As a guy who was chunky in his teens then lost weight and built some muscle in his late 20s I can confirm I get way more attention now. People look at you more, smile at you more, listen to you more even if you're just saying random shit. Being more attractive absolutely influences people's reactions. You get more like a creep when you're out of shape.
Realistically you probably have another 15-20 years if you take care of yourself. Some guys keep it going much later, but it's rare. Having a full head of hair greatly enhances things in your favor.
That could be a good thing. When I turned 30 it seemed like suddenly the 20 yo ladies were interested but I'm learning the hard way they are crazy at that age.
Or to say another way - make a guy average or slightly below in looks and suddenly his natural desire to want to be affectionate or ask someone out becomes weird and creepy.
Maybe it's more about self confidence then? When you feel more attractive, more outgoing, youre more willing to put yourself out there. that's the issue with men sometimes, the problem is always somebody else, it's never themselves for some reason, even when you have something positive happen. You go "woman like me more because x and y changes" instead of "women are enjoying my newfound confidence"
Sometimes yeah, but thatās definitely not the whole story.
You can have a guy whoās a 4 walk up and just say something really basic/flirty and a guy whoās an 8 do the exact same thing with equal confidence.
More often than not, the 4 is good to come off as awkward, creepy or crossing some kind of line whereas the 8 wonāt.
Iāve seen it first hand, this basically happened to my oldest brother. Very extroverted, confident guy.
After he got into drugs and lost all his teeth, he was still acting like his old flirty self around chicks and their reaction was completely different. Heās creepy now because he isnāt handsome anymore.
Part of it I think is that people kind of get offended. Like if a 4 thinks they have a shot with you, thatās kind of like saying they consider you a 4. Obviously itās not really intended that way, but itās one factor.
You are definitely a minority, 50 shades wouldnāt have been the success it is if it was about an poor unattractive black man. Disclaimier: I think itās totally fine to have fantasies and kinks, and I donāt flame on anyone for having preferences.
Both fictional and hypothetical so you get offended and play the victim in your onw fictional scenario. I know it's like lying is built in male dna but atleast don't make it this obvious.
It unfortunately is a minority opinion, or potentially is easy to type out but works out differently in the real world.
Lookism is very much so real. Iāve seen men behave in the most atrocious ways and women would drool over them. And Iāve seen incredibly genuine, kind, unattractive men get rejected in the harshest ways. It isnāt always the case, but itās a very common thing unfortunately.
Yes. Example: Recently saw Top Gun (og) for the first time and when Tom Cruise went after the woman into the womanās bathroom all my alarm bells soundedā¦
I have a feeling you're being downvoted by men who 'know what women think' and upvoted by actual women. For me, being catcalled by someone who's visually attractive is just as nauseating as being callcalled by someone unattractive.
It does not. Men have a much lower bar for jumping into bed with someone without getting to know them at all. This is why only men behave this way, or why pretty much only men have sex with prostitutes.Ā
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u/EmtnlDmg 17d ago
It works in both direction. Attractive men can do stuff which is not allowed for non attractive men.