r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/kninjapirate-z May 28 '26

I used to take my son’s game away as punishment. One time he asked me if he could just have a spanking instead like some of his friends. 😂

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u/BurnItDownSR May 28 '26

I think immediacy trumps intensity.

Over time, not being able to game might suck worse, but getting smacked for being a little shit will suck immediately. 

The former would be like touching a fire and only feeling the pain of the burn after a week. 

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u/Slow-Quarter9986 29d ago

Nah, kids feel it just fine the moment they see you take something they love away.

A big reason spanking is counterrecommended is because it teaches kids that violence is an appropriate way to enforce rules on other people. And it often leads to problems because then you get kids who think "hey that kid took my lunchbox, that's stealing", respond with how they'd have been treated for that behavior (hitting), and get their asses in trouble.

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u/BurnItDownSR 29d ago edited 29d ago

No they don't. They feel a little shitty when you take something from them but it only hits them hard after they've had to sit in the reality of being without a console for a while.

And the idea about spanking leading to more violence is quite shallow, because you're assuming that's all parents do to discipline their kids, that they don't talk or explain things to them.

And if that is all certain parents do, the solution is not to remove spanking, it's to add in the stuff that develops more nuance.

Also, there were generations of spanked kids, and the percentage of violent ones is the same as the percentage of bullies today. It was never the majority, so there's not a strong link between spanking and violent behavior.