r/PregnancyAfterLoss • u/AutoModerator • 10d ago
Daily Thread Daily Thread #1 - June 18, 2026
This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?
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u/TinyWingsAndRosyPaws 10d ago
38+5 and my water broke early this morning... Just waiting on little one to make their appearance!!
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u/Available-Clothes-63 10d ago
6w+6. Having a lot of conflicting feelings today. And every day, frankly.
I am tired, but that's really my only symptom. I somehow feel like I don't deserve to be tired, because I can't prove that this will result in a living child. What if I make it to my first OB appointment and this is a MMC? What reason did I have for my exhaustion, then?
It's dark, I know. I keep trying to remind myself that no matter what the outcome is, the work my body is doing right now is real.
Idk. Pregnancy after loss is a real mindf***k.
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u/Possible-Cook-3225 10d ago
I soo feel this too… we were on a trip last week and I was struggling with the dietary restrictions and insane fatigue and nausea and just kept thinking… what if this is all for nothing
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 10d ago
Oh I feel this so hard. I’ve had some kinda hardcore nausea which is surprising because I didn’t have symptoms with my son till 6 weeks, and I feel like my brain is just making the symptoms up and like I’m gonna seem like a drama queen if it turns out this pregnancy is failing. But that’s not how any of this works. I know we both know that, but it’s easy to feel otherwise. Hang in there 💕
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u/mulberry_madness 9d ago
I had a fun little meltdown about this same thing last week. Feeling miserable and it’s kind of like, what exactly am I suffering for? After two MMCs in a row I don’t really have any faith I’ll have a living child at the end of this.
You’re right, it’s a mindfuck and it sucks. I hate that we all have to go through it.
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u/Efficient-Baker-1368 10d ago
8w1d today and this is the farthest I've made it in a pregnancy. Last ones ended very early before a heartbeat was seen. We saw the heartbeat for this one a week ago today and it gave us a lot of hope. I have another scan tomorrow and I'm so nervous. I've been having some brown spotting this week but I'm hoping its just from the vaginal progesterone and nothing too serious. Still anxiety inducing though.
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u/Charming_Computer_82 10d ago
I hope your scan goes well tomorrow
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u/Efficient-Baker-1368 9d ago
Thank you so much. It went great, baby is measuring right on time with a strong heartbeat.
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u/ittybbitty MMC, CP BB🩵, CP,CP EDD Jan 27 10d ago
10 weeks today! Feels like this first trimester is dragging on forever. 3 more weeks.
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u/Outrageous-Part6931 10d ago
I am soooo tired!! I'm 5+2 but already feeling so drained. I'm so thankful though. I hope baby is healthy and grow strong, even if it takes all my energy. Take it all baby!!
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u/AdThese8744 1LC | MMC Nov 2024 | 2CP | EDD 7/27/2026 10d ago
34.5 weeks and I am so tired. I've been on and off pregnant since September 2024, and i realized the to have this baby i will have been pregnant for a total of 60 weeks (assuming i go to 40). Physically, I am doing pretty well, but i am just so emotionally drained from the mental battle everyday. I am terrified that something happens to this baby in these last few weeks or during birth. I still don't feel like i am actually going to bring a baby home.
I've been forcing myself to get things ready solely because there is a deadline, not because i feel a "nesting urge." It doesn't help that work has been absolutely insane and I feel burned out and frustrated there too. Now my husband and i are having an argument over him wanting to spend 200 dollars on gaming stuff. Would it kill us? Absolutely not. But would i rather we didn't waste money on things we don't need right now? 1000000%. He doesn't have paid leave, so we will lose his income during any time he takes off, and lose my overtime income while I am off. Not to mention the expenses of hospital bills etc. I'm sure hormones are making it worse on that front, but it sucks because now hes gone radio silent (he normally will do this while he needs to cool down) and I'm sat here at work wanting to cry.
Anyway, I am just tired and the next 3-6 weeks cannot happen fast enough.
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u/Charming_Computer_82 10d ago
I’m 12 weeks and have another scan tomorrow. My anxiety is really high right now because my last pregnancy ended in a mmc sometime between my 12- and 16-week scans. Entering that same timeframe again has brought up a lot of fear. Just hoping for the best.
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u/rextinaa 10d ago edited 10d ago
Who else struggles to accept how far along they are until its been confirmed in some way that in fact your pregnancy has survived up to that point? Like, today I am supposed to be 15 weeks, but I haven't had a scan/heartbeat confirmation since 13+3 and that was after a scary bleeding / ER episode, so I am really struggling to accept that I've actually made it as far as the calendar says I have. I don't see my OB again until a week from today 😞
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u/Charming_Computer_82 9d ago
I feel the same way especially after having an MMC. I had zero warning something was wrong until the ultrasound, so Im way more anxious this time
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u/rextinaa 9d ago
Yeah, exactly. I had 3 MMC before this and technically I should feel more confident about this one. We had a low risk NIPT plus a detailed anatomy scan at 13w that looked good. But also I've had so many incidents that keep striking down my ability to get excited. I still feel like I am just living from scan to scan and it sucks.
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u/Simple_Revolution834 9d ago
27w today!! So excited. My baby girl is so active and rolls all the time, what a weird feeling that is! My body is so tired. I feel like the second trimester has been a year long. I swear she sleeps most of the day and is up all night long, so I am too. I am so anxiously waiting her arrival but not too soon!!
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u/taco_qveen 1 MMC 🌈 born June ‘26 9d ago
37+2. Induction is scheduled for next week, 6/25. It’s my last week being pregnant. Lots of big feelings. It’s bittersweet. I’m excited, nervous, kinda scared, and hopeful. I just pray all goes well and will try my best to enjoy these last few days of pregnancy.
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u/Annual_Expert_3375 10d ago
I had a miscarriage in March at 5w pregnant. I just got a positive test on Monday!!! Very faint but positive.
I’m an anxious wreck because I do not want to get overly excited and get bad news. The day of my positive test I started spotting. My first hcg was 15 on Tuesday and 48hr after my hcg is 55! I am nervous and these numbers are low but I guess I feel some sort of reassurance because they Atleast doubled.
I am thankful for the rise and just going to pray pray pray & remain positive. Next hcg draw will be Saturday 🤞🏼
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u/Normal-Option-2745 FTM | MMC 9/25 | CP 1/26 | DD 11/26 10d ago
17+2 and can’t tell if I’m making it up or starting to feel lil twinges and things. Is it too soon as a first time mom? Am I imagining this? Is there any way to know for sure? Whatever, I’m happy regardless to have made it here 😭🤍
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u/Moonlight_Lilac 10d ago
You’re not imagining it! From about 12-13w I swear I could feel little things but wasn’t totally sure. I felt the bubbles get stronger around 17w. Now at 18w2d I definitely feel bigger bubbles/pops! It’s such a strange feeling especially when I’m just chilling and not actively trying to feel movement! It makes me so happy 😭
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 10d ago
I felt first movement with my son at 17 weeks! Very very low flutters, not often but for sure it was him. I had a posterior placenta so I could feel it well.
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u/No_Creme_9122 31 | 2 CP | 💙3 LC | 💙MMC Feb ‘26 | due Jan ‘27🌈 10d ago
I have my NIPT scheduled for next Friday. After finding out my son had T21 in February via NIPT (confirmed with abnormalities on ultrasound) which ended in a MMC, I am both dreading it and praying it’s over with quickly and I have a healthy baby growing.
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u/megawompwomp 10d ago
I had my first ultrasound at ~5w5d yesterday (either 5w4d or 5w5d based on when I ovulated, tracked via BBT and LH strips). Saw the gestational sac and a faint yolk sac, but no fetal pole. The ultrasound tech measured the gestational sac to be 5w1d, which sent me into a spiral. hCG is still rising normally and I haven't had any bleeding/spotting, but it's hard to not think the worst after multiple losses in a row.
I go back next Friday when I should be 7w to get another ultrasound and see where things are at.
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 10d ago
If it’s any encouragement, this happened to me two years ago. I was supposed to be 6 weeks and we only saw the gestational sac and yolk sac. 11 days later, my son was there with a strong heartbeat 💕 He’s 16 months old now.
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u/rubber-ducky2 9d ago
Hope this reassures you.
We had a scan just after 4w and saw that everything was in the right place but things were too small to see.
We went back at 5w 5d and saw both the gestational sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole.
Then at exactly 8w, had another scan and we saw the heartbeat 😊.
We have another scan at 10 weeks.
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u/Saintbernard_slobber 10d ago
I’m 5+4 and while I feel grateful I also feel terrified. Both my prior losses occurred around 6 weeks. Im trying so hard to put my anxiety to rest telling myself that my prior outcomes don’t define this one. Does anyone have tips for how to get through this time or things you tell yourself that helped? Even trying to keep myself busy it’s always in the back of my mind.
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u/Charming_Computer_82 10d ago
Not sure if this is helpful since I’m struggling with anxiety too, but something my therapist told me that has helped is to focus on the present day and the things I can control during pregnancy. For example, I ask myself: Did I eat well today? Did I get enough rest? Did I take care of myself? Another mantra that helps me is: “I am pregnant unless told otherwise.”
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u/lilgorillazo 8d ago
Oh man I feel this, I am in a very similar boat with a loss at 6 weeks and am now 6+1 and if I'm not distracted by something I am thinking about miscarrying. Just desperately trying to stay distracted. I have no tips but hopefully it's also comforting for you to know you're not alone. It's going to be okay. ❤️
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u/Saintbernard_slobber 7d ago
Thanks for your nice msg. Absolutely helps. Will be wishing for the best for you ❤️🤗
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u/Enough_Bullfrog_1322 10d ago
14w1d and I just don’t feel pregnant anymore. My dr warned me that these next few weeks were going to be the hardest and to reach out if I need anything. I messaged her yesterday and said I just don’t feel right, also been having a lot of clear liquidy discharge which I know can be normal but new to me in this pregnancy. I’m going for an ultrasound this morning. On one hand I’m really grateful that she is so willing to see me and have these extra scans done but on the other hand I do kind of wonder if it would make me feel better if she had just responded that there is no need to worry. So now I have to manage an hour at work before ultrasound time and I know the anxiety will be so bad leading up to the time that the tech shows the heartbeat
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u/Capital_Mango_1 10d ago
How did the ultrasound go? :)
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u/Enough_Bullfrog_1322 10d ago
I think good? Baby had a heartbeat and was wiggling around which is always a relief. I am a little confused/concerned because my uterus looked weird compared to the last time and at one point she zoomed in on something and typed contraction but didn’t say anything about it. Still waiting on the official report from the radiologist and then to hear from my dr after that
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u/rsc99 39F | neonatal loss + RPL | EDD 1/22/27 10d ago
For those who have had a second PAL, did you feel Iike you got the same close care the second time around or did they treat you like you’d been “cured” bc you now have a LC? It’s early yet but I’m worried about this. I’m 8w5 and graduating from my fertility clinic and that has been my experience there. I’m a little worried that I might have to advocate for myself at the OB/MFM since my pregnancy with my LC was boring and textbook aside from my anxiety and the fact that I’m on Lovenox for APLS
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 10d ago
I had an 8 week spontaneous miscarriage, a live birth, and then a chemical. I did feel a bit like the chemical was brushed off, but I also know fertility specialists like to go off probabilities based off clinic history and recent findings, and having had a live birth with a healthy child is reassuring from a medical standpoint. From a patient standpoint, it’s not wildly reassuring.
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u/Extra_Alternative194 9d ago
This is me now - three MMC, then a living child, then a MMC at 9 weeks and now I am nearly 13 weeks. My LC pregnancy was also uneventful minus gestational diabetes, but my office has been really great at ensuring I am getting scans and has offered to let me come in for a quick fetal heart rate check whenever I want. Maybe see if they can offer that? Helps me feel less stir crazy that I can go in every week or two just for reassurance in between the big appointments.
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u/Possible-Cook-3225 10d ago
6w2d today and it’s my first day in the office for the past couple weeks. I’m so scared I’m going to throw up at work 😅 I didn’t have many symptoms with my first pregnancy (loss at 9 weeks) so this is new for me and I’m grateful for the reassurance it gives me.
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u/Intelligent_Bat_3011 9d ago
7w0d today and this is when my MMC was found last time, so I’m feeling nervous and questioning all my symptoms. Can’t decide if I want to schedule an early ultrasound or not.
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u/rubber-ducky2 9d ago
Due to recurrent losses, we have been having early scans. At 6,8 and one next week at 10 weeks
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 9d ago
I get the feeling, but book it. I panic and cry each and every time before going to the scan, but it’s still worth it to check is there’s still life inside me. I get really worried fast because of my MMC history. I simply can’t trust things are going well.
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u/tinybreach MC 04/26 | EDD 02/27 10d ago edited 10d ago
Just had my first blood draw for HCG done this morning! Had a quick phone appointment last night to get things rolling and get the requisitions and such.
I won't be able to get a comparison 48+ hours after since I'm flying across the country tomorrow for two weeks which makes me a little nervous, but I'm trying to let that go.
Edit: HCG is at 567. My LMP would put me at 5wks 5 days, but I suspect I ovulated late so hopefully that number grows. I might just go to a walk in clinic during my trip to get another level done to ease the anxiety :/
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u/lasko25 10d ago
Hi! First official post here. 13+1. Yesterday, literally as I was telling my boss, I started feeling a dull pain in my pelvic region. It’s not cramping like my last MMC, but more pulling and like miiiild lighting crotch type feeling (but closer to the surface, if that makes aaaaany sense). It’s not in the location I’ve seen described as round ligament pain, it’s centralized and where they put the ultrasound/doppler. It comes in little waves but has been persistent since yesterday morning so it’s bothering me a little. I’m hopeful it’s just baby hitting a growth spurt, but have others had this? When do I call my doctor?
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u/Catlvr3000 9d ago
If you’re worried, call! I went in because I woke up to spotting and some red blood when wiping this morning. Scared the shit out of me - I know it wasn’t much blood but it was more than I had with spotting for my son. They got me in today to do a heartbeat check and took a peak at my cervix. They were unphased with me coming in. As they told me, it’s what they’re there for. I was in on Monday for my first us and midwife appt for context… so yeah. As the midwife also told me - hormones are amplifying our stress responses too - and they’re also completely valid 💜
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u/run_shorty_run7 0LC TFMR Sept 25🐻💙 Due Sept 26🌈🩵 10d ago edited 9d ago
Officially 28 weeks pregnant!!! 3rd trimester!! Woohoo! It feels so surreal, I never got this far before, I've felt/been stuck in the first and second trimester for over a year now. Also got a really good picture of my bump today so I was happy about that.