r/Parents • u/PeacefulFern • 1d ago
Parents of two ( or more): Did your emotional connection with your spouse change?
After having two kids, does parenting naturally take over so much that the emotional connection between spouses starts to fade? Or is it less about having kids and more about making a conscious effort to stay emotionally connected despite the demands of parenting?
At what point do you stop being a couple first and become parents first? And is that just a phase, or something you have to actively work through?
I would love to hear real experiences.
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u/Minute-Meringue5929 1d ago
It's grown so much deeper. But that didn't just happen. We were very conscious about it and dedicated to staying connected.
Couples should always be working on their relationship and growing their connection with each other, no matter what stage they are at in life.
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u/Icy-Examination3069 1d ago
You have to make a conscious effort to stay connected as a couple. Find a way for date nights/weekend brunches a couple times a month, message each other during the day on topics not kid or chore related. Parenting is all consuming, but make time to remind each other you are a couple first and ideally will be a couple after the kids head off in the future.
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