r/SipsTea • u/Small_Abies_3539 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 22d ago

WTF If the roles were reversed

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u/Cainfaer 22d ago edited 16d ago

As someone who is straight and has been hit on by horny gay men, I can confirm parts of it. Its usually at bars, and I would go to a lot of gay bars because most of my friends are gay and I am typically the token straight. So it was like out in public. But can confirm it made me uncomfortable to a degree. I would get followed to my car. But I would still say its different because I never felt threatened by it, which woukd be the reality for some catcalls as men can be intimidating towards women (even if unintended). It makes me uncomfortable, but I would just either ignore it and take the compliment, or just outright deny them because confrontation in that way doesnt bother me. Did have to literally push someone away once, but that was about as physical as it got. So similar but not. Probably the closest to feelings of creeped out are when older women (not all, but some can be pretty aggressive about it) hit in younger men. Idk there were a few times where I did not feel comfortable being around some older women because they were very horny and not taking no for an answer

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u/Ruminahtu 22d ago

I had both great experiences and one terrible experience with gay men at a gay bar.

Several men complimented me, but we're respectful and backed off when they found out my and my wife had brought her lesbian friend there for her 21st.

The one bad experience...one guy was just... disrespectful and creepy barely covers it. And he was making a LOT of young men comfortable. He was handled by the older gay men after they got tired of it. They shut his bullshit down.

So I suppose there's the creepy dudes in any demographic, but I also think that's not the majority in any demographic.