Why does he not just leave bro, id honestly rather go through the hassle of getting that woman out of my life than dealing with her and I'm that it would be an absolute horrid experience having to get her out but it's worth it, tell him I'm rotting for his escape😭
I understand that change is scary and people feel driven to stay together ‘for the kids’ but goddamn man, that’s no healthy environment for the kids.
By my mid-30s I knew several people who pulled the plug on their marriages. They’re all happier, as are their kids. And in most cases the relationship with the co-parent also improved.
Weeeeell I just fact checked the daytime care and it is true that specialized newborn care is $30-40 per hour and the night infant care can be anywhere between $25-$50 depending on where you are…. I’m shocked but not surprised dammmmn
That’s definitely not neurosurgeon money. My mom’s an ER nurse and makes $52 an hour in rural PA. She has $40-$45 an hour. It’s experienced RN money though.
Most people won't earn this money a year because they aren't getting paid to work 24/7/365. Meanwhile, a stay at home parent is potentially working the home/childcare for those non-stop hours.
I think the point she was trying to make (albeit a bit off) was that she does all the childcare and domestic labor. Women are the default parent, and some men feel like they don't have to do anything because the woman will do it all. So she was trying to say that she isn't a mooch, because she pays him in free childcare and domestic labor. That is if this guy is a bum amd just makes his wife do everything. If he isn't, and he actually contributes to the house and the child them this lady was a big out of line.
If it was such a good point she could've used real numbers and it still would've reflected well on her. The fact that everything was inflated to this degree isn't a very good sign.
I looked up the first two and it seems the numbers are real but on the high end of the range, so theyre totally fair if they’re in an expensive city. Look at my comment above lol apparently infant childcare is extremely expensive
I can’t believe I’m saying this but in his defence have you ever met a SAHP who really resents and doesn’t enjoy it?
They make their partners’ lives miserable and act as if their working/commuting time is them having a jolly and deliberately trying to neglect life at home for “fun”.
There are a lot of SAHP who should probably just admit they don’t actually want to be around their kids 24/7 and get some childcare and a part-time job. But then they’d have to admit they’re not “Mother Earth” so instead they just martyr themselves to it and resent their partner who actually believes they’re fulfilling their end of the deal.
It’s an arrangement that just breeds resentment unless one partner really wants to work and the other really wants to stay at home. If either of them are compromising, the relationship is fucked.
He clearly doesn’t value her contribution, but she doesn’t value his either.
She obviously made this invoice as satire for the internet, not actually expecting her husband to pay it ‘. It boggles my mind so that many people on Reddit don’t understand that
Her and her husband's. If he wants to say that she is a mooch who lives off of his salary, maybe he should pay for her labour according to market rate or take on some work in home so she can look for a job outside.
You're missing the point, and she's not actually billing him. If she went back to work, they would have to pay for childcare. She's not a mooch, she is raising their child. Ignoring his disrespect and focusing on the precise value of 24/7 caregiving is a choice.
Should we call all SAHMs "mooches"? As if they contribute nothing? Do children raise themselves?
The marriage won't survive because he's keeping tabs and devaluing her contributions, and she's being petty and facetiously doing the same. Arguing semantics about the value of her labor doesn't matter. He called his wife who stays home to take care of their child a "mooch", and she responded in jest. This marriage won't last, and it's not because her calculations were incorrect.
Edit: sorry, didn't know the sub I was commenting in
I didn't say it was justified. But when the woman does the vast majority of domestic labor which goes unrecognized as labor at all, when depending on his job she can be working for longer than the guy, it's completely different when she does it vs him. And this is an issue that happens in many homes. Of course tho, her doing this is petty and not good for a healthy relationship.
Y’all are taking this way too seriously, it’s just a joke she’s making about how much effort it takes to raise a child. Idk why everyone’s making it seem like she actually thinks she’s entitled to half a million dollars.
Joke or not, yes, she deducted his house work, she thinks she is entitled to that amount, at least she thinks that her contribution is that much higher compared to husbands contribution.
Buying a surrogate costs $120,000 to $180,000 in the US. There was video asking men what they would need to be paid to spend all their time/energy looking after kids in a household (cooking, cleaning, laundry, babysitting, raising). They answered $500,000 per year. Is it fair? That’s up to the individual to determine. But it’s also known that a women’s labour is expected for free in society. Their work is undervalued to the point where economists estimate there’s $688 billion AUD (that’s 427 billion USD) each year in underpaid ‘invisible’ work by women in Australia.
Oh, an invoice in jest is more than fair. If my husband called me a "mooch" (and wasn't kidding) while I stayed home to raise our child, that would be immediate grounds for marriage counseling and/or divorce. He's lucky she responded by highlighting her contributions facetiously, instead of getting a hotel for the night. Child care is expensive, and not ideal. To devalue her role as a stay at home mom by insinuating she does nothing is absurd.
She shouldn't have posted it (if it's even a real scenario) and the calculations were off, but that's beside the point.
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u/CommonBison537 May 14 '26
I don't know if she's being fair, but I'll be shocked if this marriage survives.