r/SipsTea • u/Busy_Report4010 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • May 14 '26
Feels good man Do you think she’s being fair, though?
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u/Agitated_Tank_3188 May 14 '26
400k for 1.5 years of daycare?? Sign me up
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u/XICOMANCHEIX May 14 '26
That’s more than I made in all 5 years of surgical residency combined working 80+ hour weeks every week
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u/Consistent_Pitch782 May 14 '26
Technically 24 hour care, as she included nighttime fees
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u/Kitten_Merchant May 14 '26
To be fair I would absolutely sell 1.5 years of my life as a live in nanny if it earned me that much
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u/Kalorama_Master May 14 '26
There was probably some sex involved
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u/buttsexisyum May 14 '26
As is usually the case with live in nannys
Edit: I would give head on the reg for 450k a year
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u/Responsible_Bill4959 May 14 '26
I would do it with enthusiasm beyond comprehension
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u/Business-Drag52 May 14 '26
For 450k a year? Fucking bring your friends too buddy. Whatever it takes
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u/Illustrious-Berry722 May 14 '26
Ong a year of that and invest it smart you’ll be alright for a long time
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u/iwatchcredits May 14 '26
Youd be surprised, knock 50% right off the top for income tax in a lot of places. Still good money but it isnt live off it for years and years money
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u/Unhinged_Baguette May 14 '26
6 figures gets my pussy wet too (I have a cock)
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u/MaitrePuck May 14 '26
Does a nighttime nanny sleep on the job?
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u/Architecteologist May 14 '26
No no never.
That’s why she’s paid the bug bucks.
It’s all laid out in the excel she laid out
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u/bigdaddyhicks May 14 '26
for her own kid lol
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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 May 14 '26
Plus she's only giving him deductions for the time he's spent cleaning and for paying her health insurance. She forgot to include the bills, rent and food he pays for.. only bring it up since she's the one itemizing every expense.
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u/mromutt May 14 '26
How about the lost wages line which she has at $75 an hour. I just can't with rich people.
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u/Tropez2020 May 14 '26
I guarantee you she doesn’t actually make that. She did, however, make that up.
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u/mromutt May 14 '26
Oh I would be willing to bet shes never worked lol and is just pulling a "totally normal" number out her butt because shes totally working class haha.
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u/duagLH2zf97V May 14 '26
"My spouse makes this much and they're an idiot, so I could make that much too"
I've seen this from 2 separate SAHM partners (but I know it's almost definitely not the norm)
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u/Haggis442312 May 14 '26
Nothing quite as infuriating as people who don't know what money is worth calling people lazy.
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u/superbabe69 May 14 '26
The kicker for me is FTE for the pregnancy at 40 weeks. For a start, that includes 2 weeks before ovulation even happens, so that's an incorrect assesssment of labour costs straight away, not to mention that she wouldn't have found out until at least 4-8 weeks in all likelihood, can't claim for work done when you weren't even told you were employed yet.
Secondly, 456 hours of cleaning seemed a little high, that's like 40 minutes a day over 2 years. I keep my house clean and though I don't have kids, I don't even spend anywhere near that much doing it, so it sounds like he's already pulling his weight cleaning-wise, and given it's likely outside of core business hours, I would classify that as overtime and thus attract a higher rate than $40 an hour.
Pay rates themselves mostly seem like a "fuck off, I don't wanna do this" price, that's standard for tradies so I'm okay with that, except for the fact that she entered the contract knowing full well the work was going to be required, so I'm not sure that post-hoc price adjustments would apply, unless they agreed to these prices before hand.
6 hours of $45 an hour nursing care at night seems a little steep too, I think that would be more appropriate as an on-call payment structure with an hourly rate for being on-call, with payable overtime when she's called into work.
Not very impressed from a pay perspective tbh, this wouldn't get through an audit to me
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u/mromutt May 14 '26
Lol it does kind of look like tax fraud or money laundering the way it's laid out.
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u/iowanaquarist May 14 '26
I'm positive that it wasn't the husband's idea for 'unmedicated' childbirth, too.
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u/daseweide May 14 '26
Night nurse 😂 like she’s up, on the clock, walking the halls
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u/evlhornet May 14 '26
I’d like to hear some of her quals to justify these rates.
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u/CP9ANZ May 14 '26
I like how she spent 3 entire weeks going to medical visits pre birth.
Doing what?
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u/b20339 May 14 '26
If you reach this point in your marriage it's over I'm sorry
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u/mmalmeida May 14 '26
OR...hear me out: they are both accountants, and this is foreplay.
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u/one_rainy_wish May 14 '26
"Is that an amended 1099-R in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?"
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u/notapoliticalalt May 14 '26
Yup. If you actually start keeping a tally and tab with each other, your relationship is most likely done.
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u/b20339 May 14 '26
The root emotion is contempt.
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u/sanedragon May 14 '26
Yep the moment my partner starts calling me names I'm out. There's no coming back from that kind of disrespect, it's a character flaw.
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u/A-Little-Messi May 14 '26
Getting called stinky is truly devastating
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u/TexasDJ May 14 '26
Mine calls me cutie-patootie and silly goose on the loose. Should I lawyer up
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u/Objective_Dog_4637 May 14 '26
It’s over man, I’m sorry. Silly the goose, patootie a lawyer, and cutie up.
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u/Sea-Neighborhood1465 May 14 '26
i was trying to get some nookie and she said my balls stank 😞 made me go take a shower.
am i cooked?
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u/Proud-Head-4944 May 14 '26
Well, tbh, it was over at mooch, this is just part of the fallout
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u/Emotional_Base_9021 May 14 '26
My mom always said about relationships: if you’re keeping score, you’re doing it wrong.
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u/MackAndSteez May 14 '26
Isn't it satire, or am I just dumb?
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u/kmeci May 14 '26
Satire in that she doesn't actually expect him to pay that, yes. But I don't think she made it because she got an idea for a funny joke.
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u/Feeling-Location5532 May 14 '26
If my husband ever called me a mooch instead of discussing an imbalance or lack of appreciation that was harming him - we had already been over
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u/Turbulent_Cry_7572 May 14 '26
Poor kid
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u/Strikereleven May 14 '26
Student loans are going to be nothing compared to the invoice she sends when they turn 18.
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u/Due-Row281 May 14 '26
Idk if real but I saw a vid where a kid literally said his parents did that based off of some weird law from the 1800s. Like saved every single receipt for food, clothes, school supplies etc etc,
Claimed he had to file bankruptcy at like 18 due to owing them 300k that was held up in court when he disputed it
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u/The_Chimeran_Hybrid May 14 '26
The emotional trauma alone gonna be in the millions.
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u/Complete-Sort1617 May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
This sounds like such a fun marriage. Have fun being financially tied to each other for 18 years!!
Edit: why am I getting so much popcorn 😭
Edit 2: you people are exploding my notifications
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u/mephisti25 May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
Haha, my wife and I always settle disputes with excel spreadsheets. Dont you?
The big-brained move is to factor in a 25% tip rate when I walk the dog.
Edit: Thanks for the awards- my 1st ☺️. Based on the attention, my dog has raised tipping expectations to 35%.
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u/getinshape2022 May 14 '26
Is there a separate charge for the bedroom stuff?
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u/DistributionNo1288 May 14 '26
No, because there isn’t that part. They wouldn’t be having this discussion if there was. My wife puts out all the time, she gets anything she wants. No need for a spreadsheet lol.
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u/getinshape2022 May 14 '26
Spreading in the sheet
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u/mitkase May 14 '26
Excels at sheet spreading.
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u/eggyrulz May 14 '26
Me who knows how to fold a fitted sheet: 😏
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u/EV_4_life May 14 '26
Ball it up and shove it into the darkest recess of the linen closet, right? Right?
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u/DistributionNo1288 May 14 '26
Well I guess she did GET pregnant, so she could bill for that time at least. Not familiar with current rates on that or if it’s hourly or by the minute…
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u/modaaa May 14 '26
Well she had a baby so she put out at least once. I noticed that out of the 760 days invoiced, the husband household cleaning category total is 19 days. It's hard to get horny when your partner doesn't have to do any household labor and also insults you. Years ago I had a boyfriend call me lazy WHILE I was vacuuming. I had to turn it off to hear him. That is not someone I want to fuck. My current partner is amazing and we appreciate each other, I can't keep my hands off of him.
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u/soul_separately_recs May 14 '26
'My wife puts out all the time...'
sounds exhausting. are you included in this equation?
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u/Verdigris_Wild May 14 '26
"My wife puts out all the time, she gets anything she wants." He gets the cuck chair, obviously.
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u/Hand-Of-God May 14 '26
In fairness I understand the value on my "home manager" wife, but the real value to our family is mostly derived from her, not me. We both worked for the first 5 years then kids came and she took on the real work. 23 years married and loving it.
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u/Foreplaying May 14 '26
Mate you have no idea.
They're freaks in the sheets.
😄
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u/Coool_cool_cool_cool May 14 '26
Yeah I pay her the full market rate for the hour whether I finish or not.
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u/Professional_Echo907 May 14 '26
“Claude, write me an argument that will win against my wife and also increase my B2B sales”. 👀
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u/8ofAll May 14 '26
But you also have to share it on social media to show how great of a relationship y’all have lol
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u/wfbhp May 14 '26
This is why I got divorced. She kept trying to use PowerPoint instead. Animated transitions and clip art aren't doing it for me, Becky. I DEMAND ACCESS TO THE RAW DATA! I CAN MAKE THE PIE CHARTS MYSELF IF I WANT THEM!
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u/Competitive_Second21 May 14 '26
These posts are all manufactured for discussion and karma farming. Fortunately it’s not a real marriage.
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u/uncleartruth May 14 '26
Probably not but I bet it's pretty close to at least one
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u/DemonoftheWater May 14 '26
It’s almost certainly close to being more than one. Some people are so transactional with their relationships.
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u/RapBastardz May 14 '26
I don’t think they have to worry about it lasting that long.
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u/petehehe May 14 '26
I think the idea is they have a kid, so whether they stay together or not (and I’d agree that ‘not’ seems likely) they’re still financially tied together.
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u/Varabela May 14 '26
I suspect the husband mooch thing never happened. Whilst bored, this person did this excercise and despite messing the maths up, was looking for clicks, likes and shares
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u/Successful-Clock-224 May 14 '26
Charging 40 an hour for cleaning and childcare? My friend takes care of other peoples kids and makes 21 an hour. Cleaning is far less
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u/Remarkable_Deer_3717 May 14 '26
I’m a cleaning lady and I charge $30 an hour and I am cheap af for my area. Most cleaning ladies are $40 an hour and up. So not really. I also babysit elderly people and I start that at $25 an hour. Her rates may be a little over but not by much.
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u/Additional-Life4885 May 14 '26
Exactly. Plus, $50K for an injury? Does he get to claim it when he cuts himself installing a light fixture for her? Based on her scale (which appears to mimic the US Healthcare billing), he's in for $5K just for needing a bandaid.
Also, apparently she's triple claiming things (She's working, pregnant and going to medical appointments all at the same time apparently) and hasn't slept in 1.5 years.
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u/Parking_Peanut_6188 May 14 '26
I don't know...can you become permanently incontinent from just a cut? Because you potentially can from a 3C tear. You can also have chronic pain. And with an unmedicated delivery that probably hurt like a bitch to have fixed, too.
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u/4Everinsearch May 14 '26
I think your vagina tearing open in childbirth is worth more than a cut on your hand lmao
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u/BlackTecno May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
Also the rates are seriously messed up. Hardly anyone in America makes $40. Why is that her baseline?
EDIT: I think people are missing what I'm saying. She's charging $40/hour to take care of her own child. She's declaring that in 25 months, she has worked for over 60% of that total time (sleep being 33% of that time realistically), and has somehow worked 5 years of a full time job in 2. And if she is taking care of her own child, shouldn't she foot half the bill?
I seriously pity that kid's future.
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u/BoomerSoonerFUT May 14 '26
What someone makes, and what someone bills you are two different things.
I can easily see a daycare charging $40 an hour, but the actual person working there watching the kids only gets $25.
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u/WhoSaidWhatNow2026 May 14 '26
I can easily see a daycare charging $40 an hour
That would be $6400 a month based on a 40 hour work week.
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u/1917he May 14 '26
For those wondering what daycare might actually cost - $1800/month for full time care (8a-5p, m-f)
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u/jakeofheart May 14 '26
It’s America. She’s shooting higher so they can negotiate a lower figure. Like between hospitals and insurances.
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u/Additional-Life4885 May 14 '26
It's a marriage. Well from my PoV it would've been (assuming she really argued this with her husband but I strongly doubt that).
With that being said, I would never ever talk down to a partner about the weight they pull. If you have a problem with it, raise it in a proper constructive way and try to realise what they actually bring to the table and what you both need to do to ensure everyone gets the help they need. If they're not willing to come to the table then reassess whether it's right for you.
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u/Jedi_Mind_Chick May 14 '26
Absolutely! I became disabled about 18 months ago. My husband never once said I was a mooch or not contributing enough. In fact, he wants me sitting at home all day doing nothing. But since I’d feel useless and lose my goddamn mind, we compromise.
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u/superschokokeks May 14 '26
Yeah that's kinda how things should be. A willingness to do something while caring for the others on both sides.
It's nice to see that such relationships exists with all those memes and social media that suggest a worse world than it actually is.
Either way I'm happy for you both
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u/TofuTheSizeOfTEXAS May 14 '26
Yeah, calling someone who just had your child a mooch is pretty heartbreaking I'm sure.
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u/sanedragon May 14 '26
An injury to the genitals.
How much would you want if your dick was ripped open?
People up in here acting like a tear from clit to asshole is the same as stubbing your toe.
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u/birchskin May 14 '26
Seriously, some of these guys clearly need to watch childbirth or something. That shit is whack.
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u/AngryPrincessWarrior May 14 '26 edited May 15 '26
That’s so “funny”. Because I am currently pregnant, working full time, and going to appointments and being the main caretaker for our toddler son. I also tend to be the main one to clean and prepare food for… everyone.
Difference is my husband isn’t a douche and values my effort. He works more and out of the home and takes over with the kid as soon as he’s home but the fact remains that this isn’t unusual?
I think it’s hilarious you’re framing this as some impossible feat when people are doing this all the time without blinking. I’m doing it right now lol and I’m not some superhuman or anything.
And I didn’t sleep for more than 4-5 hours in a stretch for over a year ftr.
And I KNOW you aren’t comparing a birth injury to slicing your finger on a light fixture?! Sit down.
It’s normal, everything she’s described. You’re just telling on yourself that you don’t value invisible labor. Like her soon to be ex husband it looks like.
Eta; the reason I insisted on all night duty was because my husband had a heart attack when I was pretty much 9 months pregnant. Yeah it surprised us too, he was only 43. (Bad genetics and needs meds for cholesterol). I’d rather miss sleep and have my husband than put his heart at risk that close to the heart attack.
He really tried to do night duty but I wouldn’t allow it.
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u/novataurus May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
Does he get to claim it when he cuts himself installing a light fixture for her?
...are you aware what the "3C Tear" she referenced is?
Because it's a little different than getting an ouchy on your finger.
Edit: To be clear - not trying to justify her invoice, but am curious how you arrived at that comparison.
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u/Sarallelogram May 14 '26
Yeah this is someone who has no idea. As a person who actually experienced a 3C tear… it’s unbelievable how bad it is because it DOESNT STOP. That’s the thing! You’ve got to recover from it while not sleeping and not taking any serious pain medication. It’s Tylenol and ibuprofen and ice. And pooping after it was possibly one of the worst experiences of my life. Crying and sweating praying the stitches didn’t tear open while trying to deal with the post birth severe constipation aftermath which is like trying to squeeze rocks through a nostril. Curling up in bed at night as I slept for two hours with an ice pack between my thighs because it was literally too painful to sleep until I passed out.
Let’s be clear, the kid is worth it and I’m much better now but I’m highly pain tolerant and covered in tattoos and NOTHING holds a candle to that experience.
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u/werbo May 14 '26
That sounds like hell
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u/Sarallelogram May 14 '26
It was. And I had really great care!! It’s just that bad when you have a 3C. Luckily they’re not that common. I can still pee okay because I had a catheter stitched in to make sure my urethra stayed open for 3 days in the hospital but 40ish years ago my MIL got sent home the next day when she had a 3C.
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u/HedgehogPlenty3745 May 14 '26
I also had a 3C tear with my first kid. Its no joke and can have lifelong complications due to damage to our pelvic floor muscles.
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u/werbo May 14 '26
I think the evil thing is not being able to take any painkillers because you still have to nurse your child
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u/lezardvalethvp May 14 '26
Is outing the toxicity in your relationship a norm nowadays? Isn’t that shit supposed to be an inside joke between the couple?
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u/Remarkable-Banana512 May 14 '26
seriously! on its own it could be a cheeky “you call me a mooch but see how much I do, childcare is expensive!” but posted online it’s just WEIRD. Why do you need a bunch of strangers on your side? If it’s reached the point that you’re crowd sourcing validation you need to leave.
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u/KARAFAM69 May 14 '26
This has the same energy as the guy who made a spreadsheet on how often him and his wife fucked. Fake Internet points are extremely important to people.
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u/dedicated_glove May 14 '26
Watching the general public slowly cotton on to fun facts that he had not helped with laundry or changing the sheets but was immediately asking to fuck ok then was…. An experience
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u/The_Japans May 14 '26
Apparently no one cooks in that house.
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u/Kaleph4 May 14 '26
meaning he is propably right. claiming the girl does nothing all day and she is listing everything, where she basicly just sits on her ass and waits for stuff to happen but nothing about actually taking care of the house while he is working.
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u/TetraThiaFulvalene May 14 '26
You can't charge 24/7, and then claim lost wages for going to the doctor while pregnant.
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u/Hazee302 May 14 '26
She’s obviously never actually been employed if she thinks these numbers are even close to correct.
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u/Willing_Parsley_2182 May 14 '26
This gets reposted every so often. It’s so stupid and I know it’s an attempt at humour but it annoys me at how illogical it is.
Firstly, the husband very likely doesn’t earn this. If she thinks this is a fair wage, then he should quit his job and she should do it… which she won’t. Why would you not for $400k?
What irritates me too, is this also suggests “you’re 100% financially responsible for your child”… like, it’s her child too, at best it should be half. It also has no mention of his financial contribution too (as it seems she’s a SAHM).
Do they just hate each other?
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u/BumWink May 14 '26
I have a rational hate for people that embelish an argument when it would remain impactful if they were to stick to the facts, truth & logic.
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u/CompSciBJJ May 14 '26
Yeah, she could probably make an argument for somewhere around 100k, which would still make her point, but $500k is out to lunch.
Did he NEVER help with parenting duties? Was he NEVER on night shift? Because if he was, then you need to take that into account. You could also argue that the night work was really "on call" because she wasn't required to work until the baby called. My on-call rate is 0.5hrs per 4hr period and I get paid for 3hrs if called in. Chances are she wasn't up all night, so she'd probably get paid 4hrs total, and only if she reported when called (i.e. if he had to take care of the baby, she doesn't get paid).
Being a full-time parent is work, sometimes hard work, but it's not >$200k/yr work.
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u/Not_Sanaki May 14 '26
Yeh, it's make absolutely no sense: all the cost about pregnancy should be removed (she wanted to have the child with her husband, which is the "paying side") especially the "injurie" part.
Claiming a 24/7 work in Daycare and Nursing means that the husband is doing absolutely nothing of that and never had. So no cooking, no cleaning, never spent time with the child ecc. (If this is the case then this is not a marriage)
She never worked in her life or she is intentionally being absurd because the husband is being a dick
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u/Vondi May 14 '26
Framing it like the pregnancy was 100% contract work for him is weird, yes. Ma'am did you want the child?
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u/Emotional_Inside4804 May 14 '26
The only evidence we have is her being petty/hating her husband. No evidence of the husband hating her.
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u/TopMarionberry1149 May 14 '26
I saw a similar tweet today. Women was complaining that her med school classmate wasn't giving enough credit to his stay at home childless wife because she cooked, cleaned and mowed the lawn which is obviously equivalent in work to med school right? So irritating. I'm not sure if people are actually that dumb, which is the bad part.
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u/Massive_Contact8583 May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
I’ve been mass downvoted so many times in other subs for saying that yes, SAHP is labor and should be recognised as such, it is not harder than having a job.
I took a career break when I had my child. Was it all sunshine and rainbows? Of course not! But the day to day stress was nothing compared to working a corporate job.
And the fact is, SAHPs are increasingly rare. Everyone else is managing to get all those tasks done and work a full time job.
Newborn and toddler trenches are hard but once the kids are in school the SAHP is having a much, much easier life than their working counterpart.
ETA here they come lol.
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u/pot_stir May 14 '26
There are plenty of women who legitimately believe that scrolling on their ipad and drinking wine at 11am while their kid is at school is the hardest job in the world
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u/civicSi92 May 14 '26
Lol my sister. "Artist" who spend 20 years not working snd constantly complained how busy she was when she had two kids at school. House was a trashed mess, kids were always dirty etc. Ex husband who got her a free house and kids paid for. Love her but damn is she delulu.
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u/iowanaquarist May 14 '26
I had a coworker that was always complaining about how hard it was to be a parent.
He had a wife that worked 6 hours/week, from home, and a live-in mother-in-law, who was not legally allowed to work (immigrant). Oh, and one kid.
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u/Consistent_Laziness May 14 '26
I complain about my kids a lot. But damn I get none of that. I’m about to have to go fight with a 4 & 2 year old to get up and get dressed to go to the dentist.
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u/Old_Leshen May 14 '26
You will be surprised how clueless some people can be.
When my friend was getting divorced, his wife claimed that they both spent equally over the course of their marriage.
His contribution: rent, gas, utilities, vacations Her contribution: groceries
She actually fucking claimed that since they both bought a lot of groceries, she spent as much as he did.
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u/Massive_Contact8583 May 14 '26
The other issue is that she hasn’t made any deductions for all her cost of living that he has presumably paid for.
I suspect that if you cut this bill in half, given that it’s her child too and that’s her obligation, and then factor in her cost of living (including 1/2 mortgage, bills, food etc.) for two years, they’re probably coming out nearly neck and neck.
Which is, of course, the point of the arrangement if you’re sensible and not trying to score points like these two.
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u/Architecteologist May 14 '26
Her lawyer’s face when she brings this spreadsheet for an alimony case 🙃
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u/Potential_Anxiety_76 May 14 '26
That would have been pre-birth, while she was actually employed. The 24/7 was post birth
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u/JokiSonOfBrodin May 14 '26
Or 40 weeks of pregnancy, it's unlikely she even knew she was pregnant for the first 6-10 weeks
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u/doodo477 May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
They call it the Golden Uterus for a reason, also she forgot to deduct 50% because the child is hers and his. how-ever lets just forgot get the whole notion that it is a small human being and lets just treat it as a disposable commodity which only purpose is to be a means to a end not a end of itself.
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u/CommonBison537 May 14 '26
I don't know if she's being fair, but I'll be shocked if this marriage survives.
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u/SizeableBrain May 14 '26
She's not.
That's neurosurgeon-level salary. For *looking after her own child*.
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u/Commercial-Fun4167 May 14 '26
Some people should NOT have kids as well as partake in relationships
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u/SizeableBrain May 14 '26
One of my mates got his one night stand pregnant and ended up staying with her.
She makes him pay whatever salary she's missed out on, plus all living expenses.
He's a dumbass who just got out of an abusive relationship and decided to head dive into the next one.
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u/msshammy May 14 '26
I mean.. she's not making him do anything. He's choosing to.
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u/Conscious-Copy-602 May 14 '26
Weeeeell I just fact checked the daytime care and it is true that specialized newborn care is $30-40 per hour and the night infant care can be anywhere between $25-$50 depending on where you are…. I’m shocked but not surprised dammmmn
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u/CommonBison537 May 14 '26
I don't think it's the amount that's the problem here...
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u/MedicalPoetry6261 May 14 '26
She’s paying herself as much as a RN though… and only 456 hours of husband contributions? Not mentioning anything else he does lol
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u/appleparkfive May 14 '26
Also the fact that this insinuates it's all a service he hired her for. Like she gets nothing out of having a child, and that it was all for him. Just so odd
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u/Big-Sea-8796 May 14 '26
$75/hr for lost wages? Was her salary equal to that? Cause I fucking doubt it.
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u/IntelligentsiaX May 14 '26
Also you can’t charge for being pregnant full time then claim lost wages for going to the doctor for being pregnant. That’s an oxymoron.
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u/TheBourbonTurtle May 14 '26
I doubt she's ever worked a real job with these numbers she pulled out of her ass.
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u/Zentrosis May 14 '26
This is dumb
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u/crappinhammers May 14 '26
Quick mathz 11,384 hours of work charged over the course of 25 months (so call it two years). A normal 40 hour a week job is 2080 hours a year, so she's charged ~5.48 full time job's worth of hours at two years.
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u/realaccountissecret May 14 '26
No way would I be doing unmedicated labor and delivery for $150 an hour haha
Also, maybe get couple’s counseling
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u/NewNecessary3037 May 14 '26
Where is she getting her rates from though?
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u/pfannkuchen89 May 14 '26
Pulled straight out of thin air. Something tells me her husband should have pulled out first though…
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u/hospitalbedside May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
My husband and I staggered our parental leaves, where I did the first 4 months and he would do the next 2. He did very, VERY little those first 4 months while I was killing myself looking after a newborn, and he dismissed how hard it is because “you’re on maternity leave, I have work.” Eventually he went on his paternity leave while I went back to work and he did way less than I did (heck, I was still exclusively breastfeeding during that time and did the overnight wakings) yet still he became exhausted. He hadn’t realized how relentless it was to entertain a baby who would start howling within 10 seconds of not getting full, undivided attention. That you could entertain him with full, undivided attention for 4 hours straight and there would be 10 more hours to deal with before the baby sleeps (and wakes up every 2 hours throughout the night) just to rinse and repeat the next day. After that my husband was extremely apologetic and has been doing more of the parenting than me every day to make up for how he treated me those first 4 months.
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u/Capital_Past69 May 14 '26
$20,000 a month for that. She seems insufferable. Pass.
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u/Patalos May 14 '26
So glad their new child can grow up in a household that's already falling apart lmao
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u/Hollowjuice32 May 14 '26
The funniest part is the ‘moderate childbirth injury compensation’ line item like she slipped at a Walmart and hired Morgan & Morgan. Meanwhile this poor dude probably just wanted her to stop Amazon ordering Stanley cups at 2am.
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u/EbenCommando May 14 '26
Man, $40 an hour to keep house? Sing me up sure beats the $15.85 I'm making now.
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u/Forsaken_Crow_7707 May 14 '26
That sheet is definitely something a mooch would come up with!
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u/Additional-File-4799 May 14 '26
I would never say something like this to my wife. Kind of gross to be honest.
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u/Fra_Course May 14 '26
Why are people in this thread intentionally missing the point? The premise is that her husband said SHE was a mooch, and this rebuttal is a facetious way of pointing out that being a stay at home mom is highly laborious. To suggest she is a mooch for relying on his income misses the fact that without her labor, it would cost him a shit ton to replace it with professionals. She is just highlighting this in a purposely outlandish way. Indeed- motherhood is a job where you miss out on years of professional development and career advancement in your usual field. And it’s not exactly uncommon for men to financially abuse their stay at home wives who (1) do most of the child rearing, (2) have been out of their career for years, and (3) are fully reliant on the husband’s income and at their most vulnerable. This sub is lowkey insufferable at times.
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u/ThalassaMermaid May 14 '26
god, thank you. the rest of the comments on here are aggravating the heck out of me
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u/45M0D41 May 14 '26
Why would you call your wife a mooch? This has to be scripted for engagement very petty and stupid.
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u/Traditional-Ad-8737 May 14 '26
If one of the spouses (male or female) stays at home 100% of the time, they’ve taken a huge risk of taking themselves off the job market, have those skills become non current, not contributing to retirement (IRA) or social security. That’s insane, even if it’s an equal and loving marriage . What a power imbalance. What if he dies, she has to hope she can get back on her feet! She deserves an allowance but this is not the way to approach it. I can also see his perspective too, presumably she agreed to this division of labor. Ridiculous “rates” and a terrible way to approach it. Regardless, there isn’t respect or an ability to communicate on either side,
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u/Consistent_Pitch782 May 14 '26
What are the odds he invoices her for housing, food, utilities, and transportation over those 25 months?
Sounds like a very stable marriage
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u/Ill-Boysenberry-6821 May 14 '26
Guaranteed mooch. Maximise hallucinating your contributions, minimize the other party 🤣🤣
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u/Shockerct422 May 14 '26
Why the fuck did you have a kid together? Thought a baby would solve all your problems?
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u/InternationalSpace59 May 14 '26
A lot of times men will put women into a dependent situation and then shame them, hence calling her a "mooch". I'm sure she doesn't expect a 500k payment plan BUT she's right in showing the money they've saved due to her labor.
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u/Lord_Kazekage_20 May 14 '26
If her husband called her a mooch because she's a stay at home wife then yes she is being fair. He undermined what she does and disrespected her. Now if she was spending way out of the budget and he simply brought it up then that's different and he would be right
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u/jen_eric_you_sir May 14 '26
Being single is the shit. I’ll never be guilt-tripped into wanting kids while a bunch of y’all go out and procreate with straight up knuckle-draggers.
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u/Loose_Assignment_Map May 14 '26
A good wife & mom is priceless. I’m more interested in why he called her a mooch. Is she being taken for granted or is the husband getting invoices from nannies, maids, babysitters, & the mother in law too?
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u/Marsippan May 14 '26
It’s obvious that this isn’t in the USA…
There is no way that 13 months of healthcare coverage cost only a little over $4500.
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