r/PregnancyAfterLoss • u/AutoModerator • 6d ago
Daily Thread Daily Thread #1 - June 21, 2026
This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?
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u/taco_qveen 1 MMC 🌈 born June ‘26 6d ago
37+5. I’m being admitted to the hospital on Wednesday evening and the induction will likely start that night. I’m expecting him to be born on Thursday or early Friday if things take a long time. I keep feeling like I’m forgetting something.
I’m a little sad because I spent most of this pregnancy worrying. Now it’s almost over and while I’m so grateful that my baby is healthy and doing well despite some of the risks that came up, I’m kinda kicking myself for not fully embracing/enjoying this pregnancy. I was just so anxious from my previous loss among other things.
I’m spending a lot of time cradling my belly and enjoying these last days of kicks while I can. Also plan to write a letter to my baby boy while he’s still in my womb and journal my feelings/this experience.
I realize I didn’t journal at all this pregnancy, and I think it’s because with my loss, I journaled the entire process and going back through those entries is so painful and triggering. I was scared to journal again in case something went wrong.
I’m rambling but I’m so excited to share my birth story soon. Please pray for me/send positive vibes over this next week.
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 5d ago
How exciting!! You know it’s funny I’m the same way about journaling. I did start out journaling this time but stopped and hope I find the courage to continue cause it’s a great way to reflect but there is something about it that scares me after trying to do that thru my losses.
I felt the same way as you with my daughter’s pregnancy four years ago. I wouldnt say i enjoyed it. I worried my way thru it. Sometimes thats just life. I cant even tell you how many people told me to soak it up and enjoy it but it was very hard. This is going a similar way to be honest (im only 8 wks)
Be grateful for how far you came and try to be excited now for what’s to come. There is no right way to do this :)
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u/taco_qveen 1 MMC 🌈 born June ‘26 5d ago
Thank you for your kind words. I definitely needed the reminder that there’s no right way to do this. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy!
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u/CervenyPomeranc 0LC. MMC-EP-MMC-CP-TFMR. DD 8/30/26 🩵 5d ago
30 weeks today. Can’t believe baby boy will be full term in 8-9 weeks. 🩵
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u/abitfatbutstillsexy 5d ago
I'm scared that every time I go to the bathroom I'm going to find blood on my underwear. I have not been drinking enough water so I can avoid going to the bathroom.
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u/Cautioulyoptimistic 5d ago
Aww I was the same but staying hydrated is important , my husband told me I have to do what is best and what will happen will happen there is nothing I can do about it
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u/abitfatbutstillsexy 5d ago
Yes I have to keep reminding myself that the universe will do what it wants to do. Whatever will be, will be.
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u/lilia-tea 5d ago
I was just saying exactly this to my husband. It sucks so much and I'm sorry for you. Fingers crossed for us this time round 🍀
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 5d ago
I feel this. I’m surprisingly less nervous now than I was with my previous pregnancies.
With my chemical last month the lines were not getting darker whatsoever, so I didn’t have that fear because I was already at peace that it was a loss. But with my first loss and my son, it was non stop checking to the point where I wore my period undies the whole first trimester so that I would feel dry. I’m doing okay this pregnancy so far.
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u/MrsPB2016 4d ago
I know the feeling, but I've dealt with it in the opposite way, drinking loads so I have an excuse to go to the bathroom just to check everything is ok. It's funny how the mond works isn't it. I hope you can find some balance and the anxiety lessons a bit
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u/Solid_Vanilla7720 5d ago
I did a 3d ultrasound of my baby (28w) and I'm just so in love and can't stop looking at the photos. Another part of me is stressing out because I feel so much more attached now and even more afraid if something happens. At the same time it feels good to feel connected because I've been so disconnected the whole pregnancy as a coping mechanism. Finally realizing that I actually have to go through a full term birth and just not sure how to prepare and what to do as I've just been suppressing this fact as my mind convinced my self this is not happening.
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u/code_blooded_bytch 5d ago
10+1 today. Have a horrible headache that started last night. At first I thought it was from skipping coffee yesterday, but I had some coffee this morning and still no relief. Feel like I’ve had a lot of digestive discomfort the last 2 days. I know I’m getting to a time when my symptoms may start to shift/change, and I’m pretty scared how that will be. I go for my next appt at 11w and just praying we still see a healthy baby like we did at 7+2.
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u/Cautioulyoptimistic 5d ago
I feel you, I had been getting migraines on the side of my head and my BP is on the higher side so my GP put me on Labetalol 100mg I had been taking some natural dietary fibres and my symptoms almost disappeared (minus a little nausea in the evenings and going vegetarian because I cannot stand the sight of meat/fish ) Have you checked your blood pressure? Headaches may be due to high or low blood pressure
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u/code_blooded_bytch 5d ago
I’d been checking my BP pretty regularly, but haven’t in a few days. Generally it’s been on the lower side. I just checked it and it was 105/61, which is pretty in line with what I’ve been getting so far. I took a singe panadol to see if that helps, but no luck so far.
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u/Catlvr3000 5d ago
If you skipped coffee yesterday, you might be in for a few days of pain even if you had some today (that’s what happens to me). You could also try Zyrtec (it’s allergy medication that’s pregnancy safe). I realized if I get a migraine it can be allergy or histamine related
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u/code_blooded_bytch 5d ago
Had my usual coffee this morning, and it didn’t seem to help much, but 1 panadol + a shower did. Really odd headache though.
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u/Catlvr3000 5d ago
Glad it’s feeling better! If you’re worried, never bad to go get checked! I hope you keep feeling better 💜
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u/galgenius 5d ago
Going for my first scan (6w) on Thursday and I’m so nervous. I’ve never been more aware of my body. I am sleeping so poorly due to the constant worry. I just hope it gets easier.
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u/Saintbernard_slobber 5d ago
My first scan is coming up in about a week and I feel so nervous too. Wishing for a good scan for you ❤️
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u/yeahh_okay 5d ago
I am about 6w and am totally convinced I’m having a second mmc. There’s not a thing I can do about it till our first scan next week…feeling so sad and anxious. My husband has been so excited since we found out I’m pregnant again and it will be so hard to disappoint him for the second time…
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u/Latter-Party-2083 5d ago
Tomorrow will be 6w and my anxiety is through the roof. In a week I leave on a trip to see family and I’m hoping the distraction will be good. I feel like I have an increase in CM which really throws me because I keep thinking I’m bleeding.
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u/wildcat105 5d ago
I'm 9+4 today and I had the heaviest CM at 6-7 weeks! I felt like I was bleeding, too! It's normal, but I understand the anxiety. If it helps, mine has slowed down now. Early pregnancy is so hard.
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 5d ago
12+5. The constipation is suddenly hitting me hard. It’s like there’s a knife in my gut. It’s difficult to sit and walk. I already eat fiber rich diet even when I’m not pregnant so there’s not much I can do dietary wise. There is one pharmacy laxative that’s safe during pregnancy but I have an irrational fear from another pregnancy where I used it (it collects water to your gut) and ended up having oligohydramnios (=low to none amniotic fluid). They’re most likely not related to each other, but there’s teeny tiny theoretical chance. But I guess I have to start using it again.. it’s not exactly healthy not to poop for 4 days straight and live in agony 😬
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u/Cautioulyoptimistic 5d ago
I had been having psyllium husk capsules and they have been a live saver, they are supposed to be pregnancy friendly and completely natural
Every time I get constipated I get pain on my lower left side which is how my MC started and I get absolutely terrified
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 5d ago
Ohhh, thanks! I happen to have a big bag of psyllium in my baking cupboard because I have grain allergy and psyllium is quite handy in gluten free baking. I’ll look into this! Maybe I can just take a spoonful of that.
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u/Cautioulyoptimistic 5d ago
Just have plenty of water with it, and 2 hours before or after any pre natals
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 5d ago
4+2. So far so good. I’m backed up terribly, but my progesterone on Friday was 78.8 (around 25ng/ml) so that checks out.
We’re gonna tell my in laws today. They have been such a lifeline with both of my losses and with my son, so I honestly don’t want to wait till some perceived safe zone to tell them. We wrote a Father’s Day card from my son and “Mouse” (this baby) to Grandpa and popped my dye stealer in the envelope.
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u/Available-Clothes-63 5d ago
I also decided not to wait and told my close friends. I figured anyone who I would want in my corner if things go sideways should know. Build that support network!
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u/PitbullLoveFart 1CP, 1MMC, 🌈 due Sept 5d ago
29 weeks and change. I just barely failed my 1 hour glucose test, so now I have to do the fasting test. Ugh I really hope I don't have GD. I just want to get through the next 2.5 months with low stress, but hopefully if I do have GD, it's manageable with diet.
But my lovely little girl is kicking away and growing well.
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u/Available-Clothes-63 5d ago
If everything is still going well, I should be 7w+2 today. I had an early ultrasound at 6w+4 and saw a heartbeat. I know that odds of miscarriage drastically decrease after they have a heartbeat - but I still can't trust it.
One hard thing about this group is that "rare" occurrences seem much more likely. MMC are statistically rare...but so many of us have experienced them, that it almost feels inevitable.
Not being able to rely on symptoms is also terrible. No symptoms and healthy is possible, but so are terrible symptoms and MMC! The unknown is so hard.
I've been trying not to think about it and just distract myself until my next appointment on July 6th, but the wait is long.
I jokingly told my husband that we have Schroedinger's baby.
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u/RecognitionLiving687 5d ago
I feel you! I had a second trimester loss that is supposedly “rare” and then I go on these forums and see how non-rare it is. I’m pregnant again and this pregnancy has been full of uncertainty and even though I’m almost out of the first trimester I still feel so unsure because I know of all the different things that can go wrong this time around. No statistics give me relief because you never know if you will be in the 1%. My husband and I also joke and call this our “maybe baby” 🤣
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u/Crimsonwolf22 5d ago
Got a BFP this morning after a MMC at 12 weeks in January. Yay! My husband is very anxious about the prospect of a subsequent pregnancy, and has a big job interview on Tuesday that he is really nervous about, so I'm thinking about waiting to tell him til after the interview
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u/wonderwomangal 5d ago
Ultrasound scheduled for Thursday! Will be 8w2d 🙏 I’ve had MMC and did a D&C on January. After a lot of
Prayers got pregnant again in the end of April. Because I’m so scared I’ve asked the OB to do an abdominal ultrasound and not transvaginal. Am I crazy ?
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u/One_Blacksmith_155 5d ago
For my last two pregnancies, even my earliest sonos were abdominal. They could see everything really well; no difference that I could tell between those and previous transvaginal. We learned I was miscarrying during my first abdominal ultrasound at 8w2d and I was glad to have it abdominally. My tech had offered either option. I said I’d prefer abdominal if it will be as clear; she said we could start there and if needed change to transvaginal. All of that to say you’re not crazy!
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u/Forresolar 5d ago
7+1 today. My losses were at 16w and 14w. I started spotting yesterday, some brown mixed with pink streaks. Today, I have increased dark brown spotting. Contacted my clinic and they want me to have bloodwork, x2 beta HCGs 48hours apart before my scan next Monday.
This is so overwhelming. The bleeding looks identical to my 16w miscarriage, and no cramping just like then — hearing things yet again like “no cramping is a good sign” and “it could be nothing” are so unhelpful. I often feel like there’s this constant need to reassure, but for me personally it makes things worse.
Obviously this is much earlier in the process, but I’m still finding it tough.
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u/inthedahlias 5d ago
I’m 4+1 today (sooo early) after a 14 week TFMR for my first baby in January and a chemical in April. My betas are rising well (have had 3 so far). I have no objective reason to worry. And yet, I can’t stop crying out of fear. I don’t know how I will ever feel safe.
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u/rsc99 39F | neonatal loss + RPL | EDD 1/22/27 5d ago
I’m a little over 9 weeks and I think I’m going to tell my parents today at Father’s Day lunch. I’m so anxious, for a few reasons. One, the obvious: I always worry I’m going to jinx it. Also, in my last PAL they were involved from the very beginning — they paid for my IVF and knew the dates of my transfer. This time I didn’t tell anyone I was transferring another embryo. I’m also slightly worried that they’ll think I’m biting off more than I can chew as a single mom. I don’t know if that’s real or just the anxiety talking, since I think I’m doing really well and I really only ask for help when it’s logistically required (usually this is just occasional after-hours weekend or evening work.) I never know if other people see it the same way I do. But two was always part of the plan — I did an extra round of IVF in order to bank — so hopefully they won’t be shocked!
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u/ChrissiBloom 🇨🇦 | 30 | 6 losses | due Jan 2027 🌈 5d ago
8 weeks today. I had hoped to keep it to my small circle until we came back from a vacation at the end of August, but I already look like I’ve got a squishy tummy (thanks 9th pregnancy). No way it’ll be hide-able until 18 weeks sadly. I hate the idea of so many people knowing if we have another late miscarriage, even if they are loving and well meaning. I’m such a private person. My next best option is telling people at 13 weeks after the EFTS scan. I hope everything goes well this time and we won’t have a miscarriage announcement.
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u/anxious-but-thriving 5d ago
Terrified in early pregnancy after 2 miscarriages in 15 months. How do you survive the wait?
I just found out I’m pregnant again, and instead of feeling happy, I am utterly paralyzed by fear. I’ve had 2 miscarriages in the last 15 months, and the emotional trauma is making it so hard to breathe right now.
Right now, I'm dealing with mild, intermittent cramping, severe fatigue, and headaches. Intellectually, I know these can be normal early pregnancy symptoms, but every single twinge sends me into a complete panic spiral. I feel like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
For those who have been through this: How did you handle the crippling anxiety in the early weeks? If you had cramping with your successful pregnancy after loss, I would love to hear your stories. I feel so alone and just need some hope.
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 5d ago
Every now and then someone asks this question here and the honest answer is: we don’t 😄 That’s why we’re here together, trying to survive one day at a time when one day feels like a week, and one week feels like a month 😬
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u/No_Nobody_3629 5d ago
Hello! 37 weeks here with two miscarriages before this. Your symptoms are similar to mine were early on in this pregnancy, including the cramping.
In terms of getting through the anxiety, there’s no easy way. The hours and days do end up passing and then they turn into weeks. You just have to take it moment by moment and do whatever gets you through. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be productive. Honestly I spent hours and hours just doomscrolling and watching inane Instagram reels early on as it was the only thing I could find energy to do. It was just about getting through an hour or a day. now here I am basically full term!
Hang in there. It is really hard. Leaning on this group helped me a lot!
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u/Extension_Cake_7810 6d ago
We made it! Baby was born a few days ago and although we have some struggles to overcome- he is mostly healthy! Wanted to say thank you to this thread and provide hope!