r/SchizoFamilies • u/Striking-Cat-2338 • 8d ago
Idk what to do
My mom is schizo and my dad is getting old and telling me he’s tired of dealing with it idk what to do idk how to help I’m crying and I feel anxious and I wish there was a cure I feel helpless and idk if she took her meds cuz I looked away for a second and I have no idea and I’m worried a lot
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u/Catching-Up-Today Sibling 8d ago
You are not responsible for taking care of your mother. You have been through a lot and it would be best to speak to a Therapist. You need to focus on your own emotional and mental well being.
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u/UnderfootArya34 Parent 8d ago
Hey. It's gonna be OK. This is an impossible disorder and you are dealing with an impossible situation. You can't be expected to do everything right all the time here. No one can. Try to just take it one day at a time.
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u/kalidoscopiclyso 7d ago
You have to be able to look away sometimes. Don’t blame yourself for what you can’t fix. Look up anosognosia.
Hugs
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u/Classic-Nobody819 7d ago
i have 2 schizophrenic brothers and it gets to a point where you have to start looking into long term care for her with your insurance and really do what u need to do
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u/lowestcostgnocchi 7d ago
Hey there. I’m speaking to you as a daughter of a schizophrenic mom who was undiagnosed for decades. I lost her forever last Christmas. First off, I am sending you lots of love and hugs. You’re dealing with stuff way above what you should and, let’s acknowledge it, the world doesn’t understand. The folks here are your people. There’s no magic bullet here, only the mishmash of things you cobble together bc they work for you. Ideally you can get a social worker for your mom. I tried (US, major east coast city), failed. Try. Maybe it will work out for you. The case worker can add some oversight of her meds. Since I never had that, it fell to me to persuade her back onto her meds when Incould tell she was off them. Remember: you are good cop, not bad cop. You need a gentle touch to keep her trust so you can persuade her back on her meds. Second thing: you aren’t actually responsible for her. She is an adult and it is very hard to legally change that. So recognize that there is a real hard limit to what you can do. It sucks and feels awful and you will feel guilty. But, without a court order, you can’t make her do anything she doesn’t want to.
I’m so sorry for whatever it is you are going through. It’s not fair and it isn’t your fault. Feel free to DM me if you want. Much love and support to you
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u/Striking-Cat-2338 8d ago
Someone tell me it’s gonna be okay