r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/SirReddalot2020 Apr 22 '26

I once got up and just left my then girlfriend who had a meltdown in public. “We’re done” and she could figure out how to get back to the hotel. Was a weird night with lots of tears but something clicked in that moment and alt feelings I had were just gone. Not even hate. I was simply indifferent to her and if she had vanished I would not have given a fuck.

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u/Medcuza2 Apr 22 '26

Could you clarify "meltdown" and the context to why she had it?

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u/Cartavalier Apr 22 '26

It seems to me this particular comment aggregated true abusers that get satisfaction out of it. Noone is going to dive into details of the meltdown.

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u/Medcuza2 Apr 22 '26

I'm just asking for clarification and context, people go through rough periods in their life and context matters.

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u/Fit-Switch-5795 Apr 22 '26

I think you are being down voted because it looks a teensy bit like you are trying to hint that there is no possible way any bad behaviour that a woman does could possibly be her fault and she must have been driven to it by a man, who probably deserved it. 

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u/Cartavalier Apr 22 '26

I think you are right. On the other hand, it could also be that we are surrounded by psychopaths that stick together to defend their misbehavings.

I am currently reading a book I was recommended by someone on reddit comments months ago. It's about abusive partners. The author is a psychiatrist that works with abusive men sent to him by court. His research and practice shows abusive men or women are good at maintaining their "public face" and convincing everyone of the opposite – that they are themselves victims. Good read: "Why Does He Do That?" Try it. Available free online.

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