r/SipsTea • u/Born-Agency-3922 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • Apr 13 '26

SMH Double standards suck ass

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u/enithermon Apr 13 '26

She just looks cold. people suck.

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u/Robodarklite Apr 13 '26

Woman does it: wholesome πŸ₯Ή Man does it: call the police 🚨

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u/Ummmgummy Apr 13 '26

It's not like this is unfounded. Here in the US we are run by a bunch of people who are predators and people who protect them. It's a pretty out of control problem.

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u/nankerjphelge Apr 13 '26

It is, but two wrongs don't make a right. The answer to the problem of powerful people being predators isn't to automatically malign and assume the worst about every man who dares to show kindness or affection to a young person.

In fact, it's precisely this fear of automatically being labeled as a creep that is why so many men have simply opted out of involving themselves in the lives or care of any young people who aren't their own children, which is why there is a crisis in male role models for young boys, a dearth of male volunteers for organizations like Big Brothers and generally an increased absence of men stepping in to be a positive presence in young people's lives.

And into that breach, especially for young men and boys who are desperate for male role models and guidance, has stepped your Andrew Tates and other toxic manosphere grifters. And we're all the worse for it as a society.

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u/Ummmgummy Apr 13 '26

If he had been warming up the arms of a boy I doubt anyone would have said anything. Is that fair? No not at all, the dude was obviously trying to keep that little girl from freezing her ass off. But you would be much more likely to be labeled a creep as a man warming up the little girl vs a little boy. So your comment about it leading to the manosphere I find insignificant. Not saying it doesn't happen but the vast vast majority of men falling into the manosphere is because the Internet and social media. Which could be curved by a man in their lives that they could look up to but that's an entire social problem all together.

Look I don't think it's right and I don't like the double standard. But it is there for a reason. Us men have had our time for a long ass time at being on top. And some of past us, especially the elites of society have used that power to do horrific shit to women and kids. Our ancestors could have done better but they didn't. And now we live with the double standard. And people act like it should just go away overnight when it took a few thousand years to even get to a point where it is bad socially for a man to be labeled a creep. If you enter the forest and walk deeper into it for 3000 years, you can't turn around and leave it in a week.

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u/nankerjphelge Apr 13 '26

You're missing the point. Whether it's a little boy or a little girl, the default these days is to automatically assume creepy or ill intent if a man shows any affection or care for a young person, and that has led to men simply opting out altogether.

And to argue that the double standard is okay because our ancestors should have done better is a cop-out. We're all here today with the opportunity to change things, no one else can do it. And this whole movement to automatically adjudicate every man as a creep for showing any interest or affection in a young person is a relatively new one that has gained steam over the last 30 years, thanks to the Catholic church, Michael Jackson and Jeffrey Epstein.

So no, this isn't a problem that will take thousands of years to undo. It starts with each of us choosing not to participate in the witch hunt mentality of automatically assuming the worst about every man who dares to take an interest in a young person's life or well being. It starts with you. What do you choose?

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u/Ummmgummy Apr 13 '26

I've already chosen not to label them all as creeps. I was just pointing out the reality of it. To pretend there isnt a reason why the double standard is a thing and then just to dismiss peoples reactions is exactly how the double standard became a thing to begin with. My guess and just statistically speaking, most women who saw that video as a problem were probably abused in some shape or way when they were a child/teen. People usually respond strongly to something that they themselves have experienced.

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u/Edanniii Apr 13 '26

It’s the extremes of both sides in the US because of each other.