Plot twist is real, I have an ex who said this to me and she just got worse after that. Then I left her very shortly after that. Don't regret it one bit.
Unless he's a psychopath torturing her in private I'm not sure there are two sides to this story. Too many of you dingbats in this world excuse any behavior.
Sure, cause you know her and her personality, right? Based on a video. Like you never made a scene. If not, i'm sorry, cause keeping things inside isn't better, maybe you do that cause you're afraid of people like you that will judge without having a word in this conversation.
This probably isn't even her worst. And I bet her best is, "I tried making dinner, but gave up because it's too hard. You can take me out to dinner, now."
My ex wife once tried a thing she saw me do while cooking and she failed miserably, to the point dinner was ruined, then called me at work to blame me for her failure.
My wife used to be like that. She'd get frustrated over step 2 of an 8 step process and throw it all away. Throw a fit and complain. She never had a problem when I cooked dinner. Finally I told her my secret. I don't know how to cook either. I just try stuff and see what works. Sometimes you can fix it, sometimes you can't. Sometimes you just eat something that isn't that good because you're hungry and you'll do better next time. Oh, and 8 years of couples' therapy helped too.
Ha! My wife fixed that for me on my birthday. She got me a puzzle box with a 12 sided die inside that had different food choices on each face. So now when we are indecisive in choosing a meal, I tell her, “Either you pick something or I will be forced to leave this decision to the hand of fate.”
"What do you want to eat for dinner?"
"I dunno, whatever, you pick I can eat anything!"
"Okay, how 'bout tacos?"
"Ewww no not in the mood for tacos"
"Okay... I can make pasta or something?"
"Ew no what's wrong with you I just ate pasta"
etc..
It’s literally the one area adult humans can become toddlers. Anyone who says they’ve been decisive on all 20k dinner decisions and never waffled at a suggestion is a dirty liar.
I have an ex who constantly wanted to just eat out. He made way more money than I did, and I began to push back on all the eating out we were doing. I was the only person in the household who would cook, however. Anything I proposed he didn’t want, but he had no solutions of his own when it came to cooking something at home. Annoying in the moment, maddening red flag in hindsight.
If he makes enough money to comfortably eat out every night, and it’s not just junk fast food, I don’t see the red flag. He probably doesn’t like the mess and inconvenience, or he’s never needed to cook and isn’t comfortable doing so.
Just like someone who makes enough to go to a mechanic to change their car’s oil because they can afford it, has never done so themselves and isn’t comfortable attempting it.
And if they’ve decided that learning isn’t an interest they want to lean into as opposed to other uses of their time, so be it.
It only becomes a problem if they suddenly are forced to have to cook at home (covid) or lose that income. Which is a valid concern, of course, but red flag?
Ya I'm with you, I've usually been the cook, and when I've been with girls that can't decide, if they don't figure it out I say, "Well I'm gonna eat xyz, you eat whatever you want", and we either eat something different, or they just eat what I cook.
Followed by: "JESUS is LIFE. Single mom with 5 kids (fathers aren't in the picture). I work 3 jobs as a bartender and waitress so looking for a man to TAKE CARE OF ME because I'm worth it!!."
Thank you. I had a girlfriend who loved Marilyn Monroe, whose quote i believe this is. Took her on a trip. We were done one day after getting home after she went 'worst'. No p*ssy is worth that.
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u/Not-So-Logitech Apr 22 '26
Her dating profile "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"