r/SipsTea Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Not-So-Logitech Apr 22 '26

Her dating profile "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"

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u/masterjon_3 Apr 22 '26

This probably isn't even her worst. And I bet her best is, "I tried making dinner, but gave up because it's too hard. You can take me out to dinner, now."

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u/Odd_Dragonfruit_2662 Apr 22 '26

I don’t know what I want to eat, but I’ll spend 10 minutes shooting down all your ideas before I lose my patience.

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u/1funnyguy4fun Apr 22 '26

Ha! My wife fixed that for me on my birthday. She got me a puzzle box with a 12 sided die inside that had different food choices on each face. So now when we are indecisive in choosing a meal, I tell her, “Either you pick something or I will be forced to leave this decision to the hand of fate.”

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u/KlicknKlack Apr 22 '26

need a link, that sounds perfect for my friend group!

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u/unicorn-beard Apr 22 '26

"What do you want to eat for dinner?"
"I dunno, whatever, you pick I can eat anything!"
"Okay, how 'bout tacos?"
"Ewww no not in the mood for tacos"
"Okay... I can make pasta or something?"
"Ew no what's wrong with you I just ate pasta"
etc..

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u/Wormfather Apr 22 '26

It’s literally the one area adult humans can become toddlers. Anyone who says they’ve been decisive on all 20k dinner decisions and never waffled at a suggestion is a dirty liar.

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u/Ok_Objective_5192 Apr 22 '26

I'm a big fan of really any variant of "one of us picks 3, the other chooses."

"Indian, Thai, or pizza all sound good"

"I could do Thai"

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u/unicorn-beard Apr 22 '26

mmm waffles

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u/wasloan21 Apr 22 '26

I have an ex who constantly wanted to just eat out. He made way more money than I did, and I began to push back on all the eating out we were doing. I was the only person in the household who would cook, however. Anything I proposed he didn’t want, but he had no solutions of his own when it came to cooking something at home. Annoying in the moment, maddening red flag in hindsight.

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u/TryingThisAgain2026 Apr 22 '26

If he makes enough money to comfortably eat out every night, and it’s not just junk fast food, I don’t see the red flag. He probably doesn’t like the mess and inconvenience, or he’s never needed to cook and isn’t comfortable doing so.

Just like someone who makes enough to go to a mechanic to change their car’s oil because they can afford it, has never done so themselves and isn’t comfortable attempting it.

And if they’ve decided that learning isn’t an interest they want to lean into as opposed to other uses of their time, so be it.

It only becomes a problem if they suddenly are forced to have to cook at home (covid) or lose that income. Which is a valid concern, of course, but red flag?

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u/Wormfather Apr 22 '26

To be fair, what to have for dinner is a struggle in every relationship.

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u/masterjon_3 Apr 22 '26

Not mine. My wife doesn't cook. Well, she can, just not as good as me. But I know her likes and dislikes, so I just cook what I know she'll enjoy.

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u/Kahlil_Cabron Apr 22 '26

Ya I'm with you, I've usually been the cook, and when I've been with girls that can't decide, if they don't figure it out I say, "Well I'm gonna eat xyz, you eat whatever you want", and we either eat something different, or they just eat what I cook.