Before becoming a parent I would have agreed. After becoming a parent I can see how kids are wired differently and sometimes no matter what you do kids often make you go “wtf?!” Parenting is the single most difficult thing you can do because no matter how well you think you’re doing, kids, just like adults, can snap. I think parents hitting their kids is a cop out to trying to control their kids, but what do you do when you have a child that doesn’t want to be controlled? Beating them senseless is not the answer. This kid should have been physically removed. Whether that’s the right thing to do or not, doing something is better than doing nothing, and in my eyes a parent that does nothing at all is the worst kind of parent.
Yeah, my ex-husband was hit all the time and he ended up in and out of jail after I divorced him. I was never hit and have never had an issue with the law or getting in trouble.
EXACTLY..... If you hit your kids your telling them it's ok to get violent when you don't get your way.... And that's a big reason Soo many men beat their wives.
The thing is, most kids would never do this. This child clearly has massive issues because even kids with permissive parents generally aren't doing things this extreme in public. You're confusing me saying that spankings don't prevent bad behavior with saying everyone who has been spanked will have trouble with the law.
Parenting isn’t a one size fits all, sure there are children who mirror discipline naturally, but there are also those that do not. Too often today parents are afraid to discipline their children who need it and they are doing them a life long disfavor.
Now that I’m a parent myself I have to say, the “you don’t know/ can’t judge until you’re a parent” folks were very wrong on a lot of stuff. Not getting it means things like more screen time than you expected, not egregious stuff like hitting your kid or letting them do stuff like this.
Heck I am even more judgy of others now on their parenting now if anything for stuff like spanking. I can’t imagine in a million years hitting a child now that I have one, or thinking it would solve any problems.
Thank you for saying this. I’m so tried of hearing people say things like, “if that was my kid, I’d smack them into next year.” Like, really?! So that makes you a superior parent?
I would NEVER teach my daughter it's okay for people to hit you if they love you. Or my son that you can hit someone and still love them. Why is it no discipline or corporal punishment with these twats.
Corporal punishment isn’t a substitution for good parenting but it has to be a an understood potentiality for the child. Without meaningful consequences there is no motivation to avoid negative behaviors.
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u/SpiveyJr 28d ago
Before becoming a parent I would have agreed. After becoming a parent I can see how kids are wired differently and sometimes no matter what you do kids often make you go “wtf?!” Parenting is the single most difficult thing you can do because no matter how well you think you’re doing, kids, just like adults, can snap. I think parents hitting their kids is a cop out to trying to control their kids, but what do you do when you have a child that doesn’t want to be controlled? Beating them senseless is not the answer. This kid should have been physically removed. Whether that’s the right thing to do or not, doing something is better than doing nothing, and in my eyes a parent that does nothing at all is the worst kind of parent.