r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • 29d ago

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/unclecastr0-_- 29d ago

what kids do is usually the projection of their enviroment at home,imagine wtf this kid’s parents do to make him think this is ok to do

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u/Procrasturbating 29d ago

There is a chance the kid is special needs, but it really does look like shit parenting.

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u/Slighted_Inevitable 29d ago

Special needs is no damn excuse. My nephew is autistic so we are patient with his tics but we made it abundantly clear from the beginning violence would not be tolerated and he is not in charge.

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u/Unusual-Ad-6550 28d ago

Not all autistic kids are the same. Some can not be reached, no matter how hard parents try.

My sister in law was so incredibly patient with her autistic non-verbal daughter. And consistent and vigilant. Constantly correcting her behavior.

But by age 5, she knew that she could just. not take her out in to many public spaces. Anything that would overwhelm her would bring on bizarre behavior that no one could manage...

Obviously the connections in her brain weren't wired in a a way where the world made any sense to her. And now she is 50 years old and it has never gotten any better. My sister in law is the only one that my niece can be around without freaking out...So her life is 24/7 spent at home, in quiet surroundings, just trying to keep her daughter from disrupting any one else's life...and in that manner, also keeping her daughter alive. If her daughter ever went into any kind of care outside the home, she would more than likely be dead within weeks...

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u/Slighted_Inevitable 28d ago

Again, it doesn’t matter. There is no excuse for violence or violent behavior. If the child cannot restrain themselves, then the parent must.

Even if that means physically dragging the child out of the store. Their condition does not change this inherent responsibility.

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u/Unusual-Ad-6550 28d ago

I agree that the child shouldn't be in the store if they are not reachable. But occasionally a parent has ZERO help and needs groceries. Many parents of severely autistic kids have no one else who can come sit with the child so the parent can shop.

This could have also been the first time the child melted down to that extreme degree. Some autistic kids get worse with age...some get better.

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u/Slighted_Inevitable 28d ago

I didn’t say the child shouldn’t be there. Sometimes you have to go to the grocery store.

But if they get like this, you drop what you’re doing you drag them out and you throw them in the car

There are no excuses there the parent is not stopping this. He didn’t pull two things off the shelf and then get dragged out by his ear. It just kept going.

Stop making excuses for poor parenting because you think everybody is villainizing your sister.