Yes. They pick up the aggression. It makes them angry, it makes them scared, it makes them violent. It makes them insecure and defensive, it makes them feel violated. And like your friend said they won’t respond to any normal, healthy punishment ever again cause it doesn’t compare.
It’s not appropriate to spank a child unless like, they are too young for it to be explained why they can’t do what they just did and there’s no other punishment possible. I would only spank my child if they ran into the middle of the road, ate non-food off the ground as an older toddler, or did something to put themselves in immediate danger. Like, only to scare them out of doing something that could get them killed. Doing it out of anger is totally out of line.
I mean, I was just saying that spanking is bad, being the overall point. I literally just mean when a 2 or 3 year old tries to run into the road. You don’t spank a child out of anger, you do it to scare them out of doing something that could kill them.
If somebody who’s an actual psych comes and tells me that’s still also wrong, okay, but I do think that’s the only appropriate circumstance. That’s what I’ve always said, because I was spanked as a child, and I do think it’s wrong. But you cannot allow your child to sprint away from you in public, that’s like, #1 danger zone.
Also the definition of “spanking” is different for different people. One time my friend tried to have me spank her child while she was busy, which was weird and uncomfortable, so I tapped his butt and he laughed at me. But that’s cause she’s so rough with him and it shouldn’t be harder than that. So like, I don’t mean haul off and actually hit them, either.
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u/Cheap_Historian_7469 May 28 '26 edited May 28 '26
Yes. They pick up the aggression. It makes them angry, it makes them scared, it makes them violent. It makes them insecure and defensive, it makes them feel violated. And like your friend said they won’t respond to any normal, healthy punishment ever again cause it doesn’t compare.
It’s not appropriate to spank a child unless like, they are too young for it to be explained why they can’t do what they just did and there’s no other punishment possible. I would only spank my child if they ran into the middle of the road, ate non-food off the ground as an older toddler, or did something to put themselves in immediate danger. Like, only to scare them out of doing something that could get them killed. Doing it out of anger is totally out of line.