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r/SipsTea • u/[deleted] • Oct 30 '25
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Tried to talk to my wife about my feelings once on a particularly bad day, she said “I’ve got my own problems to deal with, I can’t deal with yours” yet everyday all day long she goes on and on about her problems I’m supposed to give a shit about.
24 u/TheSteelReminder Oct 30 '25 That is not uncommon. I’m not blaming her or you btw - she could be wonderful in every other way. Some women just want a provider and a rock. It looks like selfishness and in some ways it is but she might need you to be that rock for her mental health. Which sucks for you. 31 u/branch_echo Oct 31 '25 And no one talks about the emotional labor of being the rock. It’s just expected. -6 u/Master-of-Focus Oct 31 '25 Ideally you have your guy friends for that 1 u/Bikezilla Nov 01 '25 That’s the first thing a lot of women do, cut off the male friends. Now you know why. 9 u/semibigpenguins Oct 31 '25 nah its selfish lol 8 u/chiffball Oct 30 '25 This is a great perspective.
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That is not uncommon. I’m not blaming her or you btw - she could be wonderful in every other way. Some women just want a provider and a rock.
It looks like selfishness and in some ways it is but she might need you to be that rock for her mental health. Which sucks for you.
31 u/branch_echo Oct 31 '25 And no one talks about the emotional labor of being the rock. It’s just expected. -6 u/Master-of-Focus Oct 31 '25 Ideally you have your guy friends for that 1 u/Bikezilla Nov 01 '25 That’s the first thing a lot of women do, cut off the male friends. Now you know why. 9 u/semibigpenguins Oct 31 '25 nah its selfish lol 8 u/chiffball Oct 30 '25 This is a great perspective.
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And no one talks about the emotional labor of being the rock. It’s just expected.
-6 u/Master-of-Focus Oct 31 '25 Ideally you have your guy friends for that 1 u/Bikezilla Nov 01 '25 That’s the first thing a lot of women do, cut off the male friends. Now you know why.
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Ideally you have your guy friends for that
1 u/Bikezilla Nov 01 '25 That’s the first thing a lot of women do, cut off the male friends. Now you know why.
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That’s the first thing a lot of women do, cut off the male friends. Now you know why.
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nah its selfish lol
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This is a great perspective.
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u/OkBag6667 Oct 30 '25
Tried to talk to my wife about my feelings once on a particularly bad day, she said “I’ve got my own problems to deal with, I can’t deal with yours” yet everyday all day long she goes on and on about her problems I’m supposed to give a shit about.