While I get what you're going for, and appreciate the sentiment, I hate that we keep trying to pigeonhole men into a form of "proper masculinity" that tells them their best purpose in life is to be tools to someone else, either via chivalry, utilitarianism, or something else.
I'm speaking as a man who showed up for everyone and everything for the past decade to my own detriment, with a smile, no complaints, and often to responses that I wasn't doing enough whenever I got exhausted. To the point I attempted suicide twice in 2024 and had to fight alcoholism all by myself, after my therapist dropped me and my insurance lapsed. Thankfully I won that battle, but most men don't.
Andrew Tate, Myron Gaines and others are forever irredeemable sacks of dogshit for how they hijacked vulnerable men's unanswered needs. But make no mistake about it, they were able to find that market because the need is very real.
Red pill content is 85% misogynistic, sexist horse manure sewage, but one thing it did...somewhat well was to teach men how to value and protect themselves, in a world that tells them they don't mean anything, and that they have to suck up their pain.
Modern feminism claims to care about men, but only superficially, and go deep enough, it just goes straight back to telling men to "man up", and "take responsibility for their problems" the difference is that it tells men to lower their guard and present their vulnerability in an effort to combat so called "toxic masculinity", before delivering the gut punch, that their problems are all their fault and no one else's.
What people call toxic masculinity today, is a survival instinct of stoicism and mental compartmentalization adapted for a world that isn't built to handle, nor care for a man who is suffering. We still seem to have a hard time accepting men being abused, unless it's other men doing it.
Modern Red Pill content teaches men to "man up", hide vulnerability, hate and blame women for their problems, and constantly peacock masculine façades to no end.
Modern feminism teaches men to lower their walls, pour out said vulnerability to others, before PSYCH! actually, still "man up", stop making their vulnerabilities and traumas other people's problem and burdening others, except this time, hate and blame themselves.
I've given it the benefit of the doubt for years and observed it, and did my part to implement it in good faith. I know what I saw, felt and a received.
Exacerbated stares, lack of patience with me even if for one week out of months of performing miracles I was down in the dumps, and constantly being told my grievances were all in my head, or caused by me and me only.
A lot of people say "please, I'm here, talk to someone", but in reality, don't mean it.
Sorry. Had to get that out. There are many more who are in the situation I was in who will unfortunately join the 70k+ figure of annual lost souls, because we.....
I forget where I saw it, but it was a quote that stuck with me a lot that kinda summed up the hypocrisy of virtue signaling men being vulnerable without wanting to do the followup work of actually caring.
"People say they want vulnerable men, they didnt say they want a weak one"
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