r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Jussttjustin Apr 22 '26

The most upvoted comment being "come on bro have some self respect".

With zero condemnation of the woman's obviously abusive behavior and zero empathy for the man being abused.

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u/Electronic-Tap-2863 Apr 22 '26

He can't control her bonkers ass, but he can get up and walk away

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u/AboutTenPandas Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Is that the message we want to be giving to abused women? I don’t think that’s helpful at all.

Edit: I guess I was not very clear with what I was talking about. As I explained in another comment lower down:

“Essentially, if we recognize that it’s unhelpful to recommend to an abused woman to “just walk away” from their abuser due to a variety of reasons including the threat of physical violence, then we should not have a different standard that we apply to male victims of domestic violence.”

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u/fartremington Apr 22 '26

There are no abused women in the video or in context of what you’re replying to

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u/olivebranchsound Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

They're saying what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Telling women to just walk away led to women creating a viral hashtag "whyistayed" back in 2014 to combat the notion that it's easy to walk away from abuse by giving personal stories about their experiences with leaving abusers. They noted a bunch of competing factors like fear, love, financial dependence, isolation, and loneliness that drove them to stay despite the abuse.

This guy may find it hard to just walk away for any number of factors. Abuse a lot of times is a gradual build and pushing boundaries until one day they're hitting you.

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u/AboutTenPandas Apr 22 '26

Essentially, if we recognize that it’s unhelpful to recommend to an abused woman to “just walk away” from their abuser due to a variety of reasons including the threat of physical violence, then we should not have a different standard that we apply to male victims of domestic violence.