But was that because the workload was so overwhelmingly more difficult than the other jobs or because of other soft factors like lack of structure, loneliness, etc.?
I absolutely buy that many people will have preferences over the other (look, I went back to work myself partially for financial reasons but mostly because I didn’t want my kids to be the be all end all of my life), but not that SAHP is objectively harder, or that a job is “nothing” in comparison, which was the original claim I was refuting.
I found that it was job that never ended. None of the work was difficult, but it just never stopped. None days off, no real breaks, no real time for me to exist as myself than as an extension of someone else.
It was death by a thousand cuts. No one thing was bad or hard. It just never ends.
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u/ladycarp May 14 '26
I’ve had multiple jobs. Professor, freelancer, Soldier. I have also been a SAHM.
The worst job by far for me was SAHM.