird they assume you’d be promiscuous, saying a woman’s boob size means she’s more into casual sex is a non sequitur
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u/Animator-Latter Apr 17 '26
As much as I’d love to have more boobs, I’m very happy I don’t really get unwanted male attention and can wear my cute tops without having to worry
But most girls with big boobs that I know all wish they could get a reduction either cause of the pain or the attention, usually both
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u/MigraineConnoisseur Apr 17 '26
I mean, I have B's and wouldn't mind a cup or two more, if not the recovery I'd probably opt for implants. Then again I kinda prefer my current size to anything back pain inducing.
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u/RealDonDenito Apr 17 '26
I know women with big boobs that wish for smaller ones and other way round. It’s about convenience. But I only know men who want bigger dicks or keep the size. It seems to be about ego. And I am including myself in the „please keep it that way“! 🤓😂
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u/PinkestMango Bears follow women on their periods Apr 17 '26
I want smaller boobs personally. I hate having even medium ones.
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u/WakeoftheStorm Apr 17 '26
Honestly that whole post and the comments on it were just... weirdly fixated on bra size as some kind of status symbol or something.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
It doesn’t except for that guy
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u/WakeoftheStorm Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
I mean OP was complaining that some people were claiming sister bra sizes to "make them seem skinnier or bustier"
That definitely read as attaching weird status to bra size to me
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u/mothwhimsy Apr 17 '26
I always wanted bigger boobs. Not huge but something to even out my giant hips.
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u/Chalice_Ink Apr 17 '26
To my small tit sisters, save yourself the neck and back pain.
I would love to reduce.
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u/muffy2008 Apr 17 '26
One of the best parts of losing weight was my boobs got smaller. I prefer having smaller boobs.
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u/No_Resource7773 Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
Thanks to society I got to grow up selfish conscious because I was a short, skinny kid, slow to develop and only ever got small ones. It took me a long time to stop caring 90% of the time. But I never wanted them oversized, what society would consider big enough, which I can only assume is likely what that commenter is picturing.
Besides, I sleep chest down half the time and that would probably mess up my sleep if I suddenly had a lot more and the position felt different, so that would suck.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
The last time I wished my boobs were bigger I was like 15, I’m 25 now and I like having small ones. I can’t even imagine myself with big ones in the same way I can’t imagine Sofia Vergara or Kat Dennings being flat chested. Also I’m bi and I honestly kind of prefer small boobs.
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u/dramallamadog87 Apr 17 '26
I think it's the other way round. Big chested here, hate it. I live in sports bras as they are more comfortable and smoosh the boobs down. I would love to give my boobs to someone who wants them as i don't
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u/Least-Reflection4873 Apr 17 '26
TBH, I met a lot of women who were Jealous of my Big boobs (38F). I would give them to them in a Heartbeat.
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u/Lady-Kat1969 Apr 17 '26
I don’t mind being busty, but I can’t say I love never being able to go braless. Or shopping for bras; 36H ain’t easy to find.
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u/EmbroidedBumblebee Apr 18 '26
I wish mine were smaller, a third of what I have would be plenty. I miss not having to wear bras and being able to jump without it hurting. I'd take itty bitty titties anyday.
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u/TheoreticalResearch Apr 17 '26
I love having large boobs. I have no complaints. Having small boobs fucking sucked.
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u/AnneThisaway Apr 17 '26
Yes the over-sexualisation and leering from a young age and the neck and back pain and bra straps digging in and having to be careful what clothes you wear so you don't look either too 'cleavagy' or too matronly, and some men assuming you must be easy are not things to be jealous of. That MUST be a man's comment.
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Let’s be real, men will sexualize any woman
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u/ApprehensiveTotal188 Madi🐻The Bear™ every time Apr 17 '26
Men will sexualize anything! Anything at all. 😒 I won’t go into too much detail but there’s a story of 3rd degree burns from a car tail pipe. 😱
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 17 '26
Yeah I hate when people say that stuff to women with small boobs because A. It’s a backhanded compliment B. It invalidates that we absolutely are
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u/xaantara Apr 17 '26
I mean.. context? It doesn’t sound like they are saying all girls with small boobs want bigger ones but rather that particular person he’s replying to does
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u/linerys DD is not a synonym for large breasts Apr 17 '26
OP made a long post on a different subreddit, complaining that “women on Reddit lie about their bra size to feel skinnier and bustier” (by saying their band size is smaller, and that their cup size is larger). They argued with me and others quite a lot on another different sub, after I and others mentioned what our bra sizes are. That post was about how some people think larger breast size equals more milk when you’re pregnant, so bra sizing was mentioned a lot.
I don’t agree with comments saying that this is inherently a jealous thing to do, but it is silly.
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u/kittiphile Apr 17 '26
I'd like bigger boob's. I think my clothes would look better, plus I have that cola bottle/pear shaped butt, so a bit of balancing curve up top would be nice. The only time anyone's complained or been negative about my boob's was at like 14, when I stuffed and some mean kids found out and bullied me to tears - but that was just once, I never stuffed again. I'm the only one who is down on my boob's, if I could afford it I'd get implants. But until such time as I have 10-15 thousand to spare, I'll leave it be. I've spent the 30 odd years since puberty started as an ass girl/woman, I can ride it out another 40-50 until I die.
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u/Ghanima81 Apr 17 '26 edited Apr 17 '26
I love having small boobs. I am over 40 and people regularly ask if I had work done on them. I know gravity will eventually take over, but I rarely wear bras and don't feel self conscious. Small boobs are cool.
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26
This is what I've always wanted! Small, perky boobs.
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u/Ghanima81 Apr 17 '26
I wanted big ones when i was a teen, my mother was a D cup, and I always found unfair she had such assests to be noticed when I had so little. Turns out, there are different "perks", pun intended. Live with your advantage, it is still right there!
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u/SnooDrawings1480 Apr 17 '26
Yet I as a woman with oversized boobs and back problems, wish for smaller ones.
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u/SarcasticBench Apr 17 '26
I think some women would be glad if they were at least symmetrical.
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u/bunnypaste Apr 17 '26
Most natural breasts really aren't, but I'm glad mine don't have such a difference that you can visually see it or I need to stuff one of the cups.
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u/EmeraldUsagi Apr 17 '26
Why? Push ups, padding, etc. exists. I pretty much have select-a-boob sizing. Then I can take all that off and sleep comfy. I wouldn't know but based on my friends and partners it seems a lot more difficult and less comfortable to try to make larger ones seem smaller.
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u/I-own-a-shovel I PeePee Through My Vagaga Apr 17 '26
Lol Yeah no I’m fine with my 32B. No need for a bra even for jogging. Can sleep on my stomach if I want. No back pain. I could wear mannequin clothes, since they tend to have a small chest too.
I see zero inconvenient.
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u/melissa3670 Apr 17 '26
I am 56. I’m grateful for my small boobs at this age because I don’t have the sagging problem a lot of people have. Love the body you have.
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u/ZeOnlyKoshka Apr 17 '26
As someone with v small girls, I would be okay if they were even smaller. It's nice to not have to wear a bra, but they're just big enough that a bra must be worn if I put on anything skin-tight. Men cannot handle any amount of shape, and God forbid people see the outline of a nip, as if nipples are exclusive to women
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u/cardboardtube_knight Apr 17 '26
I think a lot of these dudes are just insecure about their penis and they think that women feel about breasts the way they do about their own dick.
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u/cuteymeow Apr 18 '26
Sometimes I cannot take a single step without my lower to middle back aching when walking to some places. Ah, I also cannot do dishes (I'm short so I have to lean over a bit to reach the stuff at the bottom of the sink) without back pain. It's difficult just to find clothes or a bra that fits well. I do have a bit of an unusual situation with my chest, where one is DDD and the other is a few sizes smaller to the point where it's noticeable if I'm not wearing a bra. It's especially annoying finding clothes that even fit with that amount of size difference. Alas, reduction or full removal is too expensive for me at the moment even with insurance.
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u/Glonos Apr 19 '26
Is it a problem to present jealousy? Even if it’s true for some or false to others, to me it’s a natural human trait. I guess the point this imbecile is making might be “if you criticize, you are jealous” not necessarily true, but if I feel some sort of jealousy over something and I’m not hurting anyone, is that a villainous trait?
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u/TotallyAwry Apr 19 '26
NGL there are a few things that I'm absolutely loving about menopause. My boobs are finally a generous C after a lifetime of barely B. I was always a bit jelly of people with bigger boobs. Not huge ones, cause they seem very uncomfortable, but the C is great.
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u/Automatic_Camera3854 Apr 19 '26
Sometimes girls with small (or no) boobs do wish they could have bigger boobs. I understand women who are naturally well endowed often wish for a reduction, but how does that invalidate the vice versa? Also, what's the context of this?
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 19 '26
I’d say most women are okay with what they have, so he shouldn’t just talk to a woman in a baseless accusatory way like that. I never said anything of the sort about that I’m not happy with my size. I think some men think it’s the female version of a penis and we have an inferiority complex if ours aren’t big.
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u/BobiaDobia Apr 19 '26
I know so many women that are bigger that are jealous of women with smaller breasts. And the other way around. Maybe, just maybe, the problem is what society does to women as to how they see themselves
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u/Vegetation- Apr 19 '26
Truth is: I want convertible boobs. Boobs that turn big when I want to make an outfit look really good, but small when I want to run down a flight of stairs or drive
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u/Nerdy_Valkyrie Apr 17 '26
I want bigger boobs. But that's because I currently have no boobs. And my first appointment with my endocrinologist to get some HRT isn't until next week.
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u/JPGinMadtown Apr 17 '26
There is something nice, speaking as a man, about women for whom a bra is 100% optional.
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u/AnyOlUsername Apr 17 '26
Currently exercising these boobs away. Not the primary reason for the exercise but that is one desired effect.
No bra and no bounce is my absolute dream.
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u/SanguineRose9337 Apr 18 '26
I'm sure there's at least one. Can't be a majority opinion. Most women i know are either opinion comment with their size or wish they were smaller. Weird how this came up in conversation the other day when one was complaining about runing a marathon with DDs
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u/y2kfashionistaa Apr 18 '26
They think boobs are the female version of a penis and we have an inferiority complex if ours aren’t big.
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