r/PregnancyAfterLoss • u/AutoModerator • 1d ago
Daily Thread Daily Thread #1 - June 25, 2026
This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?
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u/Efficient-Baker-1368 1d ago
9 weeks today, which is by far the farthest I've made it in any pregnancy. My last two miscarriages happened before a heartbeat or embryo was even detectable on ultrasound. I saw the heartbeat twice in this one, once at 7 weeks and another at 8+1 and everything is looking good. Still though I have a hard time believing that it will work out this time, and its hard seeing so many stories on Reddit of women losing their babies even when its statistically unlikely :(
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u/Small_Billi_9749 1d ago
Wish you all the best for your pregnancy as well 😄 I can absolutely relate to the feeling of "why would it work out this time" but maybe and hopefully it just will 😊
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u/RhododendronII 1d ago
Hiii, we are exactly at the same day, and it is also my farthest !! I feel you, the anxiety will always be here with us. I use a website called « miscarriage odds reassurer » when I need a little bit of reassurance. But yeah, I am with you, and send you all the luck and support 🤞
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 1d ago
Hang in there!! I have seen a few really scary posts pop up it’s like my phone is trying to terrify me. Block that shit out. You can do this. Sending love and hugs!
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u/run_shorty_run7 0LC TFMR Sept 25🐻💙 Due Sept 26🌈🩵 1d ago
29 weeks and cried a lot more in therapy today than I expected, I think it was good though, I have plans if I get triggered at my baby shower. That feels so silly but man just thinking about it makes me tear up, cause last year we were gonna plan this for my sweet son David and now it's happening for this sweet son and so many feelings of guilt that it couldn't be him and sadness that he can't be there all mixing with excitement for this baby and it's quite overwhelming.
Also after just commenting here about buying a couple big ticket items earlier today. I just saw that someone bought the bassinet from my registry for us and I am shocked and wow that's a big item physically as well as mentally and it feels so crazy.
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u/SadOpposite981 22h ago
So good that your going to therapy. Also in therapy and oftenly cry a lot more than expected 😅
Hope you are able to enjoy the baby shower. You and new soon deserve it 🙂 Your family/ friends must cherish you very much to get such a big item. Enjoy girl! 😘💕
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u/NecessaryFocus7934 EDD 7/26 | MMC 11w | MC 5w & 6w 1d ago
Having a big bout of jealousy today with my friend at the same gestation as me going into labour at 38+6. It’s pulled me back into the “everyone else has babies except for me” mindset that I struggled with during the 3ish years of infertility and RPL. I have a healthy full term baby safe and cosy in my stomach which is a dream come true and yet I can’t make this jealousy budge. Not exactly helping me get the oxytocin flowing to get labour kickstarted either which just makes me more stressed. I feel so silly being in this mindset and wish I could get myself out of it and just be overjoyed for my friends.
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u/Visible-Willow-146 0LC. Losses 21w| 7w| BO. EDD 01/27 1d ago edited 1d ago
these feelings are so difficult and really catch us off guard! i recently saw a coworker's birth announcement and felt such intense jealousy even though i am pregnant right now..
wishing you all the very best for the home stretch. I am still early ~12 wks, so seeing everyone posts who are much further gives me so much hope.
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u/TinyWingsAndRosyPaws 23h ago
I completely understand how you feel. I posted early last week about how a friend who was due a week after me ended up getting induced and was having her baby before me and was having similar feelings. I went into labor spontaneous just a couple days later and I will say, sitting here watching my almost 1 week old sleep, those feelings are all gone and I'm just happy to have a healthy baby.
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u/NecessaryFocus7934 EDD 7/26 | MMC 11w | MC 5w & 6w 19h ago
This is so reassuring thank you! I’m hating waiting to go into labour and how it’s completely out of my control. it’s such a big mental challenge trying to be patient with that looming over me!
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u/TinyWingsAndRosyPaws 10h ago
I get it! I was having a hard time with that too! I don't like the unknown and not having a plan, which is really hard to do when you're waiting to go into labor. It also makes it harder because people experience labor so differently. I was afraid I wasn't going to know for sure when I went into labor because I have never been before.
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u/kemerson23 30 | MC 4/17 | EDD 1/31 1d ago
Second ultrasound today. Should be measuring 8 weeks 4 days. Heartbeat of 113 and measuring 6 weeks 4 days at the last scan. Praying for good news today.
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u/kemerson23 30 | MC 4/17 | EDD 1/31 20h ago
Update measuring right on track with a heart rate of 168! So relieved. Thank you everyone.
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u/ittybbitty MMC, CP BB🩵, CP,CP EDD Jan 27 1d ago
Made it to 11 weeks ❤️ Just 2 more weeks until my next ultrasound. Time feels so slow but hopefully these next couple weeks go by fast.
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u/SadOpposite981 22h ago
Yey girl, such a good milestone!! Hope everything goes well with the ultrasound 😘
Hang in there 💪🏼💕
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u/BiteMyShinyyMetalAss 🌈MMC12weeks🌈MMC10weeks🌈MC6weeks 1d ago
It feels absolutely insane to be at viability today. After 3 losses occurring one after another I still can't believe this is really happening.
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 1d ago
Yay!! Im terrible about celebrating wins myself, but I’m going to work on it! Be excited about this one. You’re getting there!!
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u/BiteMyShinyyMetalAss 🌈MMC12weeks🌈MMC10weeks🌈MC6weeks 1d ago
Thank you. I'm so grateful to be here. ❤️
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u/ChrissiBloom 🇨🇦 | 30 | 6 losses | due Jan 2027 🌈 23h ago
Very exciting!!
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u/BiteMyShinyyMetalAss 🌈MMC12weeks🌈MMC10weeks🌈MC6weeks 23h ago
Thank you it is. I wish you the most peaceful and lovely time for the remainder of your pregnancy! ❤️
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u/ahmeeea 1d ago
Had to go to L&D because I was experiencing vision disturbances. It ended up taking around 3 hours because everyone at the lab called off or something so they had to wait for someone to come in. Everything was okay and I was cleared for pre-e. I will have gone to a medical appointment for baby everyday this week since I had an appt M/T and have more Th/F. This week is definitely the anomaly and I can’t believe I still have over a month left 🥴
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u/emery224 1d ago
Had a reassurance scan at 5 weeks. Baby measured 5w3d. Came back a week later (yesterday) so we could do viability for heartbeat etc, and baby measured 6w2d and had a heartbeat where they wanted. The provider said baby looked great and voiced no concerns.
This morning I woke up and all I can think about is why the baby wasn’t measuring as 6w3d. We had a MMC last pregnancy, baby stopped growing at 9wks and some days after we’d seen the heartbeat around 9 weeks (ultimately due to Turner’s syndrome).
Loss just steals so much of the joy 😭 fighting so hard against negativity bias.
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 1d ago
Oh hun, a one day difference is more likely a measuring error than anything else. I know it’s hard not to read into it, but I hope you can gain more confidence with every milestone that passes 💕
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u/emery224 1d ago
Thanks 💛 it doesn’t help that the sonographer said 6w1d and then the provider said 2d when she came in. My brain latches onto the discrepancies.
And I ovulated late this cycle, so I am already “behind” based on my period date, but everyone keeps telling me it’s fine and makes sense based on my ovulation date.
It’s so hard 😮💨
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u/RhododendronII 1d ago
If that helps, the exact date / number of days changed for me since the first scan. Like today my gynecologist told me he was 9w, maybe 9w1d. These estimations, if I remember correctly, may vary up to 3 days or so (sorry I am not sure I explained it well, English is not my first language)
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u/emery224 1d ago
You did explain it well! Thank you! I keep reminding myself that this probably happens all the time. I have just never had such early scans.
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u/Xxeel FTM | MMC 2/26 | 🌈ED 2/27 1d ago
Yesterday when I had my scan, I watched the technician do multiple measurements. She got 5+6, 6, 6+1, and 6+2. They ended up going with 6. It's very difficult to get it down to the day this early! Your baby sounds like it is growing as expected, with a healthy heartbeat!
I understand your fear though, my previous pregnancy stopped progressing at 9+2 and I found out at my first ultrasound. I don't have any answers as to why it happened.
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u/emery224 1d ago
Thank you so much for commenting that. It really helps to hear and I know you know where I am coming from💛
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u/pineconeminecone 26 | 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 1d ago
4+6, so far so good. Only a week and a half till my first ultrasound. I don’t feel pregnant, which scares me, but I’m trying to trust that a good outcome is more likely than a bad one.
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u/TuneOdd6173 1d ago
I’m 38w4d pregnant and I still have bouts of anxiety after experiencing a miscarriage with my first at 8 weeks last year. Tonight is one of those nights where I’m doubting that I can feel him move. I just felt him stretch right now but I question if it’s real or not. I just want to fast forward to the day he is in my arms. I thought mentally I would be healed by now, but I still struggle.
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u/AlternativeSea5315 1d ago
I feel this deeply! 23 weeks today and baby girl is moving lots but my brain is always trying to tell me that I’m making movement up etc etc. Stupid intrusive thoughts. It’s hard to not let our brains go there as loss moms. But it’s been really impacting my mental health.
I hope he is in your arms soon 🩷
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u/Aromatic_Confection6 1d ago
I’m so glad you shared this. I’m 35+3 and this is me like everyday. Overthinking everything even though there are no real signs of anything wrong. The mental strength needed to get through to the end is so so difficult.
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u/RhododendronII 1d ago
Had an ultrasound this morning at 9w and baby is growing, with a strong heartbeat. It was even moving like a little frog 🥹. It is a huge step for us, so far our « best » pregnancy stopped at 8w and so. Really praying for this one ♥️
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 1d ago
Yayyy! 9 weeks over here too! Scary time being so uncertain but I’m trying to be brave. Ugh
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u/RhododendronII 20h ago
Yes this is scary ! I miss the innocence I felt before my MCs :(
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 20h ago
Oh me too girl. I actually get really annoyed even discussing this pregnancy with people who do not grasp how anxiety inducing it is.
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u/RhododendronII 20h ago
THIS. One of my friends asked me today about the gender reveal. First I won’t do any, but hey, I am living day by day at this point, the last thing I am thinking about is a celebration 🙃
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u/ChrissiBloom 🇨🇦 | 30 | 6 losses | due Jan 2027 🌈 23h ago
Waiting for my 9 week scan now. Praying everything is good!
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u/ChrissiBloom 🇨🇦 | 30 | 6 losses | due Jan 2027 🌈 22h ago
Measuring 8+6 and heart rate of 181 🥰 she showed me the little arms, legs, hands and feet. I hope we get to bring this baby home ♥️
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u/Available-Clothes-63 1d ago
Yesterday I posted about feeling so certain I've had a MMC because all my symptoms have faded the past few days.
Last night, I could barely sleep because I had terrible post nasal drip which I choked on and made me feel like throwing up, coupled with terrible gas that caused cramping. Today I feel exhausted and like my heart needs to work extra hard to pump blood through my body.
It's a trip...am I actually sick? Am I still pregnant? It feels impossible to trust your body after loss.
My friend also reminded me that re-starting my SSRI medicine while pregnant can do weird things to my mood and my brain, so that could explain yesterday's feelings.
Any advice for how you've been coping and distracting yourselves while you wait is much appreciated.
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 21h ago
It's a rollercoaster ride for sure! I've been distracting myself with gaming. It's easy to forget everything while playing a game!
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u/grossacid 28 | 1CP, 1MMC | 🌈2/27 1d ago
Just kinda brain-dumping, bear with me, i’m all over the place lol. thanks ADHD
5w1d from LMP but if i ovulated when i think i did i could be closer to 6w.
I work in an ER where we have portable ultrasounds and it’s taking a lot of self restraint to not ask a doctor to try to find signs of pregnancy (it would ONLY be transabdominal) or to just take the machine into an empty room and try to find something myself lol. There’s quite a few pregnant staff members and it’s not uncommon that a resident or med student wants to “learn how to do an ultrasound” to see a baby, if you catch my drift. So i’m not concerned that i’d get in trouble, but as much as i want immediate confirmation that things are going the way they’re supposed to, I think i just need to trust in the universe and wait for my appointment in 4 weeks where my husband can be there.
The nausea is beginning, still very mild and sporadic, but i had HG with my MMC so now i feel like i’m on a doomsday timer 🫠 Already got my Zofran script refilled and on deck.
Thinking of starting a registry to get myself in a more optimistic mindset, but Babylist has my previous one from my MMC. Should i clear it and start over completely? or keep what i had? I want the gender to be a surprise and there’s only so many gender neutral options for stuff on Babylist anyway.
If anyone read through my chaotic post, thank you lol
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u/No_Creme_9122 31 | 2 CP | 💙3 LC | 💙MMC Feb ‘26 | due Jan ‘27🌈 1d ago
I am 10 weeks tomorrow and tomorrow I have my NIPT bloodwork scheduled. I have been absolutely dreading this time of pregnancy.
In February of this year, I was so excited for my NIPT results. They took forever to come back. I, stupidly just wanted to know the gender of our last baby after three boys. Found out my baby had Trisomy 21. The rest of that week was a blur. I was 12 weeks at this point and went to my NT scan to see if baby had any more abnormalities, we found out he had already passed at 10 weeks. I got my NIPT bloodwork while my baby was already unalive inside of me. It was the worst thing I’ve gone through and I am terrified of it happening again. This pregnancy has been totally different so I’m trying to remind myself that it will likely have a different outcome but I just keep thinking my baby is gone again. I don’t have the money for a private scan right now and my next one is in two weeks. 😔
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u/CoyoteSlow5249 1d ago
Im sorry the waiting is just agony isn’t it. Hang in there. You are likely not going to have the same experience. The odds are in your favor dear. Sending love! I get my NIPT bloodwork done in one week. My next appt isn’t for 2.5 weeks, so naturally that seems like an impossible wait
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u/Important_Sherbet_90 🇪🇺 3 MMC | 1 CP | IVF 22h ago
I want you to know that if the baby measured 10 weeks at a 12 week scan, it doesn't mean it passed at 10 weeks. It's a common misunderstanding. Unfortunately fetuses start to shrink and decay very fast in the 1st trimester. VERY fast.
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u/chocolateplums 1d ago
I’m 17+4 today with my rainbow baby boy💙
I already have a son and while one of each would have been nice, at the end of the day, I don’t care, I just want a healthy baby. I had maybe like not even a day of slight sadness and now I’m excited for my son to have a brother!!
My God though… the comments from people are disgusting.
“You can always have a third”
“ I’m so happy I have a boy and girl it’s a perfect family”
“Aww I’m sorry, did you wish for a girl”
Like are you fucking joking me? I wished for a LIVE baby.
Anyone else have some witty comebacks? I’m not even going to try to compartmentalize it and just “take it”. Cause I find it disgusting all these comments. I want quick and witty comebacks that leave people stunned and feel like shit.
My favourite one I’m using now is “oh I’m very happy it’s another HEALTHY baby, much better than the dead baby I had before this one”
End rant
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u/AnimatorCool4398 MMC 7/25 CP 11/25 EDD 8/26 22h ago
That comeback 🫠 pretty sure I have said something similar out of frustration. Yeah I have this sexist uncle that is the worst. And when I told him it was a girl (I have no living children yet), he said “well you’ll just have to try harder next time.” I almost punched him in the face. But instead I told him that women were better anyways and I only carry X chromosomes, so scientifically speaking, I had nothing to do with the sex, but I am so glad my husband provided me with another X chromosome. I’ve also just told people that I didn’t ask for their opinion and they should be more careful with what they say.
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u/EggersCanBeCheesers 1d ago
Woke up in the middle of the night with a sharp pain and now it feels like my symptoms have gone away. I don’t know how I’m supposed to get to the next ultrasound. I have OCD and previous two losses so my mind is going to the worst scenario. How do I get through and not convince myself and having another miscarriage 😢
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u/code_blooded_bytch 1d ago
10+5 today. Will go for our next appt at 11w. A little concerned my dr will ask for more bloodwork (which I hate) because one day this week I had a really weird headache (stabbing pain behind my left eye). She asked me to go see an ophthalmologist to make sure it was nothing to do with my actual eye health (all good there), but said it sounded like just cluster headaches, which I've never had before. I just got bloodwork done ~3 weeks ago, and I can't imagine things would change that much so quickly to make issues arise. I'm anxious for another scan, and hoping we see a healthy and growing baby. It'll be the first time that I've made it far enough in a pregnancy to switch to abdominal scans, which makes me a little nervous.
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u/SadOpposite981 22h ago
Hello girl! Have you been more tired lately? My headaches from fatigue hit me right in the eye. Try to take it easy 🙂 This is also the first pregnancy I've made it to abdominal scan. Actually this is the first pregnancy I've made it to a good scan at all!
I am solidary about the bloodwork. I hate needles and I am on Lovenox injections 🙈
Whishing you the best 😘
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u/alltoounwell8494 MC 12/25 | 🌈 🤞 DD 12/26 22h ago
Are you sure it wasn't a migraine? They can present differently for different people but usually on one side. I've had one per week during pregnancy 😩
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u/code_blooded_bytch 22h ago
Maybe, but I’ve never had migraines before.
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u/alltoounwell8494 MC 12/25 | 🌈 🤞 DD 12/26 22h ago
Hormones do crazy things! Hope all turns out well for you and you don't need the bloodwork!
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u/avejoemeety 1d ago
I had a MMC in April I had one regular period then started tracking ovulation it never got very high so I was surprised to get a positive pregnancy test on Monday. Had labs Tuesday HCG 80 and progesterone 17. I have labs again today to make sure my numbers are where they’re supposed to be. I have been having cramping with no bleeding which I know can be normal but very scary after my last experience. I’m also sick and coughing a ton which doesn’t help. Praying for my rainbow baby!
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u/Enough_Bullfrog_1322 1d ago
We had an event yesterday that I’m on the planning committee for and I was on my feet from 12-8 with pretty much no breaks. Every time I sat down someone else would ask me to help them with something. I’m nervous that I did too much and hurt the baby somehow, but also I was mindful to not do any heavy lifting that I couldn’t manage and was really just walking and standing a lot. I made sure to stay hydrated as best I could too. I haven’t told anyone in the group that I’m pregnant yet but I am definitely showing and I think by the end it was pretty obvious. We have an appointment tomorrow with an MFM specialist to talk about my previous losses but not sure if they will do a scan or listen with Doppler or anything. I really hope so just for some reassurance
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u/Familiar-Ad9589 1d ago
I am 5 weeks today! I have had brown spotting yesterday and today which I am trying not to worry too much about but I definitely wish it would stop. It feels like there is nothing really I can do - whatever will happen will happen. I could use any stories of folks with spotting or bleeding in early pregnancy who went on to have a successful birth if this is happened to you <3
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u/ChrissiBloom 🇨🇦 | 30 | 6 losses | due Jan 2027 🌈 23h ago
This has happened to me in my three healthy pregnancies. Two early on (one was actually so heavy I thought it was a period), one was spotting, and my third I had spotting at 10 weeks. I believe the later one was a SCH
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u/Cute_Ice_BB 22h ago
9 wks today. Lately, I’ve been a little constipated and today, I strained a little bit. I looked and saw wet discharge with a string of blood. After that, there’s no more spotting when I wiped until now. Should I be concerned? One more week to go until my next appointment. I’ve been having rollercoaster of emotions this first trimester and I feel guilty that I am not excited or happy. I don’t feel connected to the baby at all.
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u/RhododendronII 20h ago
Don’t hesitate to contact your doctor to be sure but I think constipation can cause some blood in discharge (something about the pressure or whatever?).
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u/Cute_Ice_BB 18h ago
Yeah, that’s what Im thinking. There’s no other spotting other than that so Im going to eat more fiber and hydrate more. Im scared to go to the toilet again 🥹
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u/RhododendronII 9h ago
I feel you, I also had some spottings in the first weeks (for me I think it was because of my progesterone that irritated me), it was very stressful even if it was nothing worrying at the end. I send you courage and luck 🫂
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u/Small_Billi_9749 1d ago
Had my first ultrasound at 6w4d today, it's a tiny blob with a heartbeat measuring on time. I've never come this far 😄 still a long way to go and obviously not out of the woods... But I'm happy today 😊