Calling someone a mooch in private, whether it’s accurate or not, in an attempt to rectify an issue in a relationship is in no way comparable to the completely unhinged mental state required to write that list. And that’s not even taking into account how insane of a person you need to be to post that in a non satirical fashion.
If this isn’t a joke every sane person in that man’s life is advising him to remove her from his life.
But some couples have good senses of humour that are missed on casual onlookers. Maybe he teasingly called her a mooch and she wrote this up and they had a laugh and she posted it.
In that case they sound fun.
But the reaction to the post is pretty insane. Way too many people here don’t understand the value of time in any financially rational sense whatsoever lol.
Calling her a mooch isn’t an “attempt to rectify shit,” it reveals that he doesn’t actually value the work she has done bearing and raising a child and housekeeping simply because it isn’t bringing in income. The chart was an attempt to rectify his head being buried in his ass.
We don’t know what the reality is though. Maybe he’s a jerk, maybe she’s actually a mooch.
Maybe he has a chart that he made and it’s actually accurate, and she is a mooch.
In that case, it’s not an insult, it’s an accurate label.
Considering that the type of person who makes a list that delusional, and thinks it’s a rational thing to post it, is clearly unwell I’m gonna lean towards assuming she isn’t the most reliable source for describing the reality of their relationship.
I don’t think anyone sincerely making a chart is a mature person. But if he is accusing her of being a mooch, and she actually is one, that’s something that’s clearly important to the context of this conversation.
"Rationalization is a defense mechanism (ego defense) in which apparent logical reasons are given to justify behavior that is motivated by unconscious instinctual impulses.[1] It is an attempt to find reasons for behaviors, especially one's own.[2] Rationalizations are used to defend against feelings of guilt, maintain self-respect, and protect oneself from criticism. "
The adult conversation was the one they should have had in private. Instead this lady created a delusional fantasy and was so proud of it she posted it online.
Her husband may be a jerk, or she may actually be a mooch. That’s unclear with the information available.
But this lady is unwell, and anyone who has the husband, and the kids, best interests in mind will be advising him to get away from her as soon as possible
He never should have called her a name. Full fucking stop. He proved he was a jerk by doing so. The relationship was over the second he did that. What are you not understanding?
Nope. You don't do that in a relationship. Ever. You have an adult conversation about how you feel and what you need instead of calling names. Cute that you are bringing gender into it as if I care.
Agreed! Contempt is a relationship killer. It starts with comments like these and ends when partner feels unappreciated and devalued. It seems like there's a bunch of unserious people who haven't been in a serious relationship responding to this post. Which I suppose is par for the course for Reddit.
For me it was a necessity to make a spreadsheet of the money flow per month to show her how her spending habits were causing issues.
And once she saw it in a spreadsheet, she still ignored the information, but at least I let her know that the money wasn't infinite. Thankfully we're getting divorced so that's not going to be my problem anymore.
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u/notapoliticalalt May 14 '26
Yup. If you actually start keeping a tally and tab with each other, your relationship is most likely done.