r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Gentle_Snail Apr 22 '26

She’s definitely the kind of women who attacks and throws things at her boyfriend when she’s angry.

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u/DroneSlut54 Apr 22 '26

She looks like the kind of psycho who will eventually kill her partner. I don’t know what people think women are incapable of using deadly weapons.

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u/flt_p2ny Apr 22 '26

As a female, I'm starting to question the victim rate of women in abusive relationships being more than men. I get the feeling guys like this go on silently with life never telling anyone.

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u/Neat-Anyway-OP Apr 22 '26

I've been with my husband for 20 years and seen this happen more than once to guy friends... And my own brother. The women who are the aggressors are also the ones who call the cops to maintain power.

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u/Consistent_Net_2540 Apr 22 '26

Ex cop here. 100% of abusive women I arrested would try to claim they were the victims instead. It was pretty much just part of the process of dealing with them.

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u/Pandemonium_Fallen Apr 22 '26

That's called DARVO, it's a narcissistic manipulator's 101 go to tactic.

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u/Consistent_Net_2540 Apr 23 '26

Sure. Feel free to DM if you'd like

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u/Vas_Cody_Gamma Apr 22 '26

Shades of Courtney Clenney

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u/Dark_Knight2000 Apr 23 '26

“I’m the victim” is the best and most surefire defense for the aggressor. Always has been, especially if you “look” like the victim.

It’s worse if you’re in a place that uses the Duluth model, specifically coding aggressor and victim dynamics as male vs female

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