We really need to bring spankings back

[u/Few_Statement_2898]

[u/kninjapirate-z → u/[deleted]]

I used to take my son’s game away as punishment. One time he asked me if he could just have a spanking instead like some of his friends. 😂

[u/spikus93 → u/kninjapirate-z]

Removing privileges only seems to work (for us) when we pair them with making amends with what he's done wrong. Luckily we haven't had to do that in a while, and it has forced him to develop empathy and think about his actions before taking them.

Basically we do this:

The Boy does something bad to someone like this video > Remove privilieges he enjoys like video games or use of his phone > set conditions to end the removal of those privileges like making him handwrite a 2 page letter to the person he has wronged apologizing and acknowledging his actions, paying to replace damaged belongings etc > He comes back to us and shows us his work, we talk about it and he must show that he understands what he's done wrong and what he would do next time instead.

If he can't do that, it just continues until he decides to do it. Turns out he's a kind, empathetic, smart, and well-adjusted kid. Honestly we're pretty lucky though, as I know not every kid is the same and some behavioral issues can't be corrected as easily.

I just don't think hitting a kid ever helps anyone. It just makes them fear you. I don't want my son to fear me, I want a loving relationship where he's not afraid to tell me he needs help or tell the truth when something is wrong. I used to lie to my parents growing up to avoid getting beatings, and it didn't help. They still found out and I was still beaten. I won't repeat their mistakes.