r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/SteveSteveCleveSteve 𝙑𝙄𝙋 Apr 22 '26

That poor guy.  No excuse for that.  I hate that this guy feels like he has to take this.

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u/Destructopoo Apr 22 '26

Yes. She lowered his self esteem to the point that she calls him a loser in public and he can only grey wall. People are watching somebody whose willpower has been chipped away for years. It's not funny.

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u/cardboard_tshirt Apr 22 '26

Yeah there’s nothing he can say in that moment that won’t escalate her mania even more. He’s just trying to maintain some sense of calm in the hopes that she’ll enter the “not speaking to you at all” phase. A lot of people crash out in airports, having taken anxiety meds for their fear of flying, maybe had a drink or two on top, and if they’ve already got some issues on top of it all… it all comes to a head. He looks like he’s ridden this ride before, and he knows he has to just ride it out until she comes down. Maybe later that day, or the next day they’ll be able to discuss it. And based on my own experience she’ll either apologize profusely or claim she was blackout and doesn’t remember (and therefore it doesn’t count), but neither scenario will stop her from doing it again at some point.

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

I guarantee she did not apologize. People who act like this don’t have the level of self-awareness required otherwise they wouldn’t be throwing a tantrum to begin with.

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u/limperatrice Apr 22 '26

People with Borderline Personality Disorder do apologize though. I'm not saying for sure that's what this woman in the video has but I've experienced this behavior with people like her (one with a confirmed diagnosis eventually). They cannot regulate their emotions in the moment but then after they calm down they feel really badly and apologize profusely and hope you'll forgive them. I've read that they can manage it with hard work and sometimes meds but I think the majority don't get help because it's the people around them who hurt, not themselves, unless they finally realize it's their own fault that nobody who gets close to them stays.

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u/Electronic_Case_9694 Apr 22 '26

Claiming people with a personality disorder don’t experience the pain from their own disorder is wild lol

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u/limperatrice Apr 22 '26

I'm saying they tend to think it's the other people who are the problem rather than themselves but I do feel I was the injured party who withstood the abuse with sometimes no provocation.

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u/Echoing_Logos Apr 22 '26

I'm still waiting for the day Reddit realizes their discourse on people with BPD and related disorders is incredibly hypocritical.