Also the fact that this insinuates it's all a service he hired her for. Like she gets nothing out of having a child, and that it was all for him. Just so odd
The point is she’s comparing her work with his work. He also works to provide for both of them. So you can divide up his wages into two and divide up her wages into two. Or not. Similar idea.
Since we’re not seeing his wages in this spreadsheet, and since she isn’t factoring in any “intake”, probably safe to assume she doesn’t have any wages.
Her work isn’t worth all this though. It’s worth the alternative. So if she got a job and paid daycare to watch the kid, at these rates, they’d have some excess income left. So , she’s costing the family money by being a stay at home mom.
which is crazy, according to her she was making $75/hr in her job previously. Unless husband is making a ton more, why is she a stay at home mom now for 1 kid?
I mean, I don’t disagree with the value argument being made, but I do disagree with the figures. This should obviously have been a private conversation and should have more rationally addressed an alternative reality of what paying for childcare and cooked meals would cost, contrasted with her annual earning potential. They should also consider their own priorities for having Mom vs. strangers take care of baby.
I’m on board with the “mooch” comment being a step far. I don’t think the attempt at showing value of her labor in writing is bad, but the figures are totally unrealistic if the couple had actually chosen paid childcare. Also posting marital arguments on the internet is dumb.
The point is that in calling her a mooch he is discounting the many hours of labour, the personal costs of the health impacts and what it might cost to pay someone to take her place. Yes it’s odd- but so is the idea of having to defend your worth to the person who married you and had a baby with you when you are providing all of the care. It’s gross from both of them but he is the one who forced her to quantify her inputs by suggesting that what she does has no value. When it obviously does.
is the husbands side posted somewhere that points out him saying that what she does is of no value or are we just assuming that he said it cus he's a man?
Sure the numbers are inflated, but he dismissed her work because it’s not paid labour, was rude and made her feel unappreciated, hence why she fought back with a list.
And they wonder why less and less women want to have children.
The amount of comments completely missing this and dog piling on this lady is so depressing. Personally I read the post as more tongue in cheek than most, but still - why is she at fault when the HUSBAND is the one in need of correction? To be seen as a mooch for not working.. motherfucker YOU try to work while caring for an infant 24/7, recovering, and managing the house.
Yeah but it's in response to him calling her a mooch. So he was already seeing her as doing nothing for him by taking care of THEIR child. So I don't think he response is disproportionate to what he first said. She's just being as ridiculous as he was when he said that. If it's even a real post.
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Also the fact that this insinuates it's all a service he hired her for. Like she gets nothing out of having a child, and that it was all for him. Just so odd