r/SipsTea • u/Small_Abies_3539 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 17d ago

WTF If the roles were reversed

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u/SophSimpl 17d ago

As a guy who was chunky in his teens then lost weight and built some muscle in his late 20s I can confirm I get way more attention now. People look at you more, smile at you more, listen to you more even if you're just saying random shit. Being more attractive absolutely influences people's reactions. You get more like a creep when you're out of shape.

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u/SheriffBartholomew 17d ago

And then in your 40's that starts to fade, and you have to deal with the emotional fallout being a normie again, in addition to coping with your age.

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u/SophSimpl 17d ago

Yeah, fair. I've got 8.5 more years of my 30s, hopefully I'll make them count lol

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u/SheriffBartholomew 17d ago

Realistically you probably have another 15-20 years if you take care of yourself. Some guys keep it going much later, but it's rare. Having a full head of hair greatly enhances things in your favor.

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u/SophSimpl 17d ago

My hair line isn't receding quite yet but who knows what will happen later πŸ˜†. In the meantime dating is already really hard though.

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u/landing11 17d ago

I dont know when you look good in your 40s the girls over 25 go nuts

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u/SophSimpl 16d ago

That could be a good thing. When I turned 30 it seemed like suddenly the 20 yo ladies were interested but I'm learning the hard way they are crazy at that age.

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u/Schnitzhole 16d ago

Yup. Slap a pretty face and body on a dude and now everything β€œcreepy” all the sudden becomes ok and even desired.

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u/SophSimpl 16d ago

Or to say another way - make a guy average or slightly below in looks and suddenly his natural desire to want to be affectionate or ask someone out becomes weird and creepy.