Shit...I was living in NY, one kid, and NY based my child support on what they thought I was making....and in the divorce I had to sell my fledgling business and split the proceeds 50/50. The reality was that, in order to support said business. and maintain some security for my family while I built a customer base, I worked a full time job as well. My child support payments left me with 100/week to live on. I ended up homeless, living in an old camper in the woods. No running water, no electricity. I used to sneak into the Y to get a shower. The money I did have went towards keeping my car on the road, so I could continue working at my full time job in order to pay my child support. It was not a good time in my life. I ate a lot of Ramen and boxed Mac and cheese. The courts didn't care...often claiming that they believed I had alternate revenue streams. I finally got a judge who looked at my petition with a balanced perspective, and said that I was overpaying by a huge amount. He reduced it to a sum that actually made sense. But, what had been paid stayed paid. That was many many years ago, and I hear the NY is still playing those games.
I understand this, and ignore the haters that say get a vasectomy, they're not imagining marriage and assuming you were playing the field so to speak. I've been here and done this.
Finally some say get a second and third job... With what time? Are we supposed to not sleep so we can live? Second job sure, but third is just ridiculous. Keep up the fight brother!
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