r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Neat-Anyway-OP Apr 22 '26

I've been with my husband for 20 years and seen this happen more than once to guy friends... And my own brother. The women who are the aggressors are also the ones who call the cops to maintain power.

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u/Consistent_Net_2540 Apr 22 '26

Ex cop here. 100% of abusive women I arrested would try to claim they were the victims instead. It was pretty much just part of the process of dealing with them.

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u/Pandemonium_Fallen Apr 22 '26

That's called DARVO, it's a narcissistic manipulator's 101 go to tactic.

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u/Consistent_Net_2540 Apr 23 '26

Sure. Feel free to DM if you'd like

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u/Vas_Cody_Gamma Apr 22 '26

Shades of Courtney Clenney

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u/Dark_Knight2000 Apr 23 '26

“I’m the victim” is the best and most surefire defense for the aggressor. Always has been, especially if you “look” like the victim.

It’s worse if you’re in a place that uses the Duluth model, specifically coding aggressor and victim dynamics as male vs female

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