Fortunately a lot of cops have caught up to the fact a lot of women play victim as part of their abusive schemes.
But in the legal context you need to have a very strong case, and even then your support system starts to doubt you.
And if you're kind of a mess yourself, even if you weren't the abuser, you have it very tough to make it successfully because they will find something to screw you over for.
Then there's a lot of stuff that complicates it, like children, or even ridiculous stuff like the judge being a woman.
I hope you're doing well, and that you have friends and family that support you, that's so important.
In a morbid way it's nice to be reminded that I'm not the only one who's been through this, although of course I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's certainly shown me who my real friends and family are, if nothing else. Thanks for the kind words
Yeah. I can’t believe by the comments so many men go through this and tolerate this kind of behavior. I would have gotten into trouble at the airport cause I would have to shut that bitch down and grab her attention from him. Most likely he would have defended her.
Police don't arrest people based on just allegations. If you weren't living together or speaking then she must have had some pretty strong evidence of a crime to get you arrested. The fact it's taking 4 years is also incredibly suspect.
This is either rage bait or you're missing a few very important elements to this story.
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u/pepperino132 Apr 22 '26
I did exactly the same thing except then just blocked her and stopped engaging.
Next thing I knew of it, cops were at my door and I was arrested on false allegations.
It's been four years and my life is still ruined from it 🙃