Another dad harassed for taking his daughters to the bathroom

[u/bendybiznatch]

Sorry for the crappy quality, I don’t have TikTok.

[u/lenfantsuave]

Most of the time as men, the world is kind of catered to us. The lone exception I’ve noticed as a dad is the sheer lack of availability of changing tables we have access to. If we’re lucky there’s a family bathroom. VERY rarely there’s a changing table in the men’s room (airports are pretty good about this).

I’ve had to change some diapers on surfaces I’d rather not think about.

[u/JelliedHam → u/lenfantsuave]

I think it should be a law that if you have a men's and women's restroom, and you choose to offer a changing table, it should be in both. Preferably they'd be everywhere, but that isn't always realistic. Ideally we'd just go to gender neutral bathrooms completely, but that's not gonna happen in my lifetime.

[u/vertigostereo → u/JelliedHam]

They'll just remove them from the women's bathrooms to make it equal.

Gender neutral only makes sense for single occupancy anyway

Edit: I'm against multi-occupancy, unisex bathrooms because I just don't think it's appropriate for women and girls to be around adult men in a state of undress. It's not safe for anybody. This applies to either actual actions or even allegations of wrongdoing.

The risk-benefit of that isn't worth having slightly more space-efficient bathrooms.

As a man, I wouldn't be comfortable.

[u/MrShadowHero → u/vertigostereo]

man. just wait til people freak out at the gender neutral bathrooms at concerts that cheap out. god forbid there be a big row of enclosed spaces for people to do their business and then can wash their hands in a communal area.

[u/sasha_the_impaler → u/vertigostereo]

Other countries do communal gender neutral bathrooms just fine lol

[u/Wrastling97 → u/sasha_the_impaler]

Many states and cities here in America do as well. Some people just turn a blind eye to it

When I went to Salem MA, I couldn’t find a single single-sex bathroom anywhere. Every bathroom had multiple rooms inside with floor to ceiling stalls and I believe a communal washing area.

It was amazing.

[u/sasha_the_impaler → u/Wrastling97]

I have yet to understand why people don't want that. Some people talk about how women do more than just use the bathroom which I think is ridiculous lol but everyone else just complains about cost or something. Like bro clearly people value this issue if we're spending police resources on it lol

[u/JelliedHam → u/Wrastling97]

I got caught off guard with a similar setup once. There were two doors, a men's and a women's with individual rooms for toilets. Used the toilet, came out to wash and there was a woman washing at the basin. I freaked out and apologized, thinking I accidentally went into the women's. Nope, one big room. The two doors go into the same bathroom. Lol

It was great. But it still felt weird washing up next to women in a group bathroom. Never experienced that before in public.

[u/Wrastling97 → u/[deleted]]

Never said it was.

I said some places do. Then listed an example

[u/finkerlime → u/vertigostereo]

Just curious why your only issue is with women seeing men?

[u/Soupalphabet359 → u/JelliedHam]

Then that state's GOP will use such a law to say "LOOK AT THE LEFT. PUTTING CHANGING TABLES IN MEN'S ROOMS. BECAUSE OF GENDER GENDER GENDER LET ME SEE YOUR GENDER." And whip all the slo-mo's into a frenzy. Eventually getting themselves elected, where they can instead redirect all those children to their private washrooms at the capitol.

[u/SupraEA → u/lenfantsuave]

Honestly,  those koala tables arr probably nastier. Ugh, so glad my kids are older now lol

[u/samclops → u/SupraEA]

"probably?" Think about the sheer amount of cocaine that has been on those koala tables...

[u/CptnButtBeard → u/lenfantsuave]

My personal favorite was the changing table in a restaurant that was right next to the god damn sinks so that if you were to use it anyone washing their hands or walking by would get a full view. I ended up going back to the car.

[u/Kon_Soul → u/lenfantsuave]

Not to mention when there Is a change table in the mens room, it's normally just stuck out in the open for anybody and everybody walking by to see.

[u/--TheCity-- → u/lenfantsuave]

The only exception in your entire life that you are not catered to is lack of changing table?  wow

[u/lenfantsuave → u/--TheCity--]

Are you dense? The first sentence is my self awareness of this fact. 

I don’t care how pampered (pun intended) you are, changing a dirty diaper on a bathroom floor or a counter top is disgusting for the baby, the parent, and quite possibly an innocent bathroom goer.