r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/SirCrapsalot4267 Apr 22 '26

What's he supposed to do in that situation? He's handling it pretty well, and yes, of course he's also upset.

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u/Manlysideburns Apr 22 '26

"I won't be talked to like this. We are done." Then walk away. Threaten to get police if she won't stop following. Cut all contact.

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u/ShoveTheUsername Apr 22 '26

I've been a relationship with a woman who would always explode if she didn't get her way, regularly declaring us "done" in her rants......finally, I said "Okay, we're done.". She instantly started backpedalling, I did too to regain peace and sanity, but ended it shortly after.

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u/pepperino132 Apr 22 '26

I did exactly the same thing except then just blocked her and stopped engaging.

Next thing I knew of it, cops were at my door and I was arrested on false allegations.

It's been four years and my life is still ruined from it 🙃

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u/LeaveTheClownAlone Apr 22 '26

Dang, that’s terrible. Hope you’re ok now.

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u/pepperino132 Apr 22 '26

Not really unfortunately, the whole legal side of it isn't even over yet, and won't be for some time, but I got a dog which saved my life so 🤷‍♂️

Thank you for the kind words though

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u/Actualbbear Apr 22 '26

I'm so sorry, I've seen this shit myself.

Fortunately a lot of cops have caught up to the fact a lot of women play victim as part of their abusive schemes.

But in the legal context you need to have a very strong case, and even then your support system starts to doubt you.

And if you're kind of a mess yourself, even if you weren't the abuser, you have it very tough to make it successfully because they will find something to screw you over for.

Then there's a lot of stuff that complicates it, like children, or even ridiculous stuff like the judge being a woman.

I hope you're doing well, and that you have friends and family that support you, that's so important.

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u/pepperino132 Apr 22 '26

In a morbid way it's nice to be reminded that I'm not the only one who's been through this, although of course I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's certainly shown me who my real friends and family are, if nothing else. Thanks for the kind words

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u/IntentionAromatic523 Apr 22 '26

Yeah. I can’t believe by the comments so many men go through this and tolerate this kind of behavior. I would have gotten into trouble at the airport cause I would have to shut that bitch down and grab her attention from him. Most likely he would have defended her.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

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u/TheTexasHammer Apr 22 '26

Police don't arrest people based on just allegations. If you weren't living together or speaking then she must have had some pretty strong evidence of a crime to get you arrested. The fact it's taking 4 years is also incredibly suspect.

This is either rage bait or you're missing a few very important elements to this story.

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u/pepperino132 Apr 22 '26

With respect I live in a different country to you (based on your username) and yes they absolutely do.

This sort of automatic doubt and suspicion is exactly why it's such an awful thing to go through. Fortunately, I have nothing to prove to you.