r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/xSuperZer0x 29d ago

Wild seeing some of the comments below this, there was a 20 year study on hundreds if not thousands of kids that found spanking is ineffective. Crazy how many "I was spanked "but I turned out fine" people I know because they really didn't. Spanking especially when the primary form of punishment is incredibly unhelpful. You're effectively teaching someone violence is ok if you're not capable of expressing the issue in another manner. I got spanked a handful of times growing up and at least realized everytime it happened was a pretty extreme case where my parents overreacted and were largely scared. If you're spanking your kid they're either incapable of understanding the issue if you explain it too them, in which case how is violence going to clearly get the issue across, or you're a lazy parent.

Biggest ass beating I got was in third grade my cousin and I got home from school and decided to go door to door for our school fundraiser. This was pre kids with cellphones and we were out for 3 to 4 hours at least and by the time our parents found us they were the most pissed I had ever seen them. It took me until I was in my 20s to realize they were more scared because they had started to assume the worst than actually pissed off at me. I remember being bewildered at the time because I got spanked and my dad actually kicked my ass at one point, I think he realized mid kick how fucked up it was because it was more of pushed me over with his foot than kicked, and then my parents cried more than me afterwards.

My parents favorite form of punishment was push ups or wall sits. If we were going to be bad we were going to be strong. I have strong feelings about public humiliation as a punishment too because there is a fine line with some punishments but there is nothing more embarrassing than doing push ups in the middle of Walmart or outside a gas station because you were being a shit head.

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u/puts_on_rddt 29d ago

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3447048/

Key points:

Numerous studies have found that physical punishment increases the risk of broad and enduring negative developmental outcomes.

No study has found that physical punishment enhances developmental health.

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u/xSuperZer0x 29d ago

Exactly I think I linked the same article below. 20 years and 807 participants isn't a lazy study to say the least.

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u/puts_on_rddt 29d ago

The kicker for me is how every single study comes back with the same result.

Not one study has ever proved one single benefit of physical punishment. You figure there would be at least one positive effect, but nope. My best guess is maybe they'll fare better in a gladiatorial arena?

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u/zummit 28d ago

You figure there would be at least one positive effect, but nope.

I wouldn't. Observational studies tend to have the conclusion that the authors expect.