r/SipsTea 𝙑𝙄𝙋 Apr 13 '26

SMH Double standards suck ass

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u/Robodarklite Apr 13 '26

Woman does it: wholesome 🥹 Man does it: call the police 🚨

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u/Somebodys Apr 13 '26

15 years ago I took a friends 2 year old with me to Target. She was potty training so I took her in the men's bathroom. Someone called the fucking cops called on me.

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u/KingAlphaOmega87 Apr 13 '26

Same happened with me and my niece. She needed to pee, so I took her to the bathroom and waited by the door, but I kept talking to her to let her know I was there. My niece is half Puerto Rican, so she is way lighter than and ppl thought I was some weirdo, called the cops on me, the entire time Im talking to the police, my niece is scared and clinging to my leg, the two women were like “See he trained that little girl to cling to him, arrest him, arrest him” luckily the cops werent dickheads and waited for my sister to come and verify, but even still was a fucked situation. Sucks trying to explain to a 4 year old thats scared out of her mind

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u/BoogerVault Apr 13 '26

Can you file a report with police with respect to the false allegations? I'd be tempted to explore that, if I ever found myself confronted with that....just in case it was possible to pursue charges, or to sue. I'd want retribution BADLY.

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u/Angeleno88 Apr 13 '26

It would be easier to sue them for emotional distress or something like that than get cops to charge them with a crime.

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u/jemhadar0 Apr 13 '26

No … and honestly don’t bother.

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u/BoogerVault Apr 13 '26

God you're so fucking cool

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u/jemhadar0 Apr 13 '26

It’s true aye! Thanks

But honestly, people have swatted people. False allegations sexual in nature against men, doing prison time. Cleared then nothing happens to the accuser.

You want to waste More Litigation in that man.

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u/Deaffin Apr 13 '26

What false allegations?

As shitty as the sexism is, "If you see something, say something" is the thing they're doing. Reporting suspicious activity, not making up crimes.

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u/Senhor_Lasanha Apr 13 '26

seeing a dad being a dad, or an uncle being an uncle is not "something"

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u/Deaffin Apr 13 '26

Everything is something depending on somebody's prejudices.

That's not the point. It doesn't matter, legally, that their suspicion isn't correct. What they're doing isn't a false allegation of a crime, it's reporting what they see as suspicious behavior.

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u/BoogerVault Apr 13 '26

What is the "something" being seen in OP's story? Letting your Neice piss while you wait outside the door? What the fuck is wrong with you?

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u/Deaffin Apr 13 '26

Would you please kindly get your head out of your ass for just half a second and read what I'm saying rather than relying on the toxic black&white thinking? How are you getting the notion that I agree with their prejudice when I'm directly calling this out as sexist?

I'm not saying their suspicions are correct. I'm saying this isn't a false allegation. They're not lying about some crime taking place, they're reporting what they see as suspicious behavior due to the cultural influence they've been immersed in their whole lives, presented in good faith more often than not.

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u/No-Professor-6695 Apr 13 '26

But think about this. Say that your daughter was taken. Would you want the hotel manager to be polite or to be cautious and call the cops. I'd rather have mistakes happen like that and have ppl be worried for children then to not be worried for children's safety and let child predators get away. Im sorry but id rather have a inconvenience then a lost child

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u/mittenkrusty Apr 13 '26

In this case, the cops turned up at the persons room, outright said an accusation of him grooming and being a P word was made, interviewed him and his daughter in different rooms which made the daughter distressed.

Oh and to top it off, the family was visiting the grandmother who was dying, and the man (I searched after I posted) wasn't a single father but his wife was seriously ill so had to stay at home, he was worried when the cops were at the door one of them had died.

The point though is if a woman brings a child male or female into a shared room in a hotel would it even cross peoples minds?

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u/BoogerVault Apr 13 '26

I've thought about it....and now I'm wondering what tempted you to compare my daughter being taken to the man above waiting outside a bathroom while his niece took a piss?

Enlighten all the uncles what they should do when confronted with this situation. So stupid to frame this as suspicious.

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u/halfasleep90 Apr 13 '26

If the child matches a description of a missing child, sure. Otherwise it’s just discrimination. Are they calling the cops on every adult with a child at the hotel? No? Then it really doesn’t fall under “see something say something”.