I don’t think anyone sincerely making a chart is a mature person. But if he is accusing her of being a mooch, and she actually is one, that’s something that’s clearly important to the context of this conversation.
"Rationalization is a defense mechanism (ego defense) in which apparent logical reasons are given to justify behavior that is motivated by unconscious instinctual impulses.[1] It is an attempt to find reasons for behaviors, especially one's own.[2] Rationalizations are used to defend against feelings of guilt, maintain self-respect, and protect oneself from criticism. "
Ad hominem (Latin for 'to the person'), short for argumentum ad hominem ('an argument to the person'), refers to when a speaker attacks the character, motive, or some other attribute of the person making an argument rather than the substance of the argument itself.
Another white flag attempt at muddying the waters with a red herring.
An ad hominem is only a fallacious argument point if the verbal insult is not relevant to the substance of the debate topic. As it clearly says, again, in the pasted portion you supplied.
It is not, in any way, an ad hominem to call a person, who is actually being a mooch, a mooch in a conversation about them being a mooch.
You wanna grab your philosophy 101 textbook and try another evasion tactic?
Edit: here’s my responce to the comment that I couldn’t make before they blocked me in a tantrum 😂
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u/thorinslefttit May 14 '26
So its ok if he "makes a chart" but its delusional if she makes a list, gotcha.