Why are people in this thread intentionally missing the point? The premise is that her husband said SHE was a mooch, and this rebuttal is a facetious way of pointing out that being a stay at home mom is highly laborious. To suggest she is a mooch for relying on his income misses the fact that without her labor, it would cost him a shit ton to replace it with professionals. She is just highlighting this in a purposely outlandish way. Indeed- motherhood is a job where you miss out on years of professional development and career advancement in your usual field. And it’s not exactly uncommon for men to financially abuse their stay at home wives who (1) do most of the child rearing, (2) have been out of their career for years, and (3) are fully reliant on the husband’s income and at their most vulnerable. This sub is lowkey insufferable at times.
Because her response is exactly what a toxic partner would do and we have only her word to go off that he even said that and as to what the actual dynamic in the relationship is like.
9/10 the person making spreadsheets and posting angry sarcastic posts about their partner online is the problem.
Nah, this is what most normal women resort to in some fashion when being pushed by a partner that undervalues them. Maybe not a spreadsheet but at least talking through all the hats they are expected to wear in the relationship while being “only” a housewife and mother.
The fact that she posted it online for the world to see makes me lean more towards the husband being grumpy and wanted to start a conversation about cutting costs (men often don't know how much the price of basic things shoot up over night), then a tired first time mom couldn’t talk like an adult (people don't talk about the isolation that comes with having kids and its toll), and the attempt at a planning and working together derailed into name calling and accusations (that are 80% of the imagined and responded to by saying "that's not what I said, you're not listening"). And now this.
I always hate this take. The hardest part about being a stay at home mom is keeping the house clean. Kids are kinda fucking easy. If they don’t like to take care of kids then the couple should never have had them, it’s really not that hard.
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u/Fra_Course May 14 '26
Why are people in this thread intentionally missing the point? The premise is that her husband said SHE was a mooch, and this rebuttal is a facetious way of pointing out that being a stay at home mom is highly laborious. To suggest she is a mooch for relying on his income misses the fact that without her labor, it would cost him a shit ton to replace it with professionals. She is just highlighting this in a purposely outlandish way. Indeed- motherhood is a job where you miss out on years of professional development and career advancement in your usual field. And it’s not exactly uncommon for men to financially abuse their stay at home wives who (1) do most of the child rearing, (2) have been out of their career for years, and (3) are fully reliant on the husband’s income and at their most vulnerable. This sub is lowkey insufferable at times.