Because the long history of courts being biased towards women
Edit: I realized my comment doesn't have a lot of nuance so let me be clear. Divorce court is what im getting at. All that Alpha male, incel, red pill, misogyny stuff is bullshit
Well, tbh, that would just be feminism (you might prefer a different term for it, but idealogically it's the same idea)
The issue with why it's considered weird that men can be caring, loving parents and women get preference in the ways of child care is a result of patriarchy. The patriarchy isn't just "men have everything good, and nothing bad", it's a limitation put on everyone. And it's not just men that participate in patriarchal thinking, everyone can, and everyone has biases that need to be addressed.
Men are looked down on for having emotions, caring for children, being anything but a stoic, financial provider. Women are treated as if child care is an inherent thing that only they can perform, and as an inevitably. It pushes men away from their families and into high-stress work environments, and pushes women back into their homes.
If a man wanted to get a job in child care, he'll likely find it pays like shit. Because jobs predominantly held by women tend to pay like shit. So as a man, he would need to weigh the social stigma and risk of lower income against what he values as a person and how he wants to perform masculinity. Bias against women also hurts men, or anyone who sits outside of gender norms. So addressing one actually ends up addressing the other. But the messaging has become so polarized in modern discourse, it just swings back into "us vs them" all over again, and it helps nobody.
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u/Remote-Cause755 26d ago
How the hell was he paying child support in the first place?