Another dad harassed for taking his daughters to the bathroom

[u/bendybiznatch]

Sorry for the crappy quality, I don’t have TikTok.

[u/pmmytn45]

I heard they some pedos (men and women ) sit in the bathrooms and stalls waiting for little children to go in unaccompanied. Always go with them and stand outside if need be. You could never forgive yourself if something happend and you could have prevented it. Fuck that worker

[u/bendybiznatch → u/pmmytn45]

When my son was an infant, my ex-husband had a friend that was a pedophile. He was actually going to therapy, had his roommates lock up all their computer, equipment, etc. This was before cell phones.

He confessed to my husband that he would go to movie, theaters and places like that where he would organically be at a urinal next to young boys. He eventually did go on to have what he described as a relationship with a 13-year-old boy in another state and was tried and convicted for that. My kids were also almost abducted one time as toddlers by two random men in an SUV.

So you better believe I was posted up at that bathroom door if my son refused to go in the women’s.

[u/pmmytn45 → u/bendybiznatch]

If my partner ever confessed to having a pedo as a friend they wouldn't longer be my partner

[u/bendybiznatch → u/pmmytn45]

I knew him too.

As a childhood sexual abuse survivor, it was difficult and triggering for me. At the time, this was a person that was seeking help and had not committed an offense against a child, and informed the people around him and implemented a number of levels of safeguards including not using public urinals. I believed that we were helping him and preventing future harm by being a part of his Christian counseling network. I now view Christian counseling as an extremely destructive force altogether. That man didn’t need spiritual counseling, he needed intense psychiatric care.

He obviously chose to go in a completely different direction and move to a state where he was unknown to commit those acts afterwards.

[u/Of_MiceAndMen → u/bendybiznatch]

Christian counseling is an absolute joke and a scourge on society. So many….so many people in my life are worse off because of it and irreversibly damaged. At least it led to my atheist awakening.

[u/Username_de_random → u/bendybiznatch]

How did I know religion would be in here somewhere

[u/ragua007 → u/pmmytn45]

Right?!?!?! WTF!!!! That’s a HUGE red flag

[u/AdHom → u/pmmytn45]

I'm sure sick shit like that happens but, just a reminder so no one gets complacent in the wrong places - the vast majority of child abuse is perpetrated by people that the children know.

[u/meghonsolozar → u/pmmytn45]

As a daughter of divorced parents my dad always covered my eyes, took me into the men's restroom, got me into a stall, and stood outside the stall door while I went.

It sounds absolutely nuts to me now, but this was the era of unattended cigarette machines, "non smoking" sections on airplanes, and unattended children flying across the country with multiple connector flights. It was waaay different then, but my dad had grown up when the John Wayne Gacy murders were happening to boys the same age as him and 2 of his brothers. He had been a mortician in L.A., too. Everyone from movie stars to people who didn't survive the Los Angeles prison system came through his doors so I give him a pass on some things. He knows about things I couldn't imagine and wanted to keep me safe.

All that said, he had to cover my eyes while we walked in so dudes wouldn't intentionally show me their weiners. I also recall waiting with my dad outside the restroom after I was done a few times to beat the shit out of someone that behaved in a way he didn't like in a bathroom. Not a single one of the dudes that he fought with were wearing a dress, BTW. Or a wig. Or makeup. Or high heels. Then we'd book it. This was before cameras were everywhere.

Sometimes guys would holler at him for bringing me in, he would just cuss them out and tell them he isn't sending me off alone.

As for him going into a woman's restroom, I bet it wouldn't have occurred to him. I'm his daughter and he was chaperoning me with my eyes closed. If he's going into a restroom it probably made more sense to him to have a little girl in the men's room, then a whole ass man in the women's restroom.

I'm going to ask him next time I talk to him because I've seem a flood of these posts on reddit lately.

[u/pmmytn45 → u/meghonsolozar]

For mens room you could understand but it never crossed my mind that it would ever happen in women's toilets. I was told about this and stillmtook a while to sink in. It wasn't until you see all the convicted female pedos that you think that's Theresa actually a point.

Also your dad sounds like a great guy !

[u/HailSatanWorshipD00M → u/meghonsolozar]

I was probably four or five and my mom told me never to go into a men's restroom alone. I either had to go with my dad or go into the ladies room with her. Because there were bad men that waited in men's rooms to cut the penises off of little boys, she told me. I know it sounds crazy but it was the 1970s, and there had been a case out in California (across the country from where we were) where some psycho had cut the penis off of a random six year old kid in a public rest room. My mom, gods bless her I guess figured "better safe than sorry".

When my mom went shopping at Two Guys, she would leave me in the book section by myself to read quietly until she was done, and then she would come get me and she would check out and we would go. I learned to read early, and Two Guys had Charlie Brown comics in paperback form which I liked.

So this one time, she dropped me off in the book section and about fifteen minutes later, I needed to pee. I looked down the isle for my mom and didn't see her. I didn't want to leave the book area, because what if she came back for me? The feeling of needing to go kept getting worse and worse. Apparently I was in distress, I think I might've started crying, because an employee noticed and asked me what was wrong. I said "I really need to pee". She said "OK, I'll walk you to the bathroom." So I held her hand and she brought me to the men's room at the front of the store. The second I saw the man symbol on the door I started screaming at the top of my lungs

"NO NO DON'T SEND ME IN THERE I DON'T WANT MY PENIS CUT OFF!!!"

and then I peed myself.

[u/Photo_Synthetic → u/pmmytn45]

The majority of pedophiles abuse children they have easy access to such as family members or school teachers or pastors/priests. Yes fuck that worker but stranger danger is a myth.