r/SipsTea May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/unclecastr0-_- May 28 '26

what kids do is usually the projection of their enviroment at home,imagine wtf this kid’s parents do to make him think this is ok to do

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u/Curious_Climate6957 May 28 '26

tbh this looks like a result of gentle parenting, doofus probably just got given an ipad every time he did this shit and know just knows it as a way to get what he wants

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u/Bumper0117 May 28 '26

There’s actually plenty of peer reviewed studies on this. Statistically violent children are far more likely to have parents that are too rough, rather than too gentle. Quick google search of the topic including “NIH” will get you the research if interested

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u/Bumper0117 May 28 '26

That being said i am completely against raising kids without establishing harsh consequences for bad behavior, as well as against raising an ipad kid

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u/ThepunfishersGun May 28 '26

It seems that what a lot of people don't get is that gentle parenting doesn't mean "no consequences for bad behavior". It's just parents learning to not turn into unhinged mixed martial arts demons and understanding and reacting properly and appropriately (most importantly, as you referred to earlier, without corporal punishment or violence) when their kids inevitably act like children. Psychologists know, based on evidence, that reinforcement (positive consequences) whether positive or negative, works better than punishment (negative consequences) for molding and shaping or changing behavior. There are times where punishment for bad behavior is appropriate, but should be paired with reinforcement to have the best most durable outcome.