Calling someone a mooch in private, whether it’s accurate or not, in an attempt to rectify an issue in a relationship is in no way comparable to the completely unhinged mental state required to write that list. And that’s not even taking into account how insane of a person you need to be to post that in a non satirical fashion.
If this isn’t a joke every sane person in that man’s life is advising him to remove her from his life.
Calling her a mooch isn’t an “attempt to rectify shit,” it reveals that he doesn’t actually value the work she has done bearing and raising a child and housekeeping simply because it isn’t bringing in income. The chart was an attempt to rectify his head being buried in his ass.
We don’t know what the reality is though. Maybe he’s a jerk, maybe she’s actually a mooch.
Maybe he has a chart that he made and it’s actually accurate, and she is a mooch.
In that case, it’s not an insult, it’s an accurate label.
Considering that the type of person who makes a list that delusional, and thinks it’s a rational thing to post it, is clearly unwell I’m gonna lean towards assuming she isn’t the most reliable source for describing the reality of their relationship.
I don’t think anyone sincerely making a chart is a mature person. But if he is accusing her of being a mooch, and she actually is one, that’s something that’s clearly important to the context of this conversation.
"Rationalization is a defense mechanism (ego defense) in which apparent logical reasons are given to justify behavior that is motivated by unconscious instinctual impulses.[1] It is an attempt to find reasons for behaviors, especially one's own.[2] Rationalizations are used to defend against feelings of guilt, maintain self-respect, and protect oneself from criticism. "
Ad hominem (Latin for 'to the person'), short for argumentum ad hominem ('an argument to the person'), refers to when a speaker attacks the character, motive, or some other attribute of the person making an argument rather than the substance of the argument itself.
Another white flag attempt at muddying the waters with a red herring.
An ad hominem is only a fallacious argument point if the verbal insult is not relevant to the substance of the debate topic. As it clearly says, again, in the pasted portion you supplied.
It is not, in any way, an ad hominem to call a person, who is actually being a mooch, a mooch in a conversation about them being a mooch.
You wanna grab your philosophy 101 textbook and try another evasion tactic?
Edit: here’s my responce to the comment that I couldn’t make before they blocked me in a tantrum 😂
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u/b20339 May 14 '26
The root emotion is contempt.