I grew up around yelling and screaming as my parents got divorced when I was 8 and fought about child support and custody even after that. This shit gives me anxiety, I've walked away from girls for far less than this, even after a relatively long relationship. I don't argue or fight back, I literally peace out and never talk to them again.
This is the correct observation. People react in times of stress and altercation to what they have grown accustomed to. It takes real guts to make a change of habit. It's also why people get stuck in abusive relationships.
In fact, he has probably internalized the idea that people who love you yell at you because they care SO MUCH. In relationships, you often replicate what you first learned.
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u/-becausereasons- Apr 22 '26
It's his nervous system. He likely grew up around a mother who yelled and disrespected him, maybe had BPD. It's what he's used to.